For example, I miss my ex-girlfriend that moved abroad..
Is there anyone that is no longer in your life and you miss a lot?
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A part of me misses confiding in this best friend I used to have. Years ago she used to be really nice/really good to turn to. She would listen and help.
But she stopped doing that and became self-centered. She probably became more self-centered because her life started to suck with her boyfriend. She's dating a narcissist and so he treats her really bad.
So she was dominating most of the conversation by venting to me. I started relying on her less because I didn't want to overburden her since she already had too much going on and she was also going through a depression as well.
She got on SSRIs and a couple weeks of being on them I was like ok maybe I can confide in her now. Found out really quick she didn't care, well it seemed like she didn't care when she would give me one or two replies and then immediately change the subject to how she hates everything.
It annoyed me and for some reason talking to her and being there for her drained me and I needed breaks from her because I could just feel her sucking my soul out. It was mainly me doing 90% of what a two way friendship should be and her barely doing 10%.
The straw that broke the camels back was her calling me out on "peer pressuring her" and I sincerely apologized to her. Then I was thinking well since we are being honest here you've done this and that to me that wasn't too cool.
And she just straight up ignores me like doesn't own up like how I did, doesn't apologize and doesn't say anything. It was a huge realization she doesn't respect me, she doesn't give a shit about me. It's all about her, her, her. She doesn't have the heart to say she's sorry too? Is it that hard? She's never wrong she's always perfect?
I realized she doesn't deserve me, doesn't deserve my friendship. So I basically ghosted her. I didn't want closer by contacting her and talking about it telling her why it's done.
I didn't need it and I didn't want to give her the chance to hurt me more I just decided to ghost her. It wasn't ghosting because she didn't even text me anyway either.
She probably realized too that it was over since she never texted me anyway. I think she was used to me always crawling back to her. When we would get into fights I was always the one who would try to talk it out and make it cool between us. Because I didn't do that, she knew and realized it was done.
We used to be friends for 16 years.
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I miss my grandfather
I moved to Europe without telling him goodbye.
He was so kind, more kind to me than most of other grandchildren. But since I moved, I was just 9 years old and we did not talk much because the connection in Africa was not so good. Anyway he dies 5 years after. I regret not being able to visit hin in Africa while he was alive or at least going to his funeral. I think he dief of old age and because his eldest son died a week before him. My grandfather used to give me gifts, money, hugs, he used to let me take fuits from his many trees, he used to catch birds for me so I can have them as pets, he used to protest me from Kids who tried to mock me anf he used to let me play with his cane that had a long sword in It. He was THe BEST!
He also might have died from smoking much and dricking much Coffee everyday
I miss my oncle too. He was so strong, tall and strong, but because of diabetes, he became thin and died. At least he is not suffering anymore... hopefully.
There are a lot of peoole that I miss. I hope they stay alive until i come to visit or they coming to visit instead.
There's one or two. There was one friend that I liked spending time with. Last year, she pretty much stopped communicating with me for the most part, and gotten more "flighty" with responses and all that. Both our lives had some big changes (so maybe it's just that) but I'm still kind of sad about it because we were fairly close and could hang out and be there, and it went from fairly easy conversations to not hearing from her for ages. No Christmas cards (I sent her one) - nothing. No "how are you" or "thanks for the card" or Happy New Year or anything, either, when I've tried to keep up with her. But I decided to back off, because it just seemed really strained, and very one sided. I back off when I don't feel like they want to talk to me.
I haven't talked to her in months, when it was her birthday. Maybe one blanket invite to her birthday in there, and a brief bit of small talk via text a few times. I'd try to say hello in texts or see how she was, give her updates to my bigger news or changes... it'd take hours / days to respond with kind of formal texts from her, like she can't be bothered. I might have seen her twice last year, if that.
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I miss my parents and grandparents who have all been gone for a long time.
There is one particular girlfriend that I will always love and will never forget. We lived together for over a year when I was 37 and she was 30.
We separated for reasons that are too complicated to relate, but didn't have anything to do with cheating or anything mean. It took me a year to pull myself together. I had never felt such agony.
20 years later, she found me on Facebook. We even spoke a few times. By then, I had already been married for about 15 years, but hearing from her and hearing her voice, knowing that she was happy and pursuing her dreams filled me with joy. She was so bright, such a beautiful and amazing woman.
Five years later, I read that she died from a sudden medical problem at age 55. I was devastated. That was in 2017. I still think about her all the time. I couldn't be more grateful for our time together.
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I really loved my Grandma…always the teacher. Sorry about your empty space.
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None that's dead but I have some friends in mind who I wished hadn't grown apart from me. But then again I am happy for them moving up in the world and I always was sort of an anchor refusing to help myself so what can you do? I don't blame them at all.
I'm proud to have had taken part in their journey. Just as I am thankful some people I've left behind tought me things and we had some mutual pleasure out of life. Good memories, non-sexual ofc.
But nothing lasts forever and even longlasting things fluctuate while they are. We can't hold on when time gets between, if we did then we'd just disrespect ourselves and be a worse friend whike we're at it.
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My best mate from high school, we were freinds for 3 years. After senior year we kept intouch and cought up a few times but ended up just not meeting up again. I asked him to meet last time and he couldn't make it and he just didn't organise to meet again.
I was freinds with his other best mate but stopped being freinds straight after highschool as i found him to be self centered but they are still good mates.
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My friend Kahu. He passed away in 2020 during New Zealands first covid lockdown. He accidentally overdosed and no one was there to help because we had to isolate.
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I miss my aunt who passed away 4 years ago. She's still in my life though. All of her wisdom, kindness, selflessness, and guidence are in my heart and I never stop thinking about her.
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Last year, I lost my sister-in-law, my very close 1st cousin, and a very beautiful, companion animal after 18 years and 6 months. (A beautiful feline, that we got as a very tiny rescue kitten)
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Yes, my late fiancée. I miss her pretty much every other day. She's never far from my mind, but what can you do?
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i miss a good guy friend from elementary. we see each other still, but its hard. im homeschooled and he isn't. he's also in basketball.
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old toxic bffs (Makayla and Yasmin)
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my grandpa, lost him at 10 years old. the first death i've ever experienced. we were very very close. honestly, at 31, i'm still messed up from it.
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Natsumi in Japan... I guess it wasn't meant to be.
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worse... they're still around, but I have to miss them...
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Yes, my Nan, she passed in 2018, I miss her so much and it still hurts even now.
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Several, but #1 would of course be my mother🙏🙏🙏
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Yes. My close girl-friend, now ex. I think about her every day.
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I don't miss any particular person but i miss the good memories of past
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Yes, my dad. He passed away from esophageal cancer on 5/23/2005 - - the day after my birthday. 😢💔
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Yes i do. She was a very good friend. Taught me how to be comfortable with myself and women. Especially naked.
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A friend who passed away. Family who betrayed me.
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Ya my mom. I wish I could trust her but. Can't risk it. Not now, mabe in future.
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