Would you attend your ex's funeral?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I did attend my ex's funeral. He had gone on a solo vacation out of the country, and ended up drowning (he couldn't swim). We'd started out as friends in high school, then started dating towards the end and through to college before we broke up and it was amicable. I didn't know at the time we started dating, but my aunt was his mom's college roommate. I went out of respect. We never stopped being friends afterwards, and he was my best friends husbands, best friend so I saw him a lot and it was a hard funeral attend because we'd all grown up together and he'd died so young. All our high school friends were in attendance. As I tell people---you go to remember the good times with the person in this moments that you liked or loved them. If they treated you like dirt and ruined your life, then don't go, and that's okay, but if things were amicable and they were a good person when you knew them, then go and say your goodbyes.

tiff_the_tranny · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't because attending the funeral is to respect for the family. All of those families hate me, either for being trans (in the case of the families of the women) or because they wanted their sons to date a "real" woman or, in one case, because I tried to show her she could have a better life than suckling at the government teat.

Attending those funerals wouldn't bring me closure because I would be too busy fighting with the families, and my very presence there would be a slap in the face to those families.

Now with a future ex, if we have kids together or I form a bond with kids from before our relationship I will go out of support for the kids, but right now I wouldn't attend the funeral of an ex.

oldasIfeel22 · Accepted Answer

Depends on which one. But seeing her family there (who hates me) would be weird. I wouldn’t go if she was married before she passed away.

I’m also noticing a larger percentage of women saying no on this one. Women are usually nastier towards exes.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I don't wish for any of them to die, but there is one in particular, if it happens to her. . . Yes, I would attend, just to make sure she actually got buried.

Paris13 · Answer

And Prepare it and pay for it. I am his Beneficiary and Lifetime family and Friend to the End. xx

ArrowheadSW · Answer

There is one ex, whose funeral I would hypothetically attend. We split up years ago but remained friends. She is much older than me and she developed some major medical issues in the last few years. She moved out of the area to be taken care of by her oldest son. If she passes on in the next few years odds are I will attend her funeral.

Finchie40 · Answer

No I wouldn’t attend , , especially if I was in a relationship with someone else , out of respect for my current partner or even being single their would be no reason for my presence , out of
Respect for her current partner if she had one , but no matter what , be no reason for me to be there , out of respect.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

If I knew about it and was sure no one would have a problem with me being there, yes. I don't want to intrude on a personal family things, especially since I never met his family, but I would want to pay my respects. Maybe I would just go for the burial and avoid the wake

LeoElias · Answer

If I wasn't invited, no I wouldn't. Maybe I would check up on the status online and read about stuff that happened like the mom's Facebook page. But if I was invited I guess I would go. Not because I want to but because I'm now being expected to go. I would feel bad that she's dead you know I wouldn't wish death on anyone I'm not crazy. But I wouldn't feel love and loss. I wouldn't feel anything I would just be there.

SaoirseS · Answer

Don’t have an ex-husband but I have an ex-boyfriend. If he’s still in the area when he passes, there’s a 50-50 chance I’ll be handling the funeral arrangements.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Depends on which ex... the first two I had, no. The last one, yes. Just cause we got engaged and there was genuine love.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know any ex whose funeral I would care to go to unless I really hate them and want to make sure they are truly dead before I pop champagne later.

libsaretards · Answer

Depends on which ex. My first one yes I would. My last one no. If I did attend her funeral it would be to do whatever disrespectful thing I could as I hate her and her family.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

Me when i hear the news and at the ceremony of that bitch.

C3397 · Answer

I think I would attend my baby daddy's funeral because we have 2 kids together.

cth96190 · Answer

I would, but the mourners might not be pleased when I put a clove of garlic in her mouth and hammered a wooden stake through her heart. 🤣

pleasestopthis · Answer

We didn't part in a friendly way, too much resentment was going on there. I would not attend for respect towards his family and I would also spin in my grave if he attended to mine

taeh_ie2 · Answer

I would, even tho through everything it wouldn’t hurt to forgive and wish them peace in heaven

karaspara · Answer

Depends which one father of my children yes i would

theclovergirl · Answer

No. He wasn’t in my life while he was living. Made no effort to patch the damage. I wouldn’t be there for him when he’s gone.

