Are you a coward for breaking up with someone over TEXT?

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OmNomaly · Accepted Answer

I think it's a detached way of breaking up. For some situations it might be better.
If someone was going to break up with me I would personally prefer a text or a phone call. Least you could do is give me a facetime or a phone call if you cared enough.
I've been broken up with over text and through the phone.. honestly come to think of it only 1 gal ever broke up with me face to face.
It was such an awkward experience because she had brought people over to visit and decided that was a good time to do it.
I just remember retreating and quietly going into my room and sobbing. I would've much preferred a letter or phone call in that situation. Opposed to having someone listen to me blubber like a balooga.

Variety_3-14 · Accepted Answer

There’s nothing wrong breaking up over text. I’ve always been dumped over text. I personally prefer a girl to dump me over text or phone call. Don’t waist my time and gas money just to meet and give bad news. Just text “we’re done”. It’s a lot faster and I appreciate all the girls who choose that.

The only way it’s cowardly is if you’re doing it because you don’t want to see the emotional breakdown of your partner or don’t want to give them closer if they ask why

thimmslicc · Accepted Answer

Yeah, he's pathetic.
I've been dumped by a dude that wanted materialistic things. Only the best of the best of qualities. Like he wanted only high quality food, no fast food. The best clothes, the best shoes. The best looking girlfriend in the room. (My dumb ass was the only girlfriend in the room of his friends. They're all married.)
Yet, he broke up with me through texts. Coward!

DanaeAdam5 · Accepted Answer

It depends.

Did this person cheat on you/abused you in any sort of way or said/did something truly awful? Then no you are definitely not a coward to do so

In most cases through breaking up over text with someone is a cold hearted thing to do.

Citizenkirk · Answer

The dreaded electronic Dear John letter, the breakup text, makes evasively shady, yellow belly, 💩y ass excuses for human beings, even less accountable for the pain and misery they inflict on their unsuspecting victims in the duck and run approach too terminating a relationship.
I'm still undecided weather it's as bad as simply disappearing from someone's life without any indication that they're still alive and not being sold on the international sex slave market to be groomed for their audition as snuff film starlets.
I think that anytime someone doesn't have enough respect for people to talk to them face-to-face, and tell them what's up, is definitely dishonest and Shady, and Shifty. This applies not only to relationship breakups but also termination of employment breakups where a person is actually hired fire you because your boss is too chicken poop too do it face-to-face, with a security guard behind you menacingly, with a nightstickin hand, making sure you don't cause any trouble while clearing out your desk.
A friend of mine, who was put in that situation when Kmart what Belly Up (the old one, not the new one) my friend called me on the phone, hysterical and crying, that she's being threatened by an asshole rent a cop, threateningly slapping a baton in his hand.
I gave him the option of giving her some space, or being sodomized with that baton. I returned his property too him when we left, in two pieces instead of one. They called the police. I was fine with that, since several of them were drinking buddies of mine. That company screwed everyone in the end, especially their stock holders.
No matter what the relationship scenario, whether it be work, dating, family, friends, whatever, it's disrespectful too bitch out on them like that, to end a relationship with no warning, no explanation, and no class.

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, unless there is a realistic threat of violence or false accusations of rape or violence may be made because the other person is mentally ill. Also, someone who has been the victim of violence or abusive behavior should break up via text.

ohshee · Answer

I could think of better word s. But they don't even matter ,, because its the best thing that could happen to the girl you just did it to. Because you just showed her who you really are and she's thanking God for it to happen now in stead of the first time he had to stand up for her because she would have to do it her self lmao

martinxdenver · Answer

Sometimes stressing yourself driving or get on a bus or train to go see someone you want to break up with is just a waste of money and time... social media has made it easy. What is true cowardice is when your not able to follow through with it cause you feel she won't talk to you anymore or you really dont mean it but your using it as a sort of ultimatum then she agree to the breakup and you start begging her to come back... that's a bitch move.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I would say so. Break up in person to get those emotions out and to see the other's reaction and pain. Doing it the other way around is disrespectful and just shows how little you viewed them overall.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Things ended between my ex and I over text simply because he can't have conversations face to face. Anything that's not of superficial value is too much for him.
So he rather text.
So when he used to complain about my essays I used to say "and what do you prefer I do?"
I don't know nor care anymore what his problem was".
It was boring having a relationship with a phone.

QueenP · Answer

Yes.. My ex dumped me over text 8 months ago and stopped talking to me. i still have no clue why he broke up with me and i will probably never know why..

MecheD · Answer

Yes, but with the exception of that person you are breaking up with us abusive towards you. Fact is it’s tough period so to make it better offer then the closure of a physical appearance and an explanation as far as why. Doing it through texts leaves so much out like empathy, and sincerity.

NarutoUzumaki007 · Answer

depends on the length of the relationship and the reason for breaking up

if it's just a short term thing ( like just weeks or 1-2 month of dating) , text breakup sounds cool
if it's a 4 year relationship , breaking up over text is a coward move

if the reason for breaking up is the other person cheated or something like that , text breakup is what they deserve

it just depends on the nature of your relationship

sheikalana · Answer

Yes, it is. If you lose interest in someone at least respect them enough to have that conversation in person.

