How soon after a breakup is it okay to hookup with someone else?

Question

Broke up yesterday. We were dating for over 2 years but haven't been "active" in 3 months and haven't finished in a year. I don't want to be a complete asshole though

wingattebaby16 · Accepted Answer

for the right guy or girl, i have hooked up same day, in the same hour as a break up.

Like you, most mine were they were distant and only 2 guys was it a Right Now.. they broke up with me over a new girl.

worst was i was on a first date, sitting at the food court waiting for a movie, this HOT chick older with huge tits, tiny waist, wide sexy hips, curvy ass, and leggings that showed off her thong panties in back and her very very full sexy "bulge and lips" in front, walked up to my date, said, "dude, you are so hot! is this your sister? no, well I am so much better than her. let's go!" and he left me there.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

If you're sure there's no chance you'll get back with the ex, especially if you don't have any feelings then I think you are pretty much open to do whatever you want.
Im not really one for the whole hookup thing so I don't want to say this or that.

But it's for you to decide what you do when you meet someone new of interest.

BeenThereLovedIt · Accepted Answer

I'd say maybe 2 hours. Breakups, if meant to be an actual breakup and not just a pause are final. Like BC and AD. Your new life started the minute you broke up. The idea that there's some moral 'mourning period' like there is in death is laughable.

You have no obligation to the former lover, or society, to 'mourn', in fact the sooner you start your new life, the better you will feel and the faster your old life will disappear in the rear view mirror.

globetrotter22 · Accepted Answer

And this point it’s on you. There is a lingering sense of loyalty which shows you are decent person. But you don’t owe him any thing or vice versa.

But did you already “line some one up”. If yes you shouldn’t of been doing that while you were dating.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

" I don't want to be a complete asshole though" You don't want WHO to think you are an asshole?

Barry88 · Answer

Immediately. Once you break up, you're free to do what you want, you don't have any obligations towards your ex-partner anymore. My first ex-girlfriend dated less than a week after we broke up, and although it's confronting, I wasn't mad at her. For her it was a way to deal with the situation, some distraction. After a break up, life goes on.

Mamaganja · Answer

I don't know but it always seems like the person who is a lot of narcissistic traits gets in a relationship soon after a break up while the normal person who cared more is using that time to better themselves. Ultimately, I don’t think it matters but personally, I’d see that person as a red flag.

Harleigh90 · Answer

Took me 2 years 🤦‍♀️ No- one felt right, finally realised sex wouldn't fix a broken heart. Only you know when you're ready.

MrKinktastic · Answer

“We we’re on a break!” Ross Geller

You’re good to go as soon as you’ve communicated that you’ve broken up. He will call you a slut regardless to make himself feel better so just do what you want.

AviatorTom · Answer

Simple answer... as soon as you're comfortable hooking up. Whatever/whenever you do, it only affects you... your ex isn't going to care, and even if they do, so what... you're exes.

Seinna · Answer

Only when you're confident that you won't do it for the wrong reason and end up hurting yourself and possibly another person. No need to rush it, there will never be a shortage of guys to hookup with.

GeoCrusher · Answer

Why would you be an asshole for looking for another relationship after breaking up? When you feel emotionally available again is when you should start looking.

IveGotNoName · Answer

I don't think there is a set time, depends on the person and the seriousness of the prior relationship. If my boyfriend and I broke up, I for example don't think I would be emotionally or physically available for at least a year...

VikingQC · Answer

"Haven't been active" you mean sexually?

Because I believe we all have our up and downs.. you can't force people to have sex and a realationship isn't based on sex either.

Maybe communicate first, depends on your situation too. If he's been an asshole, and you didn't loved him anymore, you're still free to do whatever the fuck you want with your life without having to worry what he thinks.

So what you think it's best for YOU.

DaveJord · Answer

Its never too soon if you're ready... as long as you ended ot and have no desire to every renew the relationship.

t-8900 · Answer

He was lucky to have had someone who actually cared about his feelings enough to have even pondered this question. He really lost something great...

Lite3000 · Answer

Literally as soon as you want to if you're not doing it to ignore your feelings. Way too many rules of dating out here

exitseven · Answer

I woukld hookup with somebody as soon as I could find somebody to hookup with. You gotta get right back up on the horse.

