Why does my husband still talk to his ex when he knows I hate her? She’s single but he’s always checking on her making sure she’s ok?

[Anonymous]

A few months ago I went through his phone to see that they’ve been consistently talking for a year behind my back. She is much younger. I flipped out and asked him to cut her out. Now he’s always emailing her (not allowed to text) and asking her how she is, if she’s ok. He told her that she was a “VERY CARING AND LOVING” human. Does he like her?

[AviatorTom]

He obviously still cares about her well-being. You are being insecure. Back off trying to tell him what he can and cannot do. You both will be better in the long run.

Why do you hate her? Because she had him before you?

[Asker]

Why does he care about her so much? she's ugly. She’s much younger. She tries to steal him from me. He’s always checking on her and telling her that he’s there for me if she ever needs anything.

[Asker]

Why tell her that she’s a VERY CARING AND LOVING” human. Does he like her?

[rosemilk]

why exactly do you need him to cut her out? ex's can still be friends. this is pretty common with people.

and why are you deciding who he can talk to and also why are you looking through his phone? does he have no privacy? you are going to sabotage yourself acting like this.

[Asker]

Why does he care about her so much? she's ugly. She’s much younger. She tries to steal him from me. He’s always checking on her and telling her that he’s there for me if she ever needs anything. Why tell her that she’s a very caring and loving human being?

[rosemilk]

yeah but i don't understand the jealousy here. he is in a relationship with you, isn't he? what is she doing that she's stealing him about from you? do they hang out more than you two do?

[Asker]

He tried to meet her many times without telling me.

[IslaTheWitch]

Because his past life won't disappear only because he is with you; he has friendly contact with his ex, and it's great.

Fix your insecurities and enjoy your relationship.

[Asker]

Why does he care about her so much? she's ugly. She’s much younger. She tries to steal him from me. He’s always checking on her and telling her that he’s there for me if she ever needs anything. Why tell her that she’s a very caring and loving human being?

[IslaTheWitch]

If you don't trust him, why are you with him?

[Tharithi]

Clearly she’s not ugly if he’s going behind her

[boggboss]

Clearly otherwise he wouldn't be contacting her behind your back when he knows u don't like him doing so

[Asker]

Why tell her that she’s a VERY CARING AND LOVING” human. Does he like her?

[boggboss]

Like I said clearly he likes her lol how is that even a question

[Asker]

Divorce isn’t an option for us and he denied he likes her. So if he likes her, what will he do?

[boggboss]

I dono continue to talk to her he also might cheat but I dono if he wants to fuck or be friends with her if divorce ain't a option u can't do anything about it

[boggboss]

If he has tried to meet her behind your back seems pretty obvious

[Asker]

How come he still does this if she's ugly?

[boggboss]

Her being ugly is your opinion not fact

[Tharithi]

Isn’t a option? Lol

[boggboss]

I couldn't even be bothered to ask lol

[JustRosie]

First of all, looking through his phone was a violation of his privacy and you were wrong there, but if you tell him to stop communicating with his ex, he needs to stop communicating with his ex. He does not respect your boundaries.

[KittygosMeoWW]

If they share a child that’s understandable but if not it shouldn’t be happening that often. You’re his wife and main priority.

[DreamLife7]

Because he can, you're annoying , immature, insecure and weak. He's tired of you and cheating on you. Good for him