If your partner broke up with you for someone else and decided they made a mistake and wanted you back would you go back?

[coachTanthony]

[Xoxocutekitty]

This actually happened to me.

Lowkey, had been seeing a guy (sexually exclusive but not yet titled/serious) and he asked me to be his girlfriend.

9 days later, he wants to meet at the park to reverse it, saying he was still secretly leaving voicemails to an ex who blocked him and he just wanted to 'let me know if she ever picked up he'd be right there for her.

So obviously I broke up with him on the spot. 3 weeks later when she still never gave him an ounce of attention he comes crawling back asking to be friends again. So we would sort of hang out on weekends (mostly I would drunk booty call) and then I got bored so decided to end the sex.

Course he was all like "why and I'm actually in love with you because you don't expect anything from me you just appreciate who I am (blah blah)."

Anyways, he pined after me for another 3 months, while I went off to live my own life with hobbies, friends, go on some coffee dates until I met my current beau of 16 months going strong.

[coachTanthony]

Wow good for you. That takes some balls to say hey if she comes back I am gone. WOW that is bold.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Heck no! It shouldn't take a guy losing me to realize what a catch I am, or how good he had it.

If he comes back, I will politely wave him goodbye in a VERY mature manner...

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂

[Minx7282]

😂😂😂 I'd send them cry me a river

[TheDeathless]

Ya know, I have about a 10% chance of that happening in my near future. In the beginning she was attempting to get over this emotionally manipulative and abusive dude. Never even met him but he played her heart like a fiddle and promised her the world. She told me she was moving on and got with me. Shit was great untill 2 days ago when she just tells me she needs to "see things through with him" aka "I'm gonna get yanked around for another year while he promises to meet me and then makes excuses as to why he won't". Her friends say she will come back when she realizes what a pos he is and finally blocks him. I'm unfortunately irrationally in love with her so I haven't been doing well these last two days and I don't know how I'll respond if she comes back.

[lightbulb27]

In genreal no, but depends on the reason and what going on and what learned and how serious it all was. But in general, that damages the sense of security and trust. Take a lot of communication.

I've heard of that happening more than once and they are married for long time now. They had to learn and see the value of the other person vs low character of others, else they'd only see the flaws in each other. Lack of experience may be a contributing factor in this happening.

People may run for the wrong reasons.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Nah, not my fault they fell for the "grass is greener"... If they weren't smart enough to realize what they had first time around, what's to say they'd be smart enough the second time... Hard pass.. Not into yoyo relationships

[coachTanthony]

Yes exatomundo!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍💯😊

[cth96190]

You are a hard woman.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@cth96190 no I'm not... I'm just not going to waste my life on games and BS.. You would take a woman back after she left you for someone else?

[cth96190]

@Brainsbeforebeauty
Whether or not I entertained the idea of taking back a woman who had left me for someone else would depend upon the circumstances.
For example, if she came to me and said that it was over because she wanted to be with someone else, and later came back and said that she had made a horrible mistake and wanted me, I would have a conversation about that and consider the matter.
She had been up front and honourable and willing to admit that she had made a mistake. Those are positive qualities in a potential mate.
If, however, she had done anything like the sort of thing that my first two girlfriends did not me, I would tell her to burn in Hell.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@cth96190 see but that's you! And me, if someone dumped me to be with someone else and then because it didn't work out think they could come back to me, I have a right to not want that person... I do find out curious tho that of all the women and guys that said the same thing you choose to say I'm a hard woman yet didn't say that to anyone else🤔🤔

[Paris13]

You could Never Trust Them Again. xx

[Browneye57]

The answer to that is... wait for it... FUCK. NO.
Hypergamy says she'll do it again. Bored, wanders off looking for CHAD THUNDERCOCK.

Interestingly, one of the best ways to get your cheating wife back, is to literally GIVE her to the other guy. Pack her shit, take her over to his place, and tell him she's his. 99% of the time they don't want that, or her, that way, they're just entertaining her need for a good fucking. And 99% of the time he'll dump her cuz he doesn't want the commitment or responsibility. Then you have to decide if YOU want her either. Lying cheating fucking cunt.

In order to change the dynamic of a failed relationship, you have to be willing to give it up. To walk away. You state your place, your position, what is acceptable and what isn't, and let the chips fall where they may.

