Would you go back to a partner that hit you?

[smahala1991]

My ex's boyfriend hit her the other day. She sent me a snapchat video of her crying and stuff. Only to find out this morning she took her abuser back. She had complained that he just wanted to play video games and not take care of her needs. She broke up with me because she said she couldn't deal with my anxiety. But said she regrets It. However she must not if she's taken an abuser back.

[AliceTheNguyener]

Well, looks like someone with anxiety was less attractive to her than a guy who literally beats her 🙄 Honestly I would feel bad for her lack of self confidence, but I don't tolerate people who keep going towards trouble. I'm sorry if you still have feelings for her but you deserve better than her, just like she deserves better than her boyfriend.

I have a friend who knows someone like this. She has been breaking up and getting back with a guy who hit her AND cheated on her more than once. Its because of a combination of blind love/lust and low self esteem for oneself. Your ex said she "regrets it" because in the moment she did regret it, but then threw it aside when her boyfriend called her over.

[Cherokeehp]

Yeah I’d go back to beat his ass.

[chevymcgthatsme]

Yeah thtsca good one pretend I forgave him nd still love him get him in a room nd kick absolute shit oot the basterd crushed his baws booted in the ass boot eez baws smack eez head on the first thing that will knock some fkn sence it ae the asshole no to mess again

[Cherokeehp]

@chevymcgthatsme yeah and then I leave and never return.

[Máiiréad]

This is a superb opinion right here lmao. Stephan give this girl what she earned. 😂😂😂

[smahala1991]

This is MHO worthy

[JessieBellll]

@Máiiréad yeah, too bad it's both illegal, dangerous and unrealistic unless she is trained somehow.

She is likely to have her ass whooped

[Máiiréad]

@JessieBellll "Unrealistic" is a term you should really refrain from using with people you do not know. She could be capable of anything in life if she really wanted to do something and it is rude of you to assume she is not. Thanks.

[JessieBellll]

@Máiiréad she said she would beat his ass. Most women are weaker than men.

He'd likely beat her ass and she'll deserve it

[Máiiréad]

@JessieBellll No.

[dudeinohio]

Typical. Women run back to their abusers. The abuser escalates and the woman finally ends up in the hospital, or dead.

The abuser makes the victim cut all ties with friends and family, in order to make them totally dependent upon them. Your ex has no place to go or a safety net and depends totally on him.

[Jjpayne]

The sad part is people go back to those they are familiar with and to boot, they prefer staying with a protector. If someone is physically abusive but they are strong, it oddly enough might be enough to help them to feel safer than being alone but that second one is just a guess... 😅

[justaspacerockthing]

that's disgusting on both her and her new boyfriends ends. she shouldn't have broken up with you due to your anxiety. and he should've never hit her. he sounds like a shitty boyfriend who doesn't know how to treat people with respect. she shouldn't be with him, but it's hard to get out of abusive relationships. try to help her out of it if you can, or find someone to at least.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Yeah probably. Not because I'm some low-esteem emo girl, but just because my assumption is that I've already built a life around my partner and that I would want to give them the benefit of the doubt before dumping them on the spot, and not having a place to sleep. Maybe it's different because I live with my partner, but it does make you think differently if you've had a long history of being happy together. Things like couples counselling and anger management therapy and religion is designed for these sorts of things.

If it's some quasi- boyfriend who I was still "in the process of getting serious with" (y'all know what i mean) then no, I'd pack my 1 backpack or drawer worth of stuff and high tail it out.

[Alpha09]

She's trying to manipulate you. If she wanted out she would call the police, it sounds like she's trying to pull you into something you definitely don't want any part of. However I could be wrong, just look for visible marks and above all keep yourself safe. Sounds like she fucked up by leaving you.

[alice55]

Depend on how much I love him and how hard he hit me. I'm used to being hit for multiple reasons by my mother so if he don't hit me too hard, I feel like he love me, I love him a tons much and others than that everything is ok then yes I would come back to him.
Lots of girls say they wouldn't but in reality a big portions of people (men and women) who get abused actually go back to their ex...

[Alpha09]

Do you have a death wish?

[alice55]

@Alpha09 I used to but not anymore it's just I think violence is ok if justified. People can hit you and still love you. My parents have hit me (my mother still continue to do so sometime) but I know they love me and they're the person who I trust the most so I don't think a bit of violence is as bad as people say is it... Some people just have bad temper.

