I got married just way too young we were both young and stupid and I initiated the divorce because I knew it wasn't going to work out and I mean I tried everything we went to counseling we went to another counseling and there's just no way I could keep going I was miserable I was unhappy and I mean I tried to make it work I spend an extra probably 6 months being someplace I didn't want to be but I had to try and make it work. Because we just had a kid I do believe if two people do not get along the best thing to do is split go separate ways do it so there's not no bulshit drama with it you start out as friends why can't it in this friends my ex-wife put me through freaking hell over and over.
And one day I get a phone call it's her she said I just want to let you know that I found the guy of my dreams we're going to get married I said congratulations she said you want to talk to him he's right here and I said no thank you she said yes talk to him because he's going to be raising our son too and I said no thank you we'll talk sometime and I could hear him in the background saying no no but all of a sudden I hear hello Steve this is Mike I said nice to meet you Mike congratulations contable thank you and I said to be honest with you I said you don't know how happy you have just made me if he said why is that. And I said oh no reason that you have made me so happy that if I was gay I would give you a fucking blow job right now that's how happy I am and he starts laughing and I start laughing but he didn't understand what I was meaning because I was truly happy because I knew from that moment on she was going to leave me alone and she did just that that was over 18 years ago and right now he's dealing with the same thing I'm sure he can't wait to get that phone call it says hello Mike I found the guy of my dreams LOL
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If a woman is a cheater she's useless.
Yes why not? Sometimes people donāt work out or circumstances change. Iāve never been the type to think that once I get married itās all or nothing. Of course Iām gonna give my all and expect it back and for forbid I ever get divorced. But relationships are between two people and a piece of paper isnāt going to change much in the future.
Tough question. Yes. Sometimes it is necessary. I think too many people jump into it tho. Should be a well-thought-out last resort.
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I don't believe in marriage. But if marriage is to be on the table, there must also be a way to end that arrangement if love is gone or it becomes toxic.
I donāt marry with the intentions of divorce , so it would come down to what happened to make me want a divorce , mainly cheating , abuse , controlling etc would be some of the main reasons to file for a divorce. Itās comes down to your well being , if you are unhappy in a marriage you have a choice on whether you want to try to fix it or walk away. Love is not forced
Sometimes itās necessary. My exes started to fuck everyone āexceptā me and were spending my money liberally and irresponsibly. And one turned to a life of crime and drug addiction.
I take divorce extremely seriously though and itās always an absolute last option. With your children, you are willing to āgo down with the shipā. Thatās just not the case with a spouse whoās decided not to contribute to the partnership anymore.Yes. If it's not working it's not working. People get in plateau and are taken for granted. One person is suffering more than other. Do the copules therapy for 6 months and you will know to stay or to go.
Divorce for me would be an absolute last resort as in I've literally tried everything else to save my marriage and it all failed kind of last resort.
As far as I know a divorce has never happened in my family and if I can help it, it won't start with me.Yes, it's a good option if things don't work out or somebody becomes abusive in some way, or if they find somebody else "better".
If their differences are far too great, yes.. If it's because "I'm bored and want to move on" no (80% of divorces are like that by the way)
Personally, I would want us to try our best to make our marriage last but that's just me. If I'm at my ropes end then yes. In the case of cheating, domestic violence, abusing children or pets, or legal trouble then obviously yes.
Yes, when people are unhappy and there is no way to fix it it is not in anyone's best interest to stay in a marriage. Parents who stay together "for their children" really do them no favor either.
Most definitely!! Since I have been divorced twice now. Lol
I believe it's a last resort after every other option to reconcile is exhausted.
Been there and done that. She has remarried and we are still good friends. We raised our kids together we just did it separately. Our only unbreakable rule was where the kids were when school started that was where they stayed until school was out. Didn't matter if they were with me or her.
Well if one wants to terminate their marriage n have reasons then why not
Yes, my refiner loves those wedding bands I sell him
My dad and late mom got a "No-Fault " divorce and I don't believe in divorce
I don't fully understand the point of marriage so it makes sense that others would discover they don't understand it, either.
If needed. I'm hoping if I make it that far, that I'd have made a good choice and we don't need it at all.
I don't know that there is any thing to believe. It just happens and it is painful. You just deal with the pain and move on.
if two people can't work it out, there is no reason they should of been married in the 1st place
I don't believe in marriage, I am never getting married so there is no question of divorce.
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