[have_a_good_day]

This actually happened to me.
it happened when I was 23. She dumped me to run back to the father of her child. A week later she messaged me telling me : "I am willing to give you another chance"

Now... Understand that I was still young and she was only ny second girlfriend ever.. So I was very hurt and felt betrayed and SO ANGRY.
So that night I went to her place and I fucked her brains out 😐
After that, I got dressed and left. She never saw or heard from me again.

in a weird way it felt like I took my power back. The power that I lost when I lost myself.

Haven't had a girl ever since. Haven't held a hand, haven't cuddled, haven't kissed any girl since 12 years ago.

I refuse to ever feel like that ever again.

[bones0271]

That Breakup must had a profound impact on 🧒 you

[TruthBringer]

Absolutely not. Only the weak with no self-respect will take them back. You get one chance, if you blow it, then someone else will take your spot. Either you choose me or you lose me, simple as that. A "significant other" who quits on you for someone else has just validated that they aren't worth it.

[PinkMichae]

The person I am today I'd say no. But I didn't love myself once apon a time and I stayed with the father of my child after he told me he was leaving me for an ex-girlfriend of his he had been having a cyber affair with for 6 months.

I should have left then when he decided he wanted to make it work between us. Ultimately 2 years. later as it ate me up inside and he rattled my trust again I did leave. I took that time after to better my self worth.

[Minx7282]

Good on you as thats so hard to do. From the sounds of it anyway you deserved so much better from the getgo. But as i can see in your comment you don't regret it in a way as it taught you a valuable lesson one that not many people learn in their entire lifetime. That's self respect

[tatianamay]

Never really been there. I’m turning 16 soon and I’ve never really been in a relationship before. But if that happens to me, I’d be like: bitch you better run for the hills or I’m gonna castrate you, cuz you were the one who left me. I ain’t going to back to you. Fuck off”

[ShadezMcgee]

That happened to me already, Coach. She went off to another guy, came crawling back three months later like nothing happened.

I was civil, but had no intention of getting back with her after she did that.

[coachTanthony]

OMG well good for you.

[Tiptoetamm]

It would be hard I don't know, probably not, maybe he should have though about that before he left me

[coachTanthony]

Nothing worse then being second choice.

[Tiptoetamm]

Right that's one thing I won't put up with. I know there are other men out there so if he doesn't want it done else will

[Tiptoetamm]

Someone else will I ment

[Minx7282]

Nope, I'm not playing second best in any circumstances. No matter how long or how much history we have. If you break up with me for someone else that's entirely your choice. But my entire choice isn't going back to them

[JuliaStyles]

Nope. They have one chance with me. I don't want to be with someone who would drop me every time a girl makes eyes at him. So if he was to dump me for a better offer then he's history and no returns.

[Devlaw5]

Definitely not. If you left me for someone else, it means you saw something you wanted in someone else you never saw in me. I’m not gonna change unless I think I need something about me to change. Which means whatever they saw that wanted and I never had, chances are I’m not gonna have it when they want back in. Taking them back would be more trouble than it’s worth.

[SamA_nold]

Nope. You already showed that you are only here until someone "better" comes along. I'm not going to be your second choice.

[Anonymous]

Maybe. You need to make an assessment. How they conducted themselves when they left, how they are now, and whether you think you'll be able to achieve much with them in the future. And whether you think they will pull this nonsense again or you're better just moving on. Right now, you have the perfect out.

[BeeNee]

I'm not a bookmark you can flip back to find when you've lost your place! I'm a human being with feelings whom I can only assume in this hypothetical really liked/loved the other person only to be crushed and pushed aside for another. So in that case, go and be free, do what you want, but it won't be with me. Life is all about choices and if a guy chose someone over me, then know that I choose to move on and find someone who will always chose me.

[Anonymous]

I’m going through this now. He trying to come back. His behavior has changed for the better which has made it hard for me to dismiss him. We were together for 5 years

[coachTanthony]

That is a tough decision for sure.

[thimmslicc]

Probably not.
A tiger never loses its stripes.
Same person, same bullshit.
The only way I know you will change, is if you gave me your mind, your eyes, your phone. Your social security #
Show me you are a new person. But then again, you might be a new type of bad person the 2nd time around.

[Adam1978]

No she didn't value me enough before and I won't give her less reason to do so by taking her back. That like allowing her to go around trying people without consequences.

[hahahmm]

Only if 1.) the split was long ago and we've both changed for the better. If we're the same as we were then the relationship will end the same way again. 2.) If she's the type with super low body count. No way if she's a high mileage type.

At my stage of life... I don't think I'm going to change anymore tho so ha ha ha ha.

[Citizenkirk]

No. They can 👄 my...

If they need clarification, 💋 MY...

Pucker up, and...