A good question. Since she recently broke up with me, it's a bit challenging. For example the reason for the breakup was mostly because of my insecurities and weaknesses. Such as me being too much obsessed with her and a bit needy.
So the reality is she decided to break up.
But because I need to work on my insecurities and weaknesses, of course NOW would be so hard to handle knowing that other man is wrapping her in his arms, kissing her or even sleeping with her. Because I haven't worked on myself just yet as I've stated it's a recent breakup, i would he so exhausted and frustrated about it of course. But as time passes and I've worked on myself, things may change. For a start I may not be that bothered as I would be healed and matured enough to understand that this is part and parcel of life. Things happen either we like it or not. The time she wants to get back may be a time I'm no longer angry or frustrated, and therefore I may try once more without an issue. But just to note that if I truly loved her (Which I have) and many months has passed in between, I would want her to win me back. No entrance for an easy cake. When they leave you for whatever reason, they have to earn you back. Then obviously I would see how things go. So for me, as long as I have worked on myself and is no longer obsessed with her, I may consider taking her back after she has earned me back.
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I would not. Think about it like this: if you broke up, and they started having sex again with other people, it's not the risk of STDs or anything like that that would concern me, but the heart. Assuming you aren't doing the same thing as your question, would you be okay with taking back someone who wanted to have sex with others as a way to "get over" you, or suppress the pain? Or they had sex with others out of a feeling of freedom from the relationship? Or had sex with them (and this is mostly the case with women) as a way to vet the person out or see if having sex with them will make them want to stay?
If that person decided they want to come back to you, would you really be okay with that? How would it make you feel?
No, I personally wouldn't. There's too many chances of things going wrong and there being unnecessary drama.
I feel like if you broke up, everything is still fresh. So, in my head, you broke up just to have the excuse of sleeping with someone else and it not be considered cheating.
Just ask for STD tests. Mature people do not refuse health and safety of people they care about.
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If you are married you would. And if you loved her blindly then you would. If nether of those things applied then I would not. Just me though...
Tryng to reunite with an ex is a mistake regardless of whether they have been out boinking other people in the meanwhile.
Once there’s been a break up it’s hard to rebuild that relationship whether they slept with someone or not.
After my LD ex breakup, I promise my self I'll give it a last try to save money and go and see her—I really wanted to give one more try—. Well, everything went to hell. First because of the political inestability of my country, second because she was already seen someone she met ALSO online. They kissed—according to what she said. They had sex?—she said no, but I have no idea. From the moment she confessed there was another, I knew that I had to quit any plans I had with her. So it happened. I recovered most of my important plans—those that I had before knowing her.
Its tough, but, what to do? Is either accept the reality, or go nuts after something you can really change. She took her decision and I took mine.
Probably not. Definitely not if she was from the same town we live in.
Yes, I would. If there was a breakup, they're not my partner
Move on upgrade yourself and you will be happy
I don't take back anyone and I don't have any contact with any ex either.
At the risk of VD? NO THANKS
I don't take back anyone.
nope
Not under any circumstance
Once I’m done I’m done lol
No way. This is some cuckoldry nonsense.
Past is past. Things happen dont quit
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