If you truly cared about someone when you were with them, should you be obligated to help them if they are an ex but desperately need it?

[Anonymous]

My ex is very, very well off. He has a high paying job, has been working since he finished high school, has a lot of investments.

We broke up about a year ago due to some disagreements about money.

In any case, I'm in serious financial issues right now - I'm going to be evicted if I can't come up with rent money and they're also about to repossess my car.

I reached out to him, for even just a loan to get me by, and he refuses to help me.

I tried to tell him that if I ever meant anything to him once, he would help me, and he won't even reply.

Do you agree that if you truly ever cared for someone, and you can afford it, you should try and help them in desperate times? My friends are split on the issue, but he just bluntly tells me "No, stop asking me for money", but I"m desperate

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1 mo

I think youall are wrong, the guy is literally a millionaire and can afford it easily

[LonerInLife]

He is your ex. An ex that you yourself have said broke up a year ago. He has no obligations to help you with anything. It’s not his fault you are in the situation you are right now. He doesn’t owe you anything.

[LonerInLife]

So what if he is a millionaire. He doesn’t owe you anything and he certainly has no obligations to give you anything. You got yourself in the financial situation you are, it’s up to you to find a way out of it instead of expecting others to do the work for you

[Peridot25]

It’s not his problem. He has every right to say no because that’s HIS money. And you saying that about him seems like he made a good choice by breaking up with you.
So you either find a way to make your OWN money or suffer.

[Peridot25]

Still not his problem 🤷‍♀️

[admles]

LOL, aboslutely not!

An ex is an ex, they're essentially dead to me, I wouldn't help any ex unless I had children with her, and then it would only be what was legally mandated.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, the tangled webs of love and finance! It's like trying to salsa with two left feet—complicated, right? Love and caring, much like a good mystery novel, evolve over time and sometimes, so does the responsibility we feel towards each other. Think of it this way: when you're in a relationship, there's this unspoken agreement to support and uplift each other, but once you part ways, the terms and conditions may change. It's like going from a romantic duet to solo performances. 🎭

Now, on the topic of your ex and his Scrooge McDuck swimming pool of wealth—just because someone *can* help, doesn't always mean they *should* or *will*. Relationships, including those that have sailed into the sunset, are mosaics of emotions and circumstances. Maybe he sees this as a boundary, or perhaps there's more to his reluctance. It's like someone refusing to pass you the last piece of cake even though they're full—they have their reasons, bewildering as they may seem.

Your situation sounds incredibly tough, and reaching out for assistance is understandable. Yet, it might be time to look beyond your ex for support. This could be an opportunity to tap into community resources, seek advice from financial counselors, or explore alternative avenues of assistance.

Remember, every cloud (even the super stormy ones) has a silver lining or at least a lesson in disguise. Stay strong and resourceful; this chapter of your story is far from over! 🌈

[jahaims]

No lol. Exs= dead to me

[dudeinohio]

No way. Exes are ancient history.