If you got divorced do you think it would be amicable?

[Daniela1982]

Some people can remain friends after a divorce and some become mortal enemies. How do you think you would fare- or how you DID fare when divorced?

[ohshee]

When I get a divorce she absolutely hated me because I said goodbye and she did everything in her power to try to fuck me up and in so many ways I had to bite my tongue because because I had a son that I wanted to see and I needed to teach him how two handled himself if anything like this ever happened with him it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do my ex-wife we talk crap about me to my son all the time and I would tell her to stop just please stop you don't understand what you're doing you think you're putting me down you think you're making me look like the bad guy because all of your lies but the truth is going to come out some day and when it does it's not going to be from me it's going to be from your parents it's going to be from your brother and sister it's going to be from your friends and my son is going to hate your guts for because the truth will come out so please stop. And of course she didn't listen it took him until he was 17 years old to snap but he came to me and asked me everything went on and I told him I would tell him the first go ask your grandma your grandpa. Your uncle on both sides and I said when you asked him something just ask them to please be 100% honest and that's exactly what they did so then I had to keep him calm and I had to teach him again who did the when things like this happen in your life he wanted to know why I wasn't angry why I was it livid why I wasn't pissed off and I told him I was but there's a way to handle it flying off the handle is it going to solve anything it's done it's over with it was done and over with long time ago and you need to let it go because it was between your mom and I. He said he knew that that he put me through hell and I said yes or no and he says can you still talk to her I said I try not to LOL but yeah is she called me I would talk to her especially if my kid was around but other than that it was a nightmare but I didn't treat it as one. Because my kid was too important and still is did I went to hell

[Daniela1982]

Not many would take it like you did and not try and get back. I applaud you!

[ohshee]

0ne of the worse things out of all of it was my son's girlfriend and her became very good friends and one day she told him she wanted to get married and to have a baby maybe 3 years go by and she tells him again and this time if he does t do it she would break up with him. Well they broke up.. I asked him why. And he said his girl friend was just like his mom and he said the min they had a child she would do the same thing his mother did to me. He said. There I'd no way he could go through that .. I feel bad but I would want any one to go through what I did

[Daniela1982]

Wow, wonder why he went with her at all and waste his time.

[ohshee]

Yeah he said that she never used to be like that then his mom and her got really close I felt bad for the both of them both good kids he already got married and has a baby probably about 3 to six months something like that after they split up he was going to heartbroken but he's a six foot seven studs fireman paramedic so no matter what he'll do good

[NathanDavis]

I would like to believe that it if it happened... it would be in good terms

and if for some weird, rare, strange reason it was nightmarish (which I really doubt would the case) then I would not want to do anything with it... I would let the lawyers handle all of it and just yes to whatever she wants, take all the money, properties whatever... I would not care, just end it and bye... because I would never allow myself to be in a position in which I hated someone, especially someone I loved

money, comes and goes and I could make it all over again, but my sanity, that one has no price lol

but I really don't know, I am just guessing here... never been married so I've never been divorced

[SphynxUK]

We were amicable for several years. People couldn’t understand why we still spoke or got along. I mean, last year he invited me to his birthday BBQ. For some reason though, he's flipped, and became nasty and rude. He constantly bad mouths me behind my back, and even when I need to talk to him about one of the children, he’s rude, dismissive and argumentative. I think he’s unwell.

[Daniela1982]

Something changed.

[FreyaRed]

I suppose it depends on circumstances and people who participate in a divorce. People who cheat in marriage shouldn't expect any mercy and forgiveness, this is sure. However it's not the only reason why people divorce and this can be a process with lot of negative emotions and hatred.

[Massageman]

Then there is the man who demanded that he get the proceeds from the sale of his sport car in a settlement. His ex sold it for FIVE DOLLARS, and that is what he got! She got the mine, and he got the shaft. but I digress - - -

While not a divorce, when my girlfriend prior to meeting my (to be) wife and I split up, it was cool. We are still friends, on Facebook, exchange Christmas cards and that stuff.

[Daniela1982]

I'm taking it that when a person gets older the money seems to be a problem less, even though when you get elderly your medical expenses go up. Not all people are so charitable.

