If your partner broke up with you for someone else and decided they made a mistake and wanted you back would you go back?

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Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

This actually happened to me.

Lowkey, had been seeing a guy (sexually exclusive but not yet titled/serious) and he asked me to be his girlfriend.

9 days later, he wants to meet at the park to reverse it, saying he was still secretly leaving voicemails to an ex who blocked him and he just wanted to 'let me know if she ever picked up he'd be right there for her.

So obviously I broke up with him on the spot. 3 weeks later when she still never gave him an ounce of attention he comes crawling back asking to be friends again. So we would sort of hang out on weekends (mostly I would drunk booty call) and then I got bored so decided to end the sex.

Course he was all like "why and I'm actually in love with you because you don't expect anything from me you just appreciate who I am (blah blah)."

Anyways, he pined after me for another 3 months, while I went off to live my own life with hobbies, friends, go on some coffee dates until I met my current beau of 16 months going strong.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Heck no! It shouldn't take a guy losing me to realize what a catch I am, or how good he had it. If he comes back, I will politely wave him goodbye in a VERY mature manner...

TheDeathless · Accepted Answer

Ya know, I have about a 10% chance of that happening in my near future. In the beginning she was attempting to get over this emotionally manipulative and abusive dude. Never even met him but he played her heart like a fiddle and promised her the world. She told me she was moving on and got with me. Shit was great untill 2 days ago when she just tells me she needs to "see things through with him" aka "I'm gonna get yanked around for another year while he promises to meet me and then makes excuses as to why he won't". Her friends say she will come back when she realizes what a pos he is and finally blocks him. I'm unfortunately irrationally in love with her so I haven't been doing well these last two days and I don't know how I'll respond if she comes back.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

In genreal no, but depends on the reason and what going on and what learned and how serious it all was. But in general, that damages the sense of security and trust. Take a lot of communication.

I've heard of that happening more than once and they are married for long time now. They had to learn and see the value of the other person vs low character of others, else they'd only see the flaws in each other. Lack of experience may be a contributing factor in this happening.

People may run for the wrong reasons.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Nah, not my fault they fell for the "grass is greener"... If they weren't smart enough to realize what they had first time around, what's to say they'd be smart enough the second time... Hard pass.. Not into yoyo relationships

Paris13 · Answer

You could Never Trust Them Again. xx

Browneye57 · Answer

The answer to that is... wait for it... FUCK. NO.
Hypergamy says she'll do it again. Bored, wanders off looking for CHAD THUNDERCOCK.

Interestingly, one of the best ways to get your cheating wife back, is to literally GIVE her to the other guy. Pack her shit, take her over to his place, and tell him she's his. 99% of the time they don't want that, or her, that way, they're just entertaining her need for a good fucking. And 99% of the time he'll dump her cuz he doesn't want the commitment or responsibility. Then you have to decide if YOU want her either. Lying cheating fucking cunt.

In order to change the dynamic of a failed relationship, you have to be willing to give it up. To walk away. You state your place, your position, what is acceptable and what isn't, and let the chips fall where they may.

have_a_good_day · Answer

This actually happened to me.
it happened when I was 23. She dumped me to run back to the father of her child. A week later she messaged me telling me : "I am willing to give you another chance"

Now... Understand that I was still young and she was only ny second girlfriend ever.. So I was very hurt and felt betrayed and SO ANGRY.
So that night I went to her place and I fucked her brains out 😐
After that, I got dressed and left. She never saw or heard from me again.

in a weird way it felt like I took my power back. The power that I lost when I lost myself.

Haven't had a girl ever since. Haven't held a hand, haven't cuddled, haven't kissed any girl since 12 years ago.

I refuse to ever feel like that ever again.

TruthBringer · Answer

Absolutely not. Only the weak with no self-respect will take them back. You get one chance, if you blow it, then someone else will take your spot. Either you choose me or you lose me, simple as that. A "significant other" who quits on you for someone else has just validated that they aren't worth it.

PinkMichae · Answer

The person I am today I'd say no. But I didn't love myself once apon a time and I stayed with the father of my child after he told me he was leaving me for an ex-girlfriend of his he had been having a cyber affair with for 6 months.