Crazyb33 · Answer

It depends how long we were together for but most likely

msbrightness · Answer

I wouldn't want them dead. No one I dated. Never dated anyone I didn't think was a good/decent human being, first of all.

zagor · Answer

I went to my old boss's funeral, even though he fired me, so I guess I would. I considered him a friend, even though he fired me. It was for my own good.

JEndigoBleue · Answer

Yes, I liked or loved them at a time in my life. No matter how we ended.

pigoat · Answer

Depends where and how we leave off Also how deep is our history

Anonymous · Answer

NOOOOOOOOO I wouldn't as my recent exGF had mental health issues, a drinking problem as well as being very possessive and controlling!  She wouldn't deserve my presence at her funeral!

pervertedjester · Answer

I was under the impression that one should never return to the scene of the "crime."

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I said no, but actually if i split from my OH i'd probably go to hers to support my kids.

Anonymous · Answer

I doubt that they would let me out of prison to attend the funeral of the women that I bludgeoned and then chopped up into tiny pieces in the most brutal vivisectionist crimes of the century

JustMe62 · Answer

My marriage with my ex was a Hugh mistake and we parted on not good term. She pulled a lot of crap on me... So no, I would not attend her funeral. I wouldn't even think about it at all.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No. I've moved on with my life and it would serve me no purpose to take part in that

AdithyaR · Answer

Might not be a good idea. Too many conflicting feelings there.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

As I have a child with her I would be obliged to do so, otherwise nope.

Nazgol · Answer

Yeah I would. I think noone would be that cruel to not to, no matter how much they despise them. Unless there's a really good reason to

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Probably not but if I did it would only be to laugh at her. She’s probably going to become an alcoholic. Can’t wait to hear that she’s dead though.

DWornock · Answer

Don't they often have your children and your children would be attending and expect you to attend?

jaclyndavis · Answer

Nah cause I wouldn't wanna see how many hoes the hoe was with

Arumin_Ian · Answer

Yes I guess. We ended on good terms. We don't talk anymore but we have respect for each other still

TheEbonyEnchantress · Answer

Never in a million years. Coz i wouldn't even want him at my own damn funeral

TimlovesKristine · Answer

I wouldn’t go as much as I cared about her she didn’t want me. I would probably visit the gravesite afterward though

EaterPeter · Answer

May be not. If my fears fobias kicks in. I would not want to see once loved one buried or cremated.

Joshua0213 · Answer

I wouldn't just go but if her parents asked if I'd like to then I probably would to be nice

Marioz86 · Answer

I would not an ex is an ex for a reason. Especially if you broke years ago.

Synikal · Answer

I wish no harm upon any of them. But I don't want to be around them in life or death either

kevyhanma · Answer

I made a promise that I’m gonna keep hint:🍑💩⚰️😈🤣

exitseven · Answer

I would want to make sure she was really dead.

Purplemonkey242 · Answer

I probably would. Were still cool

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Would all depend which ex

emilym12345 · Answer

My ex was an abusive asshole

Dargil · Answer

Mother of my child, yes. Otherwise, no.

AzzaBlue · Answer

Do you mean to celebrate?

SlightlyEccentric · Answer

If I did it would only be out of pity

Andres77 · Answer

Depends on the ex. Some yes, some no.

_no_one_ · Answer

Yes ofc, a part of me liked them so.

Guido · Answer

Sure. It's a party worth celebrating.

Iron_Man · Answer

Let’s keep things positive and upbeat please

RingOfFire · Answer

Only if I was invited.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Yeah to make sure he's dead

crazy8000 · Answer

Depends on a lot of thing's.

Mangospacho · Answer

I would give her eulogy too.

Wiredone · Answer

If we were still on good terms yes

Guardian45 · Answer

I did this on May 13th.

BigManSAB · Answer

She made a death threat on my sister

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

I have in the past attended an ex's funeral.

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