So ny ex husband is upset because I'm single?

[cth2188]

I have my freedom boy it feels good without the headache of finding the right person.

Why is he angry with me?

He's the married one - often mentions this as if I'm desperate or lonely..

[caring__1]

Chances are, he was expecting the grass to be greener elsewhere and is disappointed to discover it isn't. Maybe he wants you to suffer the same disappointment.

Maybe your remaining single just intensifies the guilt he feels for what he did to you. He may believe he'll feel less guilty if you are happier with a new man than you were with him.

No matter the reason, this is his issue to deal with... not yours. Just because someone chooses to stand on a garbage truck and shovel off garbage, that doesn't mean you are obligated to run around and catch it. When you stop catching it, he'll stop shoveling it. This is no different from the school bully who picks on those who are most entertaining. When you don't respond, the bully will find someone else to pick on. Only respond to positive statements from him. Ignore all negative statements.

[cth2188]

We were not dating this was someone I met through an online chat app.. I have been single by choice 9 years and it's staying that way. I don't date or even have sex with men unless I'm married , but furthermore I'm celibate as well. This guy is married and I don't sleep with married men... I don't know anything about suffering. I had no expectations going in or coming out the situation because I wasn't seeking anything open to friends sure, but that's about it.

[cth2188]

My comment applied to another post ditto for my ex husband I don't care we have children together and I'm only focused on the custody agreement nothing else.

[cth2188]

I'm glad I don't have to deal with him on a daily basis his wife does. After dealing with him , I don't want to deal with another man pretaining to marriage or relationship

[caring__1]

It's too bad this site doesn't allow us to edit or delete errors we post, as the errors can confuse others.

I can relate to how you feel about your ex. A huge weight lifted from my shoulders when I was notified my divorce was final. Though we had negative experiences, it would be unfair to lump everyone together and assume all are alike. There are quality men out there, and there are quality women out there, though I'm not saying they're easy to find.

You sound like people who refuse to have a pet, knowing the pet will die before they die. Look at all the positive moments and experiences you'll never have due to this choice? I remember the pain I felt the first time I was dumped. I swore I would never be in a relationship again. Luckily, I didn't follow through on that promise.

I concur with your wish to not get married again, but my reasons are probably different from yours. I know how expensive a divorce can be, and being one year from retirement, I know I could never afford another divorce. I'm willing to commit for life to a special partner, but I see no advantages of a legal contract. For the most part, marriage only is an asset to a dependent partner, and I have no desire to take on another dependent.

[cth2188]

Based on my beliefs and the current dating world I refuse to deal with dating or most men today who have taken on disrespect, misgony, and sexism attacks against women the likelihood of me getting married again no - I'm not sure about dating and I have been single 9 years by choice... I've had my fair share of seeing what's out here. Even marriage isn't honored properly.. I have more married men approaching me within their marriage then single men who are looking to fornicate and commit adulterers acts. How did my ex and I divorce him committing fornicating acts and adultery.. with me and his current wife.

[cth2188]

I don't want either being friends with men yes , but anything outside of that no

[cth2188]

He ended up sticking with the woman he cheated on me with and their marriage has been toxic and dysfunctional since. Not that I care due to religious beliefs I couldn't deal with a man who just shacks up with no intentions of marriage since I'm iffy about marriage nowadays I don't date. I remain single and will stay single until God blesses me with the right mate

[caring__1]

You have every right to choose what works for you, but don't judge others based on your choice. You did say "most men" and I agree. Most people (all genders included) are too self-focused to be healthy partners. Understand, though, when we choose a partner we are choosing one person, not the vast masses that surround us.

Like they say, "Never say never." Don't close yourself to quality opportunities just because we live in a jungle of garbage. Learn to be observant and discover the signs to look for. Hiding for the rest of your life in your room to stay safe will only leave you a lonely person. Though I've become very selective, I still remain open, though I must admit I haven't even gone on a date or kissed a woman in over a decade.

[cth2188]

If that man ain't following God or has the intention of marriage I will not date him due to my religious stance. People cam do as they choose doesn't mean I will be included.

[cth2188]

Can " no where did I judge you I said I won't date a man who doesn't have the intention of marriage due to my stance and religious beliefs

[cth2188]

I've been single 9 years and it's better that way versus dealing with this generation of dating

[Summeroflove]

He’s your ex. He can fuck off point blank. He’s your ex. You’re not obligated to put up with his shit anymore.

Some people don’t seem to understand that though. They feel entitled to you.

