Would you attend your ex's funeral?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[tiff_the_tranny]

I wouldn't because attending the funeral is to respect for the family. All of those families hate me, either for being trans (in the case of the families of the women) or because they wanted their sons to date a "real" woman or, in one case, because I tried to show her she could have a better life than suckling at the government teat.

Attending those funerals wouldn't bring me closure because I would be too busy fighting with the families, and my very presence there would be a slap in the face to those families.

Now with a future ex, if we have kids together or I form a bond with kids from before our relationship I will go out of support for the kids, but right now I wouldn't attend the funeral of an ex.

[Anonymous]

I did attend my ex's funeral. He had gone on a solo vacation out of the country, and ended up drowning (he couldn't swim). We'd started out as friends in high school, then started dating towards the end and through to college before we broke up and it was amicable. I didn't know at the time we started dating, but my aunt was his mom's college roommate. I went out of respect. We never stopped being friends afterwards, and he was my best friends husbands, best friend so I saw him a lot and it was a hard funeral attend because we'd all grown up together and he'd died so young. All our high school friends were in attendance. As I tell people---you go to remember the good times with the person in this moments that you liked or loved them. If they treated you like dirt and ruined your life, then don't go, and that's okay, but if things were amicable and they were a good person when you knew them, then go and say your goodbyes.

[oldasIfeel22]

Depends on which one. But seeing her family there (who hates me) would be weird. I wouldn’t go if she was married before she passed away.

I’m also noticing a larger percentage of women saying no on this one. Women are usually nastier towards exes.

[Sarahr123]

Why do they hate you - did you cheat on her?

[oldasIfeel22]

@Sarahr123 I did not cheat. Of all the relationships I’ve had go sour there is only one where I know the failure responsibility. I just acted disconnected and didn’t put in the effort she put in. I owned up to that.

But I got a bad gut feeling she cheated on me a week before we split.

[Sarahr123]

I can understand that. The one you are owning responsibility for sounds like my current situation. I never want to see or talk to him these days. Most of the effort is on his part now. He complains and I try to sort things but we’ve grown so far apart it is hard.

I don’t really understand why your ex’s family hate you. Perhaps she told them things about you or maybe they wanted her to be stable.

My current relationship is my only relationship since I was fifteen. My heart is just not in it but I would never cheat. I still care about him but we’re just so different that everytime he says something it causes me to roll my eyes. He is an orthodox Muslim whereas I am an agnostic. We just clash so much these last few years.

[oldasIfeel22]

@Sarahr123 you got to be tactfully honest with him. Start off with this “I am being honest with you out of RESPECT”. It’s very important to men to feel respected (western society often encourages women to disrespect men because of bs modern feminism).

Anyway tell him you have been loyal to him but you don’t see it working out. Tell him you are NOT leaving him for someone else. Tell him that you would like to be friends but if he wants to go on his way you will completely understand. Again do not in anyway be confident that he will be okay with ongoing non romantic “friendship”. That’s very insulting to men. But say you will understand if you never her from Jin again. But ask to please respect your wishes.

He’s going to be hurt. He might try to plead with you, get angry and maybe even cry. But if he handles it very immaturely it means you made the right decision.

I broke up with my last ex (different one) and she went absolutely ballistic for 2 hours (making a scene publicly) and then threatened suicide. It got so bad her grandma had to call the cops and she was taken in for psych evaluation.

As painful as that was I know I did the right thing. Also her reaction to that also proved i made the right decision.

[oldasIfeel22]

But yeah from what you described above I wouldn’t continue this much longer. It’s not fair to him and not fair to you. He probably things will change if you two get married. But if that happened things could go from bad to worse.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't wish for any of them to die, but there is one in particular, if it happens to her. . .

Yes, I would attend, just to make sure she actually got buried.

[Finchie40]

LMFAO

[oldasIfeel22]

😆😆😆😆😆

[OlderAndWiser]

@oldasIfeel22 "Return to Hell, demon!"

[Paris13]

And Prepare it and pay for it. I am his Beneficiary and Lifetime family and Friend to the End. xx

[jerdanro]

My ex-wife and I are like that too. Best friends and family.

[Paris13]

@jerdanro And Business partners. xx

[ArrowheadSW]

There is one ex, whose funeral I would hypothetically attend. We split up years ago but remained friends. She is much older than me and she developed some major medical issues in the last few years. She moved out of the area to be taken care of by her oldest son. If she passes on in the next few years odds are I will attend her funeral.

[Finchie40]

No I wouldn’t attend , , especially if I was in a relationship with someone else , out of respect for my current partner or even being single their would be no reason for my presence , out of
Respect for her current partner if she had one , but no matter what , be no reason for me to be there , out of respect.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

If I knew about it and was sure no one would have a problem with me being there, yes. I don't want to intrude on a personal family things, especially since I never met his family, but I would want to pay my respects. Maybe I would just go for the burial and avoid the wake

[LeoElias]

If I wasn't invited, no I wouldn't. Maybe I would check up on the status online and read about stuff that happened like the mom's Facebook page. But if I was invited I guess I would go. Not because I want to but because I'm now being expected to go. I would feel bad that she's dead you know I wouldn't wish death on anyone I'm not crazy. But I wouldn't feel love and loss. I wouldn't feel anything I would just be there.

[SaoirseS]

Don’t have an ex-husband but I have an ex-boyfriend. If he’s still in the area when he passes, there’s a 50-50 chance I’ll be handling the funeral arrangements.

[Alyssa11]

Depends on which ex... the first two I had, no. The last one, yes. Just cause we got engaged and there was genuine love.

[WalkingBassist]

I have attended an ex girlfriend's funeral. My ex wife is still alive, but I'll be at hers as well.

[Anonymous]

I don't know any ex whose funeral I would care to go to unless I really hate them and want to make sure they are truly dead before I pop champagne later.

[libsaretards]

Depends on which ex. My first one yes I would. My last one no. If I did attend her funeral it would be to do whatever disrespectful thing I could as I hate her and her family.

[Alexandrubaschet08]

Me when i hear the news and at the ceremony of that bitch.

[C3397]

I think I would attend my baby daddy's funeral because we have 2 kids together.

[cth96190]

I would, but the mourners might not be pleased when I put a clove of garlic in her mouth and hammered a wooden stake through her heart. 🤣

[pleasestopthis]

We didn't part in a friendly way, too much resentment was going on there. I would not attend for respect towards his family and I would also spin in my grave if he attended to mine

[karaspara]

Depends which one father of my children yes i would

[theclovergirl]

No. He wasn’t in my life while he was living. Made no effort to patch the damage. I wouldn’t be there for him when he’s gone.

[Crazyb33]

It depends how long we were together for but most likely

[msbrightness]

I wouldn't want them dead. No one I dated.
Never dated anyone I didn't think was a good/decent human being, first of all.

[zagor]

I went to my old boss's funeral, even though he fired me, so I guess I would.

I considered him a friend, even though he fired me. It was for my own good.

[JEndigoBleue]

Yes, I liked or loved them at a time in my life. No matter how we ended.

[pigoat]

Depends where and how we leave off

Also how deep is our history