How to handle a distant spouse?

[Hannahbanana94]

Husband has been very cold to me. He wanted a divorce because he was tired of me always interrogating and nagging/yelling. So he finally agreed to try again and work things out. He moved back home after a week, but is still being cold. If I touch him he moves away. I don’t understand, if he’s trying to work things out shouldn’t he not be distant? What should I do

[Anonymous]

Give him some space but still try to get closer to him. Maybe start small by doing little nice things, go on a date as if you guys were newly dating. Let him warm up to you slowly, he probably needs time to process his thoughts. Try not to be too pushy with him, start with small touches like a pat in the back, and work your way up. Good luck!

[Hannahbanana94]

When I ask him to hang out he doesn’t want to… it feels like I’m forcing him To give this another chance.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you asked him about what he wants from you? Is it really only the nagging and interrogating that’s bothering him? Maybe ask him if he would change his mind about the divorce if you promise to do better and nag less.

[Hannahbanana94]

I did and then he said he would work it out and then he said stuff like this

Even without all the bullshit I just don’t want to be with you. Even on a good day without all the problems I don’t want to be with you. I just don’t want you. I don’t want to be with you. The same way your sure you want to be with me I’m sure I don’t want to be with you. So if I choose divorce you’ll have to just stick it out and cry. I don’t want to have to be with u. I didn’t want to sleep in the room but you made me. I still haven’t made my mind up.

I never wanted to be in the marriage to begin with. I never truly loved you. If I truly loved you, I’d want to still kiss you, or hug you but I don’t want to even come near you. I never even wanted to fuck you. Your lucky you got to fuck 2 times a week. You don’t know what it’s like to have to fuck someone when you don’t want to. Even on a good day this day I don’t want to be with you. I didn’t even want to marry you but I was a coward and did. And you have been toxic since we got married and always yelling at me. I don’t truly love you because if I did would want this to work so bad. Just like you.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm it sounds like he doesn’t seem to want to try to work it out but then why would he said that he wanted to try to work it out and even moved back in with you tho…

I don't know if he’s just saying all that bcs he’s hurting or if he 100% meant everything that he said…

How long have you guys been trying to “work it out”?

[exitseven]

Stop interrogating and nagging and yelling. He may come around. It is not like he can just flip a switch and suddenly he changes.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Anonymous]

so you were being a cunt to him and now bitching and whining because you couldn't masochistize over him anymore

[Opinion Owner]

so you were being a masochistic cunt to him and now you're bitching because you can't be one anymore

[Hannahbanana94]

No you SOB. I had my reasons. It takes. 2 to tango. Let me guess your single because no one can handle such an asshole like you

[Opinion Owner]

awww omg thank you that was so sweet of you

[Opinion Owner]

wow quite the charming talker aren't you

[_Just_A_girl_]

Tell him you'll begin marriage counseling

[Hannahbanana94]

He doesn’t want to do marriage counseling

[gag6474]

have you tried marriage counseling