When should I reach out?

[peachy89]

My ex and I broke up two weeks. I don’t reach out he blocked me on everything, and was cold and mean when we broke up.
he’s back with his ex right now.
do you guys if I don’t contact him he will think about me? and when should I message him? We dated for 1.6 years

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+1 y

She broke up with him twice lol cuz he treated her bad … and yeah it sucks he’s my love I love him a lot …

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+1 y

And yeah I realized I did that… but I think if I give it a month or two just to let it be I feel like him and I will reconnect again

[KolonKby]

Bro, do yourself a favor and move on. People like that just don't change, and if you get sucked in again you're going to be one of em. Whatever you have went through will just repeat. Move on and find someone better for you.

[peachy89]

Thank you awe ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[peachy89]

Legit tho your fuckin right… nothing will change tbh it will be the same shit I was in….

[KolonKby]

Good luck, wish ya the best.

[peachy89]

Can you tell me why he was saying shit to me while dating that it would be harder for me to move on since he’s my first love and would take him a month or two to move who says this shit lol then he’d be like I’d reach out to check up on u …. I’ve never met a guy who’s say thi to a girl?

[KolonKby]

Purely manipulation. It's a narcisistic move to keep someone around, and drag you back in only when they need you. Definitely move on, I'm sorry you had to deal with that

[peachy89]

Omg you are right man…. I feel like he’s gonna reach out just to check if I’ve moved on.. he's a shit person wow ….. man wow he’s just trash? Like ur right now it makes sense why he said that lol. I feel like once he sees I’m not msging him he’s gonna go crazy and try to message me to see if I’m over him isn’t this true?

[KolonKby]

Yeah, sounds ab right. I'd just block him on everything rather than wait around for him to check back on you. Fuck him, you got your own life to live and deserve to be happy and content without him.

[peachy89]

Thank you! ❤️ You’re an Angel you deserve the best! I’ve just been so crushed tbh. Lmao he blocked me everywhere and was saying how it’s my problem I loved him. He’s so trash. I can’t wait to live my best life and never look back. He will only try to reach out bc he thinks since he’s my first love he can crawl back whenever he’s bored with his ex…. That won’t happen bc I’ve blocked him. I’d give him a month or two before he tries to get back with me bc he thinks I’m weak and wants control he’s a fool

[peachy89]

Also he’s doing this to me because he wants me to regret saying mean stuff to him whenever I was hot headed I’d call him names so he wants to make me suffer for doing that shir to me and then he’ll come back tryna say sorry and get me back in with him ya no I know now what kind of person he is a trashy gettho one

[KolonKby]

Preaaaach. If you need any more advice or help feel free to DM me on here, it's a bit easier for me to reply and what not

[peachy89]

What’s ur insta I’ll follow u🥰

[KolonKby]

Believe it or not, I don't have an insta 😅

[peachy89]

Snap?

[KolonKby]

So I made my snap in middle school, so it's a terrible username 😅 dm me and I'll give that one to ya lmao

[peachy89]

Can’t dm u :( bc my level is so low on here jus type it and delete ir after (:

[KolonKby]

Oh, can you follow me? I could prob DM you if you do

[peachy89]

Just did I can’t message u bc it won’t let since my level is so low blahhhh I just followed u tho

[BarryLiverstone]

You don’t. You focus on yourself and put him in the rear view mirror. Why did you break up?

[peachy89]

We broke up bc we had a huge argument & he says I kept calling him names and he didn’t wanna put up with that…. I’ve begged him and chased him but it was useless lol. I love him so much. I wanted it to give it time so we can kinda of move past it and retry our relationship again in the future. He’s always told me that he’d reach out 3-4 months if we ever broke up to check up on me. What do ya think I should do lol I keep thinking he doesn’t miss me or care or just forgot abo me…..

[BarryLiverstone]

Sounds like you tried and he is done. You failed to respect his boundaries so now he’s back with his ex. That may or may not work but still move on. Why did he break up with his ex?

[peachy89]

I responded upabove oops but yeah do u think he’ll think about me if I go no contact?

[peachy89]

I really want him to miss me and regret letting me go lol

[peachy89]

Also he’s always said if we ever broke up he’d reach out to me to check up on me which I don't know why… or he said he’d send me something to remind me of him even if I have a new guy lol he’s wired but that’s why I wanna give it time I want him to wonder about me

[BarryLiverstone]

Whether he misses you or he doesn’t he is now your ex. I know the breakup is still fresh but you don’t need to regret letting you go and instead love yourself. Aren’t you enjoying the freedom of being single?

[peachy89]

Not really it’s hard. I love this man…. Like I want it to work out but I guess he's my ex now lol… but I don't know I’d deff try reaching out later on like 5-6 months and see if he’s willing to talk to me

[BarryLiverstone]

If you loved him why did you keep calling him names?

[peachy89]

Honestly i regret it so much. I’m hot headed. That’s why, im learning to change that behaviour now. That’s why I’d want a second shot with him so that I can treat him right again.

[peachy89]

That’s why I wanna give it a bit time to calm the situation and maybe try reaching out again later on

[BarryLiverstone]

What have you learned to correct your reactions to conflict?

[peachy89]

Definitely not lash out so quick. Take a time out and don’t speck Untill I’m calm down. Speck nicely treat them the way I want to be treated. Set boundaries. I definitely want to reach out someday and maybe reconnect. But right now I’m not because he’s asked me to move on and he’s so rude so I don’t want to keep chasing him

[BarryLiverstone]

So his boundary is don’t reach out.. so don’t. Also if he does reconnect be sure to tell him how you have learned so he knows you will not still make that mistake

[peachy89]

Do you think he will reach out to me?

[peachy89]

And yes that’s what I’m doing is not reaching out

[BarryLiverstone]

Tbh no. I mean unless you all have mutual friends. Think he said that to be nice. Lots of single guys out there, you get to talk to them now

[peachy89]

Should I reach out to him in a month or two? That way I give him space to miss me lol

[BarryLiverstone]

No that’s a violation of his boundaries. You demonstrate you have improved by waiting for him

[peachy89]

Yes but I don’t wanan wait forever …. Like right now I’m not reaching out to him I chased him and begged but now I stopped

[BarryLiverstone]

You are not waiting. Don’t expect to reconnect. Why not accept that it’s over?

[peachy89]

First love :( :( irs only been 2 weeks so I’m giving myself time

[BarryLiverstone]

Took me 2 months to get over my first love. So yes relax and spend time on things you enjoy.

[peachy89]

Thank u ❤️❤️ that’s what I’m doing giving myself time

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome