What the hell do I do?

[lorenzomichael]

I've been my wife for 4 years she's an attorney and I'm a ironworker She tells me her firm hired a new paralegal for her this was three months ago. So we finally met at a office party at a local bar & grill the other night. Turns out her paralegal is ex-girlfriend. who apparently still has feelings. My wife doesn't know that night was awkward and it still kinda is. Do I tell my wife? And what do I say? This kinda shit can turn UGLY as hell.

[BlackBeauty90]

@lorenzomichael yes not saying anything is brilliant. And why would it turn ugly unless you got a boner at the sight of your ex? Or you two started screwing around at the first chance?

Use your brain. If you hired someone that was your wife's ex wouldn't you want to know? Unless the paralegal is outstanding she'll very likely be let go

[lorenzomichael]

I didn't look at it like that but that makes sense. She still don't know and Halloween is coming up.

[On_cloud_wine]

The longer you go without telling her, the more her trust in you fades away. The truth is out there and it always finds it’s way back to haunt you

[On_cloud_wine]

Your ex might have to find a new job, but it is what it is

[ChrisMaster69]

Just be open and honest, she will have more respect you telling her up front, than your ex telling her one day at the coffee machine,..

you are already burning your trust

[OlderAndWiser]

Well, if you keep it a secret and she eventually learns what the situation is, how is that going to look?

[lorenzomichael]

Yeah but she may never know.

[On_cloud_wine]

My friends ex boyfriend found out about her randevou with his best friend when they were on a break a decade later when he was about to propose. She lost him and all their mutual friends, just because she kept it a secret all that time. Go ahead, take your chance.

[On_cloud_wine]

I don’t know how anyone could live a lie and really love the person

[On_cloud_wine]

Lying, cheating, sneaking, and secrets don’t win me over. It makes me look at you differently when I find out later from someone else.

[On_cloud_wine]

I understand we’re all human and make mistakes but it’s not like you did anything wrong. So if she can’t fathom the truth, maybe she’s not for you.

[Browneye57]

YOUR ex girlfriend? Just laugh it off.
"You know your para is my ex?" You can both have a laugh.

Don't lose sight of who you're MARRIED to. And neither will she.

[lorenzomichael]

Your right brother its just awkward as hell.

[CantGetItUp]

Who cares as long as you’re not messing around with her you’ll be fine.

[lorenzomichael]

Are you kidding me when i was fooling around with her she turned me on to some wild shit.

[Yaharro]

Do nothing

[lorenzomichael]

I think you rite dawg. Don't say shit.