What am I supposed to do?

[Anonymous]

I don't like my ex boyfriend, I feel no emotional connection with him. I really wanna like him, but I can't. So I broke up with him. But he still insists on getting back together. He tells me how much he wants to be with me, how much he loves me, asks me everyday to go out with me, wants to meet my parents, wants to go on summer vacations together, and finally told me he wants us to get engaged. I really think he is a very guy, and I truly wanna be with him if only I had feelings for him. What should I do? Should I give it another try?

[BasedBaeBecca]

It sounds like you really care about this guy, just don't feel a "spark" with him.

In this situation, you need to make a decision about whether you should give it another try. If you truly have no feelings for the guy, then it's best to let him go and give him a chance to be with someone he can actually have a future with.

You don't want to waste either of your times in a relationship where you don't feel any feelings for him. It's best to let him go and move on to the next thing.

[Asker]

Thank you! I don't want to start a relationship I know I am going to end like I did it!

[Anonymous]

You don't have feelings and what ended it ended your feelings just tell him you don't love him that ended you don't have caring feelings for him!

You need those to marry and stay married or divorce is like 6 months in!

Really you will grow to quickly hate him and any sex.

[Asker]

I have told him I don't love him. He keeps saying that I have to try to love him. My friends say feelings don't matter and that if the guy is a nice one who can provide for himself and our future family then that's all that matters. While he thinks that my feelings will change, that I will grow to love him. I don't really think so. Ugh!!!

[Opinion Owner]

No one grows to love someone like that!
All they do is have an open marriage and your friends are wrong he will just use that money as an excuse to abuse you!

Get a good job don't need no ex 😉

[Asker]

I have a job lol, don't need his money. The thing is : everyone thinks that as long as we can fit in with each other, eventually I will grow to love him. But I'm afraid that might never happen. And it would be a huge waste of time. Some people do open marriages in such cases. I'd rather leave than cheat on him. I still am not sure what to do... is it worth trying it again?

[Opinion Owner]

No not worth trying again you broke up for a reason and it is clear you two don't mesh as well as every one thinks!

[Asker]

Alright thank you!!!

[Opinion Owner]

Welcome cause I was in this situation and so glad I said no!
My ex rapped his wife and abused her using money and had so many affairs!

[Asker]

Oh that's awful!! You did the right thing! 😊

[Opinion Owner]

And you are two not marrying comeone you have no feelings for! Bet the sex would have been so bad soon

[Asker]

The sex has always been good. My problem was that the relationship became a burden. I felt that I did everyrhing because I had to not because I wanted to.

[Opinion Owner]

Then yes run it will get to where he will be so lazy

[Asker]

Lazy for what?

[Opinion Owner]

Do anything like chores and make you do all the relationship work

[Asker]

The only reason I wanna give another try is because he seems very into me, and dedicated, and I think I might never find someone that into me. I feel like I will regret this.

[Anonymous]

No, its over and giving him a second chance will just prolong things. Block him and move on.