Would you take back your partner if she/he had other sexual partners after the breakup?

[Anonymous]

[Maybe_1day]

A good question. Since she recently broke up with me, it's a bit challenging. For example the reason for the breakup was mostly because of my insecurities and weaknesses. Such as me being too much obsessed with her and a bit needy.
So the reality is she decided to break up.
But because I need to work on my insecurities and weaknesses, of course NOW would be so hard to handle knowing that other man is wrapping her in his arms, kissing her or even sleeping with her. Because I haven't worked on myself just yet as I've stated it's a recent breakup, i would he so exhausted and frustrated about it of course. But as time passes and I've worked on myself, things may change. For a start I may not be that bothered as I would be healed and matured enough to understand that this is part and parcel of life. Things happen either we like it or not. The time she wants to get back may be a time I'm no longer angry or frustrated, and therefore I may try once more without an issue. But just to note that if I truly loved her (Which I have) and many months has passed in between, I would want her to win me back. No entrance for an easy cake. When they leave you for whatever reason, they have to earn you back. Then obviously I would see how things go. So for me, as long as I have worked on myself and is no longer obsessed with her, I may consider taking her back after she has earned me back.

[JJMcc5049]

I get what you're saying but why we're you insecure and honestly did she make you feel inadequate or had work/ life /change or loss effected you and you needed help? Or was she just lovely and you felt obsession and ruined the relationship? Everyone handles break ups different and I had asked about my ex sleeping 5 men and 1 women while still sleeping with me every few months but the fact is that every thing happens for a reason and she was honest and told me but I took about a week to process then got beyond upset and angry then realised that we were soo different and would never work I guess it's a complement that she wanted me back but she didn't understand or think that many different people was bad or why I couldn't get back and was fine to just say I came back I've done nothing wrong and leave again. Any partner any gender who is just using or settling will make the other person question themselves and sometimes become massively insecure. Leave with your integrity and respect yourself and try to move on. If you figure out how to not think it was really just you let me know.

[Maybe_1day]

She did love me and show it as much as she can. I became insecure after having a lack of communication due to the conflicts in her country, no Internet access... etc. And during this period, we argued and she wanted space, etc. So I was full of anxiety. And when overthinking and creating scenarios in my mind saying to myself "She's OK chatting to her friends but me... anyone but me"... Just made me more angry and frustrated. Or else we didn't have an issue with our love and trust... but my frustrations just made her think I am too insecure and not respecting her space etc.

[ManOnFire]

I would not. Think about it like this: if you broke up, and they started having sex again with other people, it's not the risk of STDs or anything like that that would concern me, but the heart. Assuming you aren't doing the same thing as your question, would you be okay with taking back someone who wanted to have sex with others as a way to "get over" you, or suppress the pain? Or they had sex with others out of a feeling of freedom from the relationship? Or had sex with them (and this is mostly the case with women) as a way to vet the person out or see if having sex with them will make them want to stay?

If that person decided they want to come back to you, would you really be okay with that? How would it make you feel?

[Asker]

I personally feel like it would be okay if she actually did it to get over me and regretted it. If her reasons were desperate and she feels bad for it, it would be different than ,, i was single and wanted to do it“

[Labokachulaa]

No, I personally wouldn't. There's too many chances of things going wrong and there being unnecessary drama.

I feel like if you broke up, everything is still fresh. So, in my head, you broke up just to have the excuse of sleeping with someone else and it not be considered cheating.

[Asker]

What if it‘s been more than a year

[Labokachulaa]

A year after the breakup they've slept with someone else? Maybe. It all depends on the circumstances of the breakup and whether it was a healthy or toxic relationship.

[dustybiker]

Just ask for STD tests. Mature people do not refuse health and safety of people they care about.

[Guy13]

If you are married you would. And if you loved her blindly then you would. If nether of those things applied then I would not. Just me though...

[OlderAndWiser]

Tryng to reunite with an ex is a mistake regardless of whether they have been out boinking other people in the meanwhile.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Once there’s been a break up it’s hard to rebuild that relationship whether they slept with someone or not.

[DiegoO]

After my LD ex breakup, I promise my self I'll give it a last try to save money and go and see her—I really wanted to give one more try—. Well, everything went to hell. First because of the political inestability of my country, second because she was already seen someone she met ALSO online. They kissed—according to what she said. They had sex?—she said no, but I have no idea. From the moment she confessed there was another, I knew that I had to quit any plans I had with her. So it happened. I recovered most of my important plans—those that I had before knowing her.

Its tough, but, what to do? Is either accept the reality, or go nuts after something you can really change. She took her decision and I took mine.

[DiegoO]

can't really (...)

[TrueConfection]

Probably not. Definitely not if she was from the same town we live in.

[Nomina]

Yes, I would. If there was a breakup, they're not my partner

[eagleboss09]

Move on upgrade yourself and you will be happy

[HighValue]

I don't take back anyone and I don't have any contact with any ex either.

[JJMcc5049]

I was like that until I was 35... then realised I had never been in love until leaving my ex... And then did all the things I would have gave my mates shit over. I'll say you've not been in love with your exs... And before you tell me to do one just be honest if you have brothers sisters or parents who are less than perfect despite anything you would have time for contact.. Despite anything they had done?

[HighValue]

@JJMcc5049 No. I don't forgive wrongs easily and I DO hold grudges for some things. I have had no contact with my brother for many years.
I seriously do cut all contact forever with people that have wronged me.

[Anonymous]

I don't take back anyone.

[Gent207-2]

At the risk of VD? NO THANKS

[inhua]

nope

[aoihewgf]

Not under any circumstance

[Veronica1111]

Once I’m done I’m done lol

[bamesjond0069]

No way. This is some cuckoldry nonsense.

[Songomatic]

Past is past. Things happen dont quit

[Midgetmcwidget]

No...

[sheikalana]

Maybe.

[Asker]

What would be important factors?