[Alpha09]

That may be true but it doesn't make it any less wrong. They definitely don't respect you if they are doing that. My advice is move on from it and find someone who doesn't hurt you. My mother started hitting me as a kid and I put a stop to it before it got bad. Don't let people do that to you.

[alice55]

@Alpha09 If I do that then I would be all alone, also I cannot abandon her, she would be alone and I know that's the last things she want. Also most people are abuse but mind abuse. Physical abuse is easier to handle than mind abuse.
Respect or not so long as they love me it's ok. I'm awkward socially so before I make a friends it would take years..

[Alpha09]

Good luck.

[shafvron]

A younger me would have but I have met so many amazing people (mostly women) who have shared their experiences with domestic violence (or intimate partner violence) that I’ve learned the pros of leaving far outweigh the cons of it. And that once someone has shown you their true colours they don’t change. Maybe after they’ve been in therapy and have had a year or two to work on themselves it may be different but two strikes and call it quits as the more cycles are repeated the harder it is to get out.


Of course you have to be careful when moving out that you do it fast and without warning if it gets super serious as your partner could kill you if they seek what you are doing (like many have done).

[JamesRandiDebates]

You have to remember, there are a significant portion of females who don't feel loved unless they're being slapped around occasionally. They will provoke the violence. And if their man won't hit her, they will leave that guy for someone who will. Be very careful about believing any claim of abuse from a female.

[chevymcgthatsme]

No way one a women beater always one jst hook him right fkn bck but punch eez baws guys tht hit women make me sick let's see you do tht I I wasn't a women dick head

[Elsa143]

Your ex girlfriend is a pure bitch. She just denied a good guy and is attracted more to a masculine fuck boy. She's a sinner for hurting you.

[Elsa143]

Also yes I'll hit the abuser back and if he got worse I'll get him arrested. I'll curse him to die.

[Elsa143]

Your ex deserves it. Such a feet licking slave for taking that jerk back. Please block her she's planning to use you as her toilet paper soon.

[PaganWarrior]

No one deserves abuse you tool.

[Elsa143]

@PaganWarrior she only choose to take that abuser back and cheated on a decent guy.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would never go back to an abusive partner and I would not go back to an ex-partner who went back to their ex cause 90 chances out of 100 this will be a repeated pattern?

[DizzyDesii]

Go back to beat him tf up in return then leave AGAIN

[PaganWarrior]

No. She may be a bitch, but she doesn't deserve to have his hands on her. Weak little man. Love see him try push a real man around. Pussy.

[JessieBellll]

It depends.

Self defence is one thing and attacking someone is another.

[Citizenkirk]

My ex partner and I sparred a lot, but we were both competitive fighters, and sometimes incorporated grappling and wrestling with foreplay. But raising a hand, or your voice, in anger, is a big no, no, and should never be tolerated.

[btbc92]

What? Then I must be crazy. The answer is No!!!

[1031ent]

Bro that is a trap. Don't get sucked into other people's drama. Also her snap chat may have been b. s. Men were raised to fight to get their way, woman are raised to manipulate to get their way. You are being manipulated.

[DaMack999]

Woman often do that. Dick is sweeter to them then the abuse lol.

[legalboxers]

I maybe stupid.. if I go back to the ex who tried strangling me

[Agape93]

Fuck off spammee

[Bee-Hatch]

Only if it was to twat him in the balls with a rolling pin

[Nikki1989]

I would never go back.

[Nazgol]

No never. That guy clearly has issues & needs a whack in the head! "Video games"! Lol immature and childish guy

[NorthwestRider]

For one thing I am getting married

If I was single, I would only if it was a playful or sexual slap hehe

[Old_Golden]

It'd show they had enough emotions to care about me, so yeah

[McKellar]

I don't have an answer, but I do often question that myself.

[catsandbroadway]

Never. Not in a million years.

[Agem123]

I would never.

NEVER!!

[StarryCrossing]

Nope. Never.

[Agape93]

Never.

[Walamagicc]

I wouldn’t be able to

[JEndigoBleue]

Nope!

[JakeS00]

Not at all.

[OceanMelon]

Nope

[icequeen03]

Yeah no, I wouldn't. That is too much

[ManHater]

Women do all the time.

[FlyGirl95]

Nope.

[jimmy2]

No way

[Wewladdy]

Lmao

[msc545]

Hell no.