Should I continue helping out my ex with his financial problem?

[sparkybaby]

I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago. Every month I would give him $150 to help him out because he struggles financially. This guy stopped me from coming to his place. If he was hungry, needed money for gas or wanted sex he would come over. He has anger issues and was always yelling and hollering at me for little thing and would rush out of my place because he was pissed. He always lied about things. When I ask for help from him there’s always an excuse why he can’t. He has been on dating sites and the list goes on. I had enough and just went silent on him. I went no contact on him and it’s been over a week now. Should I still e-transfer the $150 to him one last time or just forget about it? I need advice Please.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

You’re treating him as if you’re his mother and he can use you whenever he wants or needs something from you. It doesn’t seem like you have any boundaries or respect for yourself or your personal belongings, as he is just taking advantage of it and you’re fine with it. Not to mention, all of this help you offer him, he can’t even reciprocate it… I would immediately stop.

[Craftsman]

If you two have broken up, and you have no desire, hope or wish to get back together with him, then don't transfer the money.
If you two have broken up, then there is no reason to continue supporting him in any manner, financially or otherwise.
Setting the precedent of giving money without the benefits and companionship seems to me to be a poor investment. That will also keep the door open to any other shenanigans he may dream up. From what you've written, he is in many ways abusive, and most people will always revert to their basic personality form.
In short, you can most likely find better uses for your money.

[4eyes2mouths]

I too give my ex some financial support because I understand she basically had nothing after I broke up with her. She is very appreciative of me and thanks me all the time. She is actively saving to help herself in the near future.

But tbh your situation it sounds like he is using you. I would cut ties with him and move on for your own sanity.

[yucychan]

It's people like you that makes me want to pull my hair out. The fact that you are still asking if you should transfer him more money instead of demanding your money back from him is inconceivable.
In the first place, you should never have loan him any money at all. If he have any financial issues, he should settle it himself.
Instead, you encourage him to take you for granted, to belittle and disrespect you, by loaning him money.
For God's sake, wake up. Don't be stupid.

[horsenrhinounicorn]

If you want to help him out, make him work for it. He should not be getting a free handout, rather a solution that will work long term. If he doesn’t treat you right let him learn a lesson, bad behavior is removed from privileges, good behavior is rewarded.

[MrtoddsWildRide]

If you have kids together, than you should, but make sure he knows that you are not an ATM and you expect him to pay you back. Remember that what happens to him also effects the children.
If you do not have kids together, than tell him to go fuck himself

[Anonymous]

You can send it my way. I’ll treat you better than that. I’ll yell at you and throw things at you lol then buy you flowers w some of the money you gave me then yell at you and throw the flowers at you. Let him go. I can’t believe you’re even asking this question, he sounds like a POS.

[whirled_up_girl]

I would only help out an ex if we were both on good terms, remaining friends of something like that but I wouldn't help them indefinately maybe just unitl they could get things going on they're own. However, if they were awful to me, then no.

[Oigit]

His issues are not yours and he is your ex for go reason. You need to help yourself and completely move on. That does mean you need top stop helping him.

[sensible27]

If helping makes you happy.. but there are better ways to help probably, and people who would appreciate food and blanket (or just a little water)

[IamAdonis]

NO my dear!! Cut ties completely. He obviously has.

[Flower7]

Just forget about giving him the money. That’s over.

[krista_b_berzina]

No, just no.
Ask yourself, should you be sorry for a person that does you like this? HE IS USING YOU AND YOUR LOVE, etc. One day or another you will see that when you’re pass you emotions. Trust me

[Staximus]

Hell no, tell that fucking bum to get a job. You should have never have him money in the first place. Don't give him shit and never talk to him again.

[Gingerguy33]

No people have to learn how to be independent especially someone who’s your ex

[douride2]

Sounds to me like he is just using you. I would cut him off & keep him out of my life.

[TacosRAwesome]

Nah. But maybe find him a financial advisor or something.

[GlassTop]

He fucked you and you gave him money? Damn you one of us now 😂

[dudeinohio]

No. Give him no money. You aren't responsible for him.

[Alexis_1996]

No he’s grown sorta. He can get a job if he doesn’t. Cause he’ll be like a tick. Suck you dry.

[Anonymous]

Things have worked so well. Why grow a spine now. Send him the 150.

[DonkeyDan]

Nah screw him, he brought this on himself.

[slatyb]

What? No, of course you shouldn't.

[jshm2]

You're not this simple, surely?

[DCooper]

You gotta shut off your codependent side.

[Andres77]

Cut ties. He still needs to grow up

[Wise4myage]

Hell no, you aren't their personal ATM.

[888theGreat]

nope, you should help me

[wtfhunt]

Fuck yeah it's better that way!

[Honesttguy]

Where does he live?

[SecretGardenBlood65]

You're not bank