Luna1998 · Answer

No, i would like to talk about it face to face with reasons. But if it happen to be online then i guess i would need video or voice call at least

douride2 · Answer

Breaking up over text has got to be the worst. A person would have to be pretty low to do such a thing.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

I don't know if "coward" is the right term. Sometimes you just want to have your decision respected, instead of getting yelled at or having to face cries and begging. It's not being scared of something, it's not wanting to take that shit. I guess it's semantics, as what I've described could indeed be referred to as cowerdice.

abby172020 · Answer

well i think that the best way would always be in person but i also think that it is your choice and no it is not being a coward but also do not listen to people who say you are a coward for breaking up through text because you are not.

MrJMM · Answer

The last time I broke up with someone I posted a vid of my ex sucking off my friends and my teacher's dicks on the school website for being a complete school whore. I will break up over text because then I would technically never be the person again in my life so... I might as well do it without hesitation.

prince360 · Answer

I never thought so... it isn't the medium, it is the entirety, or the truth, of the explanation.
When people say 'by text' it means being a prick, not having or showing any empathy, not looking out for the person you are leaving - treating them like they are disposable.
You can do that in person as well - show up, say 'we're done' (or worse) and abruptly leave, no further conversations.

Angieeebabieee · Answer

Unless this person is abusive then breaking up through text is a cowards way or a lazy person's way out. Texting is a nice convenience but I always prefer face to face communication.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Maybe, but if you're going around dating cowards in the first place and then the coward breaks up with you first, what have you got to be haughty about, chickenhead?

Agape93 · Answer

Possibly but I think it depends. If you don’t want to be indiscreet with them while they’re out and about, or if you fear for your safety, then it’s not cowardly.

lordskull69 · Answer

If have to say yep... your afraid of her or you simply can not deal with the pain your about to inflict on this person.

ShyKI · Answer

Honestly, it doesn't make you a coward. It's just rude. I'm sure most people who do it aren't scared, they just don't give a fuck. 😬

Kiss_Me · Answer

Yes. Do I really need to explain why? Find a guy with strong character. At least he will break up with you in person.

Chill_Meta · Answer

No never... Especially, if you know there will be a problem if you break up with them in person

msc545 · Answer

Very much a coward unless you are worried about physical abuse.

TessCasie · Answer

If it’s long distance we’ll then fine  otherwise I don’t think so unless you feel when you break up they might hurt you physically on the spot.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

No. I just find it easier so I don't have to sugarcoat shit with speaking.

DavidDong · Answer

A little, it's fine if it was clear and has been going on for ages and clear that neither want to be involved with the other

shenzie · Answer

Yes, it is the worst breaking up on text, I feel like if you wanted to break up just talk to each other and make the decision, then again do what feels right for you.

testersite00 · Answer

yes! that is such an asshole move!

Molly37 · Answer

Yes, too many coward out there. I never had it personally happen to me and I would never to it to another person. We as human beings deserve more. people have lost kindness

Kabluie · Answer

Yes, you can even still have a last phone call if they were abusive

Anonymous · Answer

I don't see why it matters that much. Yeah it's shittier but y'all are braking up so why waste more of your time w getting ready being there and getting home

CassieCape · Answer

If it's okay to ask someone out by text , it should be okay to break up by text. 😂😂

blondfrog · Answer

No cause you never know how that person might react. They might attack you violently.

Synikal · Answer

If it is fresh, doesn't have much meaning/mutual on both ends, reaching that point anyways, starting out with 2 red flags... No it is not wrong to do so. Outside of those, maybe not depending.

Guanfei · Answer

Yes you are. Unless there is something that physically prevent you from doing it in person, then you are.

Eleni079 · Answer

Yes and no yes cause you can’t face them. No if you can’t find them.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess there's no good way to break up.  Is it necessary to fix an appointment to break up? Is it better to make the other person come and meet you to break his/her heart? I'm not that sure...

Anonymous · Answer

Unless they're harassing you and fear for your safety, or you barely knew them, yes That's a question for 5 y. olds 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Coward or pragmatist, depending on your values.

Mehzmeh · Answer

Yes. That's being a coward. No questions asked.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

No its more when you don't care for the person

RawIronhide · Answer

Kinda man, face up and do it in person at least.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

Only if you’ve been dating for more than 4 years.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes You're also a coward if you delete comments you don't like Timothy

Sweetener_ · Answer

Absolutely

WowwGirl · Answer

Nope puss move reguardless

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I would never do that. Its just awful

Wise4myage · Answer

That's a very cowardly way to break up.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes they are

Janessa2021 · Answer

Not if they cheated or treated u like shit😂

007kingifrit · Answer

yea no doubt. that's the wrong thing to do

Agem123 · Answer

Oh no, I'd never do that.

OddBeMe · Answer

Probably but I’m not against it.

KnightKissedbyFire · Answer

Absolutely

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Not necessarily.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Yuppp

Tami2543 · Answer

No I don't think so

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

Yes! It is cowardly!

JosyJosy · Answer

I'd think so yeah

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