Should I go back to my abusive ex for the sake of my kids? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2022-10-18T12:52:56Z

Separated from my ex because he was emotionally abusive, manipulative and at times physically abusive. We managed to have pretty good visitation and exchanges set up and I dealt with his tantrums pretty even keeled since I don't have to live with him anymore. He decided to leave they city so visitation is now a few hours once a week. I made a small request about him using my house as a bathroom stop since it obligates me to just wait for him to go back and forth with them which is just his usual passive-aggressive way of exerting control. He began berating and insulting me over text and said he was no longer going to come even once a week. My son is going to be devastated. He said I'm failing at taking care of the kids and basically feels since I left he is justified in washing his hands of everything. Re the kids, my son has some particular challenges and through a lot of blood sweat and tears he is finally making major progress. However, my son misses his father dearly and has been really broken up about the decline in visitation. He was fine about the separation until his dad become so scarce. He liked having the personal time with him. Two dudes together and all. He also won't take my son to his place for whatever reason. Even though we had all been to the place he is staying before. I understand the emotions are still raw in his side. I left because of his using me to offload his insecurities on my by gaslighting me into guilt. Also, not knowing when he would explode with rage and beat me without warning. He knows which buttons to press. It still affects me and hurts me a lot. But my son always blames everything on missing his dad. Should I just get back with him for the sake of my son? What should I do.

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Not at all

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No nut u get ur kids and talk to someone about him

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No for God sake

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  And kids sake
  
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  God's or kid's *
  
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  Is he a proven abuser in the court of the law?
  
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