How long would you wait to remarry after divorce?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

[WhiteSteve]

I’ve always thought it’s absolutely crazy how quickly people marry to begin with. There’s social validation that comes with it, and we naturally are meant to be breeding starting as young teenagers if we were in the wild, but our fabricated society has us all in school during those years, and often college follows, and maybe grad school, and before you know it, you’re pushing 30 and the women are starting to worry about having babies while they still can. But I need like ten years of dating MINIMUM before I could say with any certainty that I could tolerate marriage to someone for like 50 years.

My lady and I have been together for 15 years. She’s had a long-term illness, we’d likely otherwise be married by now, but still…that 10-15 year mark is where I can start considering a lifetime commitment. I can’t tell everything I need to know about someone in just like 1-5 years. Other women have really pressured her, like “giiiirrrrrllllllll, you need to tell that man to put a ring on it or get out!”, and it’s like “lady, in the time she and I have been together, I’ve seen people date, get engaged, get married, have a kid, get divorced, date again, get engaged again, marry again, maybe even divorce again….. forgive me if I don’t do things ‘your way’”, lmfao.

Meanwhile, when we finally get to it, I feel like we’ll last. Can’t know for sure, of course, but I feel much more confident than these people who declare themselves “soulmates” after like six months, lmao. That’s sweet and all, I don’t mean to be mean or cynical, but I’m just saying I’ve seen a thousand of these “forever” couples, and they don’t last even ten years. You gotta let the shine wear off of someone. It’s easy to get caught up in the love and the lust and all that, especially when we’re younger, but the question you need to ask yourself is, if this person went through a car windshield tomorrow and never walked again, needed to be taken care of fully and full-time, would you do it? Would they do it for you? You’re not always going to be holding hands on the beach and canoodling on a picnic blanket. You might end up in a doctor’s office hearing that one of you has cancer and will need to fight for their life through chemotherapy. Life can be real serious, and you’d better have a serious partner if you’re looking to partner up.

[OlderAndWiser]

Regardless of how long a couple is separated, the finality of a divorce really does not take its effect until the divorce is final, so it doesn't matter how long you were separated. My standard advice to divorce clients, when I was handling divorces, was to wait a full two years after the divorce is final before contemplating re-marriage.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Aerissa_Jade]

It really depends on how long the divorce took, some of those can take years... which means while it has been going through the system for 2 to 5 years, it is likely that you've already met someone new and simply waiting for that to be completed before marrying them.

As for me, I will not get married again... never ever.

[Account]

I most possibly wouldn't remarry after divorce.
I don't even want to get married once, let alone twice. It is not for me.
However, never say never.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I agree with "never say never" - I have a friend who swore up and down she would never get married - guess who invited my wife and me to her wedding this spring?

That said I think it's perfectly fine to stick to it and not marry. I know people who are not married but it's like they are, for how strong their relationships are.

[BlueScorpio]

That makes me sad, I don't want to ever get divorce 😢 😞 I honestly think I would just stay single afterwards and focus on my daughter

[Chazmatazz269]

Hahahaha!!!
I’m a man. I won’t get married unless and until marriage and divorce change a great deal, societally and legally. If i were a man who got suckered before i realized the massive inequity in divorce and family courts, i’d certainly never marry again after the first divorce. I respect myself and i value the life and livelihood i’ve built for myself. The courts do not and i’m fairly certain most women also do not. Only stoopid dudes are marrying. Only the absolute brain-dead would remarry. Ell oh ell!

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

If I lived in America, I too would be wary about marrying.

[NathanDavis]

that's the kind of thing I would decide only, and if, I were to be in that situation... not before it, there would be a lot of different circumstances and factors to consider

before, during, and after the facts... as well

not something I could predict nor plan in advance eithers, so I don't know... I've just never been in that kind of situation

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I wouldn't remarry, I'd just want to have one partner and of anything happens, that's the end of my love life. I'd have think about it since I'd want to understand why my partner divorced me.

[Likes2drive]

That really depends on finding the right person, when my divorce was finalized over 6 years ago my ex got married again 2 weeks later, obviously she was with him on the side for years while we were married. I’m still single and have no idea if I’ll do it again but now I have years of experience so I’ll know what to look for

[Safa01]

Yearsssss, maybe I would never remarry. But I would date, etc. And be in a comitted relationship (like marriage, just without the documents) from when it felt right and with the right person.

[Anonymous]

If you lose weight will you go and eat fast food all over again? No being fat once was a lesson
Same goes to divorce you got married once you saw what’s his why remarry again and quick at that !! I mean it’s not Olympics take it easy

[Opinion Owner]

You saw what’s up *

[MendaciousMarxist]

I'm honestly done with dating but if I wasn't I wouldn't wait at all, as soon as I want to marry, I will

[Msputiton]

There is no time frame.

It would depend how long it takes to get over them.

It could be anytime frame.

[Labokachulaa]

I honestly wouldn't ever want to get a divorce and if I did, I wouldn't want to remarry. However, I think it varies by person and situation. I believe that only YOU know when the time is right, nobody else can decide for you.

[IveGotNoName]

I won't get married unless I'm sure it will be a lasting one, but if a divorce were to happen down the road, I would not remarry.

[dustybiker]

Always listened to my gut. It never lead me astray.

[dancaps2]

I would wait at least a few years. It's best to let all the emotions settle and get fully over it so your in a good place for the new partner. If not you will be messed up and not be able to function normally in the new marriage. It's a good thing to have time to realise what went wrong before in order to avoid the same mistake in the future.

[LiamJHayden]

I have no intention of marrying in the first place.

[nawtee_me]

I have been divorced 20 years ago and I am still waiting...

[Multi_personality]

I re marry after 4 years

[TrueConfection]

Not long. I love being married.

[moonpie89]

Not long I don't think. On to the next one

[AdithyaR]

Probably never.

[BLP11520]

Not very long

[EaterPeter]

1 to 8 year.