[Massageman]

The first part was a joke - - - second part is real. The real messy ones (divorces) are when there are kids involved and they are used as pawns between the two parents. eeeeewww

[Jamie05rhs]

Hell no. You want me to be nice to someone that abandons me and rips my heart in two? FUCK that!

You have the right to leave anytime you wish up until the wedding. With absolutely no hard feelings whatsoever. But if you marry me, you better mean it.

[Daniela1982]

Seems to me you should have known him pretty well, depending on if you had a decent time frame for an engagement, say a year, or if you rushed into it like a lot do and got married within a month of meeting each other.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Daniela1982 I agree 100%.

[ChrisMaster69]

I am divorced and it was fine, hardest part was dealing with lawyers who wanted to screw me over, while wife did not lol.

Still friends and she was at mine for Christmas

[On_cloud_wine]

Never have to worry about that as I’m never getting married.

[Daniela1982]

At 106 your foot is already in the grave and someone is tugging on it to pull you in.

[On_cloud_wine]

Nope. I have another glorious 100 more years to go

[On_cloud_wine]

I’m a different cat

[Leonharted]

No idea. I won't be seeking divorce so long as my wife remains loyal.

[dudeinohio]

Amicable for sure. We each took back what we brought into the marriage. No one got another's stuff. We did it on our own... no. lawyers... just split the $300 court filing fee. We get along great.

[AviatorTom]

After 20 years of marriage, my divorce was amicable.

[Sevenpointfive]

it would not be pretty, but i'm not getting married thank god

[Likes2drive]

Still friendly with ex wife, especially since we had kids together

[Daniela1982]

That is always the best way.

[007kingifrit]

yes but only because i would require a prenup before marriage

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. My prenup is going to make life hell for her -- and me -- if we ever get divorced. I'm going to put a contractual stipulation in there that says we both will have to have an "un-wedding.". Invite everyone back who came for the original wedding, and take the stand in front of them and publicly apologize for lying to all of them. And be forced to take questions from the audience and give honest answers for 2 full hours.

We'll also be required to pay back the financial value of the wedding gifts, plus interest.

And she'll be forced to wear a red dress with a D on it. (And myself a red tux with the same thing.)

[Daniela1982]

@Jamie05rhs I don't think you could get her to sign it. But if she and you do sign you had better do your best to stay married or it might get awkward.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Daniela1982 I'm not planning to not stay married. (Readers, please take note of the TWO "not"s in that sentence.)

And I WILL do my best. That is my pledge before Almighty God in Heaven.
(And by that I don't mean, "Well... I'll try my best...". No. I mean I am SERIOUS!)

[Daniela1982]

@Jamie05rhs Good for you. Hope she feels the same.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Daniela1982 Thanks! 😊

[AydenHazor]

Whether it feels amicable or not, I keep it so on the surface for the sake of my child

[Daniela1982]

Good move. With an Ex comes drama that no one needs.

[AydenHazor]

I have maintained friendships with Ex girlfriends though

[Jintendo18]

I mean it took my parents 25 years, but sure, why not?

[AndrésC64]

I did and it was as amicable as possible I suppose.

[red324]

They always disappear as if we never even knew each other. I always think it's pretty sad.

[Kiran_Yagami]

No divorce is ever amicable. Some are just less hostile than others.

[OlderAndWiser]

It was.

[Citizenkirk]

I hope I never have to find out 😶

[exitseven]

I don't see how it could.

[msc545]

It was anything but amicable. She stole my child.

[Daniela1982]

I guess it depends on who the judge thinks will be the best parent. When one works and the other doesn't it's most likely the one not working that get's the kid and child support. I've know a lot of guys get the kids because mom was a drug addict or alcoholic.

[msc545]

No, in this case it was who had the better lawyer.

[Daniela1982]

@msc545 What do divorce lawyers and catfish have in common? They are both bottom feeders.

[msc545]

exactly.

[nawtee_me]

We are still friends...

[awkward_author]

I hope so.

[888theGreat]

war zone

[BestWoman]

WHy not

[Anonymous]

death follows women