Would you help your ex if they needed your help if you know that you're the only one who could help him or her?

[Starwitch23]

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Seems like guys are more willing to help their exes out than the pink users here.

[SLRK3]

Yes, I use to do that with my ex husband all the time. Even when it came to girls. It use to kill me but I did it because I loved him. No mate what the cause was I did it because I have a heart. I am not a cold hearted soulless bitch. We had our problems and even with my other exes, we have had our issues, but that doesn't mean that I want the less for them. I want them to not succeed. If they need me for any reason they can cause them to do better in life, I would be there to support them and help them out as I can. 🤗

[TacosRAwesome]

I don't have any skillset that others don't have and if I did well they can pay up like everyone else.

[yofuknutz]

And that's why your the master. Hey now!

[crazysassypaws21]

you are my hero!!

[Anonymous]

I did this already before. After I helped (literally sent her money for my rent and food), she blocked me on everything so she wouldn't have to honour the promise to pay me back before I needed the cash. This was a very unpleasant lesson in how some people take advantage of kindness.

If she spontaneously appeared looking for help again. I would laugh at her as I said no.

[Starwitch23]

Sorry, you had to go through that. Some people are arsehole.

[humpbackjack]

Sure why not? Why can’t a person get along with there ex? I mean you had to think they were a descent enough person to get into a relationship with them so they should make a descent friend. You just need to think of it like this. Not every relationship is meant to be so you shouldn’t hold a grudge over whatever split you guys up. So of course I’d help

[KaylaD24]

Obviously not all relationships end in a good way some breakups get pretty ugly and you can no longer get on with them ones revolving around children are usually the worst ones but for the most part i agree with you

[LisaRaven]

Of course it's OK to get along with an ex. If you have a "I like you but just not as more than friends like I thought" break up it's all good. I agree with @KaylaD24 though, if it a break up like my last ex where I caught him making a with another girl and when I said it was over he said "oh well, only reason I ever gave you the time of day is I wanted to get some. And you never let me anyhow," that is when getting along will never happen.

[humpbackjack]

Yeah I had only one real girlfriend before my wife the rest were basically friends with benefits and they knew what the deal was from the start so they didn’t have a reason to trip and if they did I just disappeared for a minute and they usually mellowed out but my one girlfriend it was a bad breakup she fucked everyone I knew and everyone she could get her hands on but a few months after our breakup we were cool again not dating just friends I was done with giving my heart to another girl after being clowned with the first one until I met my wife about 5 years later so I don’t have a lot of experience with ex’s but it did take maneuvering to juggle as many women as I did and be honest from the start with all of them and stay friends with all of them since a lot of them knew each other but really I think not as many women turn so stupid like a lot of men can when it comes to breakups so I’d say I can understand not helping an ex under certain circumstances but I can’t think of any of the chicks that I slept with that I wouldn’t help if they were in a situation like the question and yes I know I was somewhat of a jerk when I was young but I didn’t play them and I used protection

[Pinay_ako]

I don’t hold grudge unless you owe me a lot of money. Lol. But if my ex ever needs my help, who am I to say no? I loved that person once upon a time

[LisaRaven]

My first ex , yes, without a second thought. We mainly parted because he had to move.

The other one after him, no. He made it clear when dumped him for cheating on me that he didn't like me for anything other than what was between my legs and I wasn't letting him have that fast enough so he was trying to get it from another girl while still trying to stay with me too hoping one of us would let him.

Of course she dumped him too without him getting either of us when it all came out. Me and he a friends now ironically.

[LisaRaven]

Meant me and her are friends now. Typos and autocorrect.

[ZackBan]

It's a pretty short list if at all a list when it comes to things "only I can help with"

Like seriously what's something other people cannot do. (All I can think about is moving a body we burried in the garden)

So if only I can help I would because that's the decent thing to do.
Not to mention that as of now all my exes ended things on good terms with me

[qwert1234]

If any of my ex asks for my help - I would try to help them if I can, even the one who cheated on me. Ofcourse, it still depends on the help needed.

Example: if one is trying to borrow $5000 and I know for a fact that she cannot afford to pay it back, I'll negotiate on a lower value that I am prepared to lose.

For me, it's not showing them like "haha look who is back?". For me it's just the human way to do it.

[libsaretards]

Depends on how bad the need is. As a Christian I will ALWAYS help someone where I can if the need is great enough and if I have the means to help. This would even apply to my worst enemy. However, it better be a real need and I will NOT do it if it hurts anything I have going on in life.

[FilmGuy93]

Of course I would. Just because she and I aren't dating doesn't mean I don't care about her and wish her well. That being said, there's definitely some animosity there, so I'd prefer that we didn't interact. I wish her nothing but happiness, but I wish it from afar.

[Anonymous]

If we are still friends I'd always help where I can. If we did not stay friends it would really matter what it is. If it is something only I could help with I can only come up with situations where it would be using me, there should really be someone else in his life that can help him.

[backblueblack22]

Depends on who broke with who. Depends if there is an understanding that “helping” doesn’t mean getting back together. Depends on what they need help for.

Personally I have never had an ex treat me respectfully after a break up. Ever. Whether it it was her idea or my idea to split i was usually treated lower than pond scum. They wouldn’t hold my hand to keep me from falling off a cliff.

[Passion_Devil]

If I am able to I think I would. But one ex was trouble. If THAT guy came for help, I want him crawling on the floor, on his knees, begging. In front of my boyfriend. If he really needs the help, on his knees he goes

[yofuknutz]

There U go!

[Anonymous]

I hold no Ill will towards any of my exes, most of them I'm still friends with. This may be because we have a discussion about how to properly and respectfully break up with someone early on in the relationship... We always agree that most relationships don't succeed and while we hope it does, we want to remain friend if it doesn't... as a result, I'd bend over backwards for any of them.

[altgirl14]

I would! Unless it was something like really bad why we broke up or something
I just try to be a nice person
Even if I never smile in person haha

[Prezzi3]

I would help my ex because even though we are not romantically or platonically involved, I still care about/ respect them as a person.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah I get on well with my ex wife and we help each other out.

same wiry couple ex gf’s

dont matter who they are if you can help

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Yes. I have no hard feelings for my ex. We just weren't right as a couple, but he's not a bad guy. I'd help him if he needed it and it was something I could do

[MysticDevice]

Depends on the ex and depends on the situation. If we parted on good terms then yeah I probably would.

If we parted on bad terms and she needed help for a situation she brought on herself? Ha! Nope. Sorry not sorry lol.

[EmmaMary]

Naturally I would consider it, however it would all depend on circumstances involved.

[nice-girl]

I voted "for results". I would help them after first consulting my current partner and if they agreed. And if I was single.

[NathanDavis]

of course... I will always try my best to help my friends... which is what they are, nowadays... friends rather than exes

[Janessa2021]

Fuck no cuz when I was the only one that helped him he treated me like shit, disrespected me , threatened me , lied constantly and stole from me so fuck that bitch and person that raised him. He most definitely on his own.

[anniisa97]

Only if its a life-or-death situation, I'm not getting involved in any criminal stuff for anyone.