Thoughs on sending her a message but more looking for closure from it?

[Anonymous]

i haven't actually seen her in person since her job ended here at the end of summer. our whole relationship is confusing and although i really liked her was never really able to understand what was going on with her so by the time she left was fairly annoyed with things and hurt.

and now feel that i never got any closure and unable to say to myself that she's a part of my past as i don't really know if i'll see her again or not.

as to what i wanted to say to her in this message , nothing intense or emotional , just that i was sorry about things that happened between us , that i missed talking to her and wondered what she was up to. but like no expectations obviously as i'm not really expecting a reply

but i don't know , tried to write down some ideas but message always seems too long and just not sure how she'd react to me sending her something to her social media as we had typically only talked in person

[Guy13]

For your piece of mind, good sleep, and simply to know you did all you could in the circumstance you should reach out. I sure wish the circumstances were different when we first met... now they are... are you available to connect with-kind of thing. Moving forward Vision with a hint of apology/maturing... Play with it but subtle hints of acknowledgemen, still think about you/what could have been/these are new Times "thing" Good luck!!!

[Asker]

any ideas on a possible lenght? like min / max # of lines /words. not necessary that worried if i get a reply , more doing this for my own piece of mind , so have little expectations

[Guy13]

Concise is best. Three heavy sentences, in person NOT text, is about all one can take.

Phone okay… you will eventually text for confirmation. Hear and see nonverbal communication if possible.

[Asker]

the message has to be sent online , haven't seen her inperson for weeks , so basically a few main points but nothing more would make the best message?

[Guy13]

Try to give her a vision if a face-face relationship in real time.

[Anonymous]

Your unable to say to yourself that she was part of your past”? I don’t understand.. you’re trying to forget her?

[Asker]

not trying to forget her , just trying to ind some closure after a confusing past few months and various experiences that involved her. i just find that i'm annoyed by what happened and don't seem to find any ways to feel better about it

[Opinion Owner]

Did she ghost you?

[Opinion Owner]

And, if she did message you back, and you HAVE expectations, what would you most want out of her response and where her head is?

[Opinion Owner]

*what’s the best possible outcome that could come out of this shall you contact her? Hm?

[Asker]

did she ghost me? maybe i haven't seen her in a bit but her job here ended and she went back to school when i last saw her

[Asker]

i haven't messaged her yet but very close to sending it as i re wrote a new draft and it sounds better

don't really have much expectations that she'd write back , if she did it be good to hear something from her but expectations are low , more looking for peace of mind from my end of things so i feel better about this

[Opinion Owner]

How did things end that you feel like you need closer?

[In_Trance]

waste of time. Closure is overrated

[Asker]

i don't really have any expectations for such a message obviously , in terms of closure , guess i'd just feel better knowing i had tried to reach out to her and that she at least knew i was sorry and was moving on with my life

[In_Trance]

She won't even pay attention. She's already moving on. You need to do the same