Dan_cColt · Answer

30 minutes to 24 hours.. unless you are one of those "still hung up on him/her" person then fix yourself and just break it off completely but other than that yeah.

SphynxUK · Answer

Do whatever feels right for you. You answer only to yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Because men are the usually cheaters and love to hookup rather than having relationships they can have two moments later the break up. Selfish creatures.

CaliGirlBH · Answer

Why would you wanna hook up now, if it were me I'd give myself time to get head together before jumping in again but, thats just me.

Anonymous · Answer

i once hooked up the same day I broke up with him like in the morning I did and at night I had a one night stand  and I don't think so it's wrong because he was the one who cheated on me not me tho.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Its been 6 months since I broke up with my ex I just started talking to other people although I like no one that comes my way. But whenever you’re comfortable with that I guess

Luopio27 · Answer

Whenever you feel ready and emotionally connected with a new partner or a friend with benifit. There are no rules of moving on.  Just follow your heart.

LemiaOfChampions · Answer

Everyone is different depends on your recovery period.

JakeS00 · Answer

Take your time really. You came out of a 2-year ordeal.

Anonymous · Answer

The problem is that women's dating worth depends on her age but at the same time people will slut-shame you for finding another man very fast. So dont give a f about them, dont not wait dating other guys.

Floppy2112 · Answer

You know what, don't look for justifications. Don't look for affirmation. Just do what you want, you don't need permission from the faceless masses.

najekim · Answer

We have a lady friend who many years ago broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years. She went grocery shopping the next day and stumbled across a guy that she's now been married to for the last 20 years.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think there is an exact amount of time, but I do know that one day is not nearly enough time.

jasco · Answer

I mean it doesn't really matter. Do what you want if you wanna find someone after a month go for it. after a year go for it

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

y'all not together. If he cared about you y'all would still be together. So why are you worried about his feelings?

PrinceWalnut · Answer

It's okay immediately. You're broken up now. You're single. But if you want to take time for yourself that's totally fine too.

Anonymous · Answer

Jesus! You're in your late teens/early 20s and you haven't had an orgasm in a YEAR! You should be hooking up with someone who can flip your switches TONIGHT!

cookiecrusher · Answer

Okay? Right away. A good idea? Not for a month or two, just to get your head right. Especially as a woman.

Soleil8000 · Answer

To get fucked? Why did you bother being in a relationship at all?

dragoblack · Answer

Whenever you want. Once you are not in a relationship, you are not obligated to anyone.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's okay to do it straight away if it's your choice.

Better_off_here · Answer

i say give it about a few months if it was serious and maybe like a little less if it was just more about fun.

rishabhgupta54 · Answer

Right after the next moment. You are don't with him and there is no looking backward.

OnTheLevel · Answer

I think it matters if it's just to get laid or if it's the start of a new relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

The mentality of that man you completely fucked up. Your doing all this stuff knowing that man has a gun. And everyday he has to be put through this he puts it to his head. It’s all on lisa

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Its always too soon to hookup. Casual sex is not the right thing to do.

misstripleem · Answer

Some people do it right away, but that is usually not a good policy. You're still somewhat attached to the old partner.

kerbeary2003 · Answer

Why not just do it? It won't change anything regardless

Julious0202 · Answer

Have you ever thought about having sex only after getting married?

Anonymous · Answer

If it's over, and you both know it's over? 30 mins.

Anonymous · Answer

i say two weeks. it deepened on where your at where your feeling emotionally.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Later that night or the next day is ok.

Anonymous · Answer

Hook up... Hmm the healing phase and the cock carrousel

Jylaaa · Answer

No rule, when the person feels ready

ItsMeElliana · Answer

whatever makes you happy :)

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Whenever you feel ready

PrettyPriya · Answer

No set time for any one person.

Дерйа · Answer

Depends on your personality.

katiesmuff · Answer

Before dinner wouldn't be too soon.

loves2learn · Answer

Whenever you and your would be partner feel ready.

HighValue · Answer

"Hook ups" are never okay for good moral people.

cth96190 · Answer

The real world answer is whenever it happens.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

As soon as the door hits their ass.

Slayerrrrrrr · Answer

what he doesn't know won't hurt him, love.

dudeinohio · Answer

As soon as you feel ready. No timetable.

Wiredone · Answer

Watcha waiting on. Get going girl

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