[cth2188]

Yep clearly they're issues going on his marriage him and his deserve each other

[cth2188]

They " aslong as he honors the custody agreement that's all that matters

[Summeroflove]

That’s his and her problem. Not something you need dragged into

[Summeroflove]

I mean. If he’s the one you have kids with. Then it’s hard to avoid him. But. Yeah. He shouldn’t be making weird comments.

Kids is one exception where you have to make some contact and have things you have to follow. But. Yeah still he shouldn’t do that.

[cth2188]

There's a custody agreement in place why I have too keep reaching out to my lawyer to look over everything

[cth2188]

I don't get in their marriage , but don't share things with him pertaining to my love and personal life

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. That’s true. I mean. Yeah. There is stuff you have to do. But he shouldn’t say stuff

[Summeroflove]

Exactly. Because you’re not a idiot like him. You’re broke up with him so it’s not your business what he does anymore or his relationships. He’s the one choosing not to be civil.

[cth2188]

He's immature

[Summeroflove]

Yeah for sure.

[ArrowheadSW]

That is odd that he is upset because you're single. I don't understand that. Why would it matter?

[cth2188]

I don't know he constantly throws this up and this is why I'm not married to you despite he cheated.. he doesn't seem happy in his marriage and the only reason we communicate is because of the custody issue in place

[ArrowheadSW]

He sounds like a weird guy. I've never got that either, people being unhappy with marriage but still they think everyone is supposed to be married.

[cth2188]

He's not happy clearly

[cth2188]

I am glad we are divorced as he's toxic

[ArrowheadSW]

Does he belong to some cultural group that believes that everyone should be married?

[cth2188]

He's an entitled prick

[cth2188]

He had his chances with me and lost it

[cth2188]

He cheated

[DiegoO]

Lol, enjoy you life and cut all ties with him. If I ever got upset with my ex, after breakup, was due to her 1 year like; making me believe she was single again, when she jumped to another relation, months after we ended.

[cth2188]

There's a custody agreement in place he's unhappy , but boundaries are in place

[hahahmm]

He suspects that he wasted too much time with someone who is totally unsuitable for marriage.

[cth2188]

Must be with his current wife he lost me based on his own stupidity of cheating

[hahahmm]

So why are you still talking to him?

[cth2188]

Custody agreement there are kids involved clearly I'm not talking to him just to be talking

[hahahmm]

In that case maybe he's hoping you find a sucker to help pay for the kids.

[cth2188]

I don't need his money or any man's money without the money my kids are set. He owes for the kids not me

[cth2188]

I don't rely on me for anything not even sex

[cth2188]

Men ^

[hahahmm]

You say he 'owes' so you're thinking about his money -- even if it's only for the kids & even if you say you don't need it. He knows this too.

[cth2188]

He can rake it up with the courts he has to pay alimony and cs

[cth2188]

Joy of being married

[cth2188]

Why I'd never marry again or date

[DavidRaul]

Looks like he wants to have sex with you or doesn't want you to have fun with other men. He seems like a hypocrite

[cth2188]

I don't have fun with men - sex with me will never happen

[cth2188]

Ikr he's a piece of work

[DavidRaul]

He should just leave you alone

[cth2188]

Kids are involved custody agreement

[cth2188]

Only reason why we deal with each other

[DavidRaul]

Well he should keep a distance and shouldn't be concerned about your personal life

[cth2188]

I told him that tonight clearly he's not happy married

[Guardian45]

Marriage is NOT for everyone! One burned; twice shy. Where I'm from, partnerships outside of Marriage are common.

[cth2188]

He burned me not the other way around

[cth2188]

Yes I agree

[cloud9vortex1234]

You must be upset or you wouldn't be mentioning it.

[cth2188]

Why wouldn't I be upset if he's disrespecting me

[cloud9vortex1234]

He must mean something to you or else you wouldn't care.

[cth2188]

Why wouldn't I care he's married and I have to deal with him because of custody agreements in place. So I have to hear these things in relation to our kids

[cth2188]

I don't know what you're getting at seriously

[cloud9vortex1234]

Well, you didn't mention anything about kids at the top.

[cth2188]

I'm not obligated to put my business on GAG

[cloud9vortex1234]

Lol, WTF, you just did. Anyway, have a Good Day.

[Anonymous]

He just missed to have sex with you...

[cth2188]

He has a wife

[Opinion Owner]

But he miss the sex with you..

[cth2188]

Oh well to him

[Opinion Owner]

You can pm me for more details

[cth2188]

No need to explain he'll never have me or access to me. He's better off staying with his wife

[Opinion Owner]

Take care bye

[cth2188]

Thanks