I should have left then when he decided he wanted to make it work between us. Ultimately 2 years. later as it ate me up inside and he rattled my trust again I did leave. I took that time after to better my self worth.

tatianamay · Answer

Never really been there. I’m turning 16 soon and I’ve never really been in a relationship before. But if that happens to me, I’d be like: bitch you better run for the hills or I’m gonna castrate you, cuz you were the one who left me. I ain’t going to back to you. Fuck off”

ShadezMcgee · Answer

That happened to me already, Coach. She went off to another guy, came crawling back three months later like nothing happened.

I was civil, but had no intention of getting back with her after she did that.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

It would be hard I don't know, probably not, maybe he should have though about that before he left me

Minx7282 · Answer

Nope, I'm not playing second best in any circumstances. No matter how long or how much history we have. If you break up with me for someone else that's entirely your choice. But my entire choice isn't going back to them

JuliaStyles · Answer

Nope. They have one chance with me. I don't want to be with someone who would drop me every time a girl makes eyes at him. So if he was to dump me for a better offer then he's history and no returns.

Devlaw5 · Answer

Definitely not. If you left me for someone else, it means you saw something you wanted in someone else you never saw in me. I’m not gonna change unless I think I need something about me to change. Which means whatever they saw that wanted and I never had, chances are I’m not gonna have it when they want back in. Taking them back would be more trouble than it’s worth.

SamA_nold · Answer

Nope. You already showed that you are only here until someone "better" comes along. I'm not going to be your second choice.

BeeNee · Answer

I'm not a bookmark you can flip back to find when you've lost your place! I'm a human being with feelings whom I can only assume in this hypothetical really liked/loved the other person only to be crushed and pushed aside for another. So in that case, go and be free, do what you want, but it won't be with me. Life is all about choices and if a guy chose someone over me, then know that I choose to move on and find someone who will always chose me.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m going through this now. He trying to come back. His behavior has changed for the better which has made it hard for me to dismiss him. We were together for 5 years

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe. You need to make an assessment. How they conducted themselves when they left, how they are now, and whether you think you'll be able to achieve much with them in the future. And whether you think they will pull this nonsense again or you're better just moving on. Right now, you have the perfect out.

thimmslicc · Answer

Probably not.
A tiger never loses its stripes.
Same person, same bullshit.
The only way I know you will change, is if you gave me your mind, your eyes, your phone. Your social security #
Show me you are a new person. But then again, you might be a new type of bad person the 2nd time around.

Adam1978 · Answer

No she didn't value me enough before and I won't give her less reason to do so by taking her back. That like allowing her to go around trying people without consequences.

hahahmm · Answer

Only if 1.) the split was long ago and we've both changed for the better. If we're the same as we were then the relationship will end the same way again. 2.) If she's the type with super low body count. No way if she's a high mileage type.

At my stage of life... I don't think I'm going to change anymore tho so ha ha ha ha.

Citizenkirk · Answer

No. They can 👄 my... If they need clarification, 💋 MY... Pucker up, and...

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Answer

Hell to the no! If you took them back what would stop them from doing it again? Then you would look like a fool twice. I would tell them to kick rocks on around the corner.

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Hahahahaha! Oh, you’re serious.  Let me laugh even harder.  HAHAHAHAHA! Hopefully someone gets the reference.

NathanDavis · Answer

Nope, because I'd feel it was me the one making a mistake as well... by "picking" someone capable of doing something like that. And I really don't like to trip over the same stone twice.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Zero chance of that happening. I put my heart and soul in keeping things together. Once it's over and I accept it, I NEVER go back!

she_asks_and_answers · Answer

Nope. Too bad so sad, build a bridge and get over it... I won't even provide a tissue for his issue...

MyNameJames · Answer

Seriously depends on my feelings, how they broke things off, and whether we maintained interaction during their "confusion".

If they I didn't still like them and they ended things shittily and didn't talk to me during their"confusion" then we won't be restarting.

