Be honest, is there an ex you still love?

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blissinanarchy1 · Accepted Answer

Yeah. A girl named Abby. She was a country girl. I'm from the inner city. Nevertheless, we clicked instantly at a job in a town neither of us lived. It was a walmart. At first there was a huge spark. We couldn't get enough of each other. I fell in love. She told me she did. She lost her virginity to me. I met her parents, and her parents seemed to like me. She met mine. Over time, the spark faded. She became withdrawn. I'm very insistant on open communication, and being supportive. I pushed and pushed to get her to open up. She admitted she was depressed. She told me she's terrible at relationships because she holds everything in and blows up. The relationship was vert rocky, and every conversation was about fixing the relationship. There wasn't any normal conversation. She dumped me. A few days later, we talked, and we got back together. A bit of the spark came back, but not for long. She told me she'd stay with me through anything (Something happened, we didn't know would). That didn't happen. She broke up with me again. She told me I was her first love, she'll always remember me, and that she'd never date again. She wanted to stay friends. At this point I got toxic. I said if she got a new boyfriend, I'd beat him the fuck up. I never threatened her or cursed at her though. A month later I was arrested. I was falsely accused of rape by a girl I slept with two years prior. Allegation was that it was consensual at first, she took consent away in the middle of sex (without saying no), that I pinned her down, she fought me off, started riding me, gave me head, and that I fingered her against her will (while she was showing me how to finger her.) I was still charged. Bail was super high and covid kept pushing trial back, so I wound up doing 18 months before being found innocent. I had my mother talking to Abby through facebook. My primary way of talking to her is through snapchat. I tried to get her to give me her number through my mom. She refused. Then at one point she started ignoring her. At one point my mom told her I was in a really bad mental place. Her response was "I moved on and he needs to, too." And blocked my mom. At my lowest she cut off all contact. Every single night of those 18 months I thought about what I wanted to say to her, how she impacted me. I wanted to tell her how I fet when she abandoned me. The day I'm found innocent and get out, I message her on facebook. She blocked me without even reading the message. I was so upset I made another to do it. Blocked me again, and changed her facebook name and picture. Still to this day I want to talk to her but can't. I know her new facebook name and picture but I can't even message her.

Just_call_me_Levi · Accepted Answer

Define love.

If one of them was crying at my doorstep, I'd let her in and try to help her as I used to.

But would I ever want to get back together with any of them? Honestly, not even a tiny bit. I broke up with them for VERY GOOD reasons.

whereismyjohnny · Accepted Answer

I’m not sure how to say it, we weren’t dating but we were more than friends. It’s complicated to explain 😐

We knew each other since childhood, and as kids, we were good friends, since we lived close to each other. Then as we grew up we separated our ways, but then when I was 14, he messaged me and we started talking. We would talk 24/7 every day for 3 years, but literally. We shared our dreams, talked about everything. Talking to him made me happy, I’d light up as soon as I saw his message, but I never thought about him more than a friend. Well, until we stopped talking and I started missing his texts. The moment I realize I liked him was when my cousin told me he was speaking to her and he drove to another city only to see her friend. I felt so sad and betrayed, but it made me feel guilty because I had no reason, like we were not even together. But looking back now there were clear signs he liked me, and somehow I kept thinking we were just good friends. My friend know we spoke to each other, and they often teased me about him, but I would brush it off.

Also when we were kids we had a crush on each other 😂 the idiot even started rumour we kissed in his garden lol (I found out it was him who started it years after, he confessed to me that he was the one who made it up).

I get somehow sad (or annoyed, I don’t know how to describe the feeling) when I hear about him or see him, so yeah I guess I’m not clear with my feelings about him yet 😕

avony12 · Accepted Answer

Yes. Very much. He was my first love, lost everything to him. But he knew I loved him so much that I’d never leave. Got engaged broke up with me 3 times, broke my heart. I sadly came back hoping he’d change, had me at my lowest. Recently I couldn’t take it anymore and decided to leave him and not look back. I miss the company of him but not the way he treated me.

weysally · Answer

yes my first lover, but only because of gratitude, he taught me the pleasure's of sex, the taking and the giving, I love my husband in a totally different way and please don't ask me to explain because I can't

dustybiker · Answer

You don’t really stop loving. The parts of your relationship that you were in love still exist in memory. If it ended well or badly. Relationships aren’t cut and dry.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Totally! I lost him when I was 20 to the competition :(

RealMarek · Answer

I wouldn’t go anywhere near my ex without witnesses and a flak jacket.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

Sad to say no one has ever loved me or treated me like my most recent ex so it’s kind of hard to move on in that sense. But then I remember how badly he betrayed me so I can never get back with him. It’s a weird situation.

TrueConfection · Answer

No. I cared a lot about my ex boyfriend because he was a good guy, but I got over him pretty quickly.

Account · Answer

No, which means I have probably never actually loved anyone. I am okay with it. Perhaps not all of us are capable of it.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Not in the way you mean it, but there is an ex whom I still have a very high opinion of. I straight up refuse to say anything bad about her, no matter the lies she's spread about me.

Chris_u006 · Answer

Nopers and thank god for that!
Would I go back to any of them if I got the chance?
Hell no! Break-up happens for either one major reason or several smaller reasons.
I would rather be single for the rest of my life.

Summer03 · Answer

I do. I’ve been think about give him another chance but worry about my parents reaction.

England4eva · Answer

Honestly, the answer is no. The past is the past. Time really does heal.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I have had only one boyfriend and we ended the relationship on a positive note. I still miss him. He was half white half Indian , very charming and handsome.

Heartache0405 · Answer

I’ve never experienced love. Which is why I don’t believe it exists. So no

Andres77 · Answer

Just fantasize about. Mostly revenge sex kinda stuff.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I have me that will always have my heart, but I know nothing will ever come of it

Nagatoro · Answer

No, I don't still love the only one I've ever had lmao

User20004 · Answer

Well there is an ex I'll loved to an extent that makes me feel I probably would never love anyone that deeply but no I don't still love him

Apulu_3 · Answer

Only if a single dope like me had an EX

exitseven · Answer

No, I am only in love with my wife.

Darine123 · Answer

None, if I still love them he won’t be my ex

msc545 · Answer

Yes, there is, from a long time ago.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Alright. Ok, I'll admit.. No.

David_Bayer · Answer

How do you unlove someone?

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t love them but I’d probably fuck

mamuma02 · Answer

No🤷‍♀️

Bluemax · Answer

As a friend, yes.

babybunny06 · Answer

Hell no thank god

Now_Here · Answer

No, fortunately.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No Ma'am

skytatoe · Answer

Nope.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Ish…

LavLavLuv · Answer

I don’t have an ex

Layafell · Answer

Nope

endoftheline · Answer

Nope...

Iron_Man · Answer

No mas nope

pink-jilly · Answer

No🙂

Wise4myage · Answer

Nope.

Kurdistan1991 · Answer

İ don't have

Istanbulllll · Answer

nope

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