If I still like them a d we ended things on great terms and we still talked as friends during their "confusion" then I'd give them another shot.

loveslongnails · Answer

There's no putting the toothpaste back in the tube after that one coach. She can live with the "you didn't know what you had till it was gone" taste for a while. Girls like that don't take long to find another guy.

OutWestBandit · Answer

Nope, the second they admit that you take #2 spot to some new guy she just met? Nope bye. If I happen to see you while I am out drinking you can suck me off in the parking lot - but that's about it.

beebella · Answer

Why would I go back? If they left me for someone else, obviously they didn't really want me.

cth96190 · Answer

Probably not, but I might be willing to talk about it. A full-spectrum STD test would be essential.

PBarlow · Answer

For a hook up and then get out breakfast and I'd be on my way. Thank you very much

C3397 · Answer

I won't take him back because I closed the door behind him.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Haha no. I'm their loss and one who got away at that point. I'm no one's second choice.

exitseven · Answer

Maybe. It depends on how much I missed her, what went on with the other guy and if I had already found somebody new.

alice55 · Answer

No, I would just laugh in his face and tell him to fuck off.

Dragonpurple · Answer

No, cause that means they'll do it again if they think they can 'upgrade.'

jakejacobson110 · Answer

I would have some really freaky make up sex. Do some kinky stuff outside her comfort zone, make her into a whore for me. Then ghost and never see her again.

Somoneelse · Answer

Hell no! They wanted to trade you in for someone else. Found out they fucked up and crawl back to you because you are the cheap option. They don't love you when they decide to leave you for someone else. Only an idiot would fall for this stupidity

AnggieGirl · Answer

Nope. Been there and I never accept :)
That’s their boo boo and it’s never our job to fix someone, they cannot come to us and want us to fix them and save them. We are all adults at the end of our day

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If it takes them bei g with someone else to realize how wonderful I am they can stay away. They should have realized it when they were with me.

Lliam · Answer

I don't think I could. No. At that point, I might be willing to use her for a cum dump until I found someone else, but I would never be able to think of her as a potential partner.

Eelephant · Answer

Nope. If they they were okay with leaving me once for someone else, then I know that they weren't it it for me anyways and they're likely to do it again.

GoldenTulip · Answer

No! Once gone there is no going back. Sorry but you lost me...

lanadelrey25 · Answer

I refuse to be someone's second choice.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Probably not... there would have to be some factually relevant reason for us to get back together. Like we have kids together and it turned out that she was getting manipulated by her boss or something.

SewerDemon · Answer

It depends, if I really loved them then yes but if they were just a nuisance to me then I would chase them away with my cat

thismakessense1235 · Answer

no i wouldn't go back because they already broke my heart. and if i did go back and i did say yes, they would just break me again.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Nope. If they had enough doubts about our relationship to leave, then they didn't make a mistake. I'm don't want anyone who has any doubt that I am who they want

Guanfei · Answer

Nope, I'm not a spare tire, you wanted to fuck the other guy? Go, you're dead to me

AvatarTK · Answer

Well, you could test them to see if they really want you back. Or just don't go back the past is the past, stay in the present

Tiaani · Answer

No I wouldn't go back to someone who didn't realise how good I was in the first place it would be time to find someone better

JesseJayNeak · Answer

No, trust is everything. If she broke up with me for someone else, then that means she never loved me in the first place

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Some people seem to handle their lives like a garage sales activity :D  For myself, I consider my decisions carefully enough, so that later they don't need to be re-scheduled.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

No. It would be hard cause not being with OH means not seeing my kids everyday, but i would have to move on and find the best way to co-parent that we could

jerdanro · Answer

Nope. I wouldn't trust her not to do the same thing the next time she met someone "better"

Nazgol · Answer

No, I wouldn't. They made their choice& thats it. No going back now

Anonymous · Answer

I would. But only to bang her for a few weeks and then dump her for someone else.

kidvid80 · Answer

no, their mistake. live with your choice as i move on

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

I wouldn't take them back, no. They broke up with me for a reason.

Texasguy99 · Answer

Probably not. If they left once they’d most likely be willing to again

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