We only been together for a short time but it seemed perfect to me. I gave everything I could, tried to show him he’s welcome in my life and appreciated. We only got into two small fights. The first we had a disagreement because a week after he asked me to be his girlfriend he said we were moving too fast and then have a made up reason why it wasn’t working. It was 2 months in when he asked. That was hard for me. He later apologized and we talked and I took him back.
He never ever made me feel like he trusted me by making small remarks of me having someone else or me being interested in my guy friend (whom he has met and I never see or talk to since I’ve known him even though we are like family). He doesn’t trust me at all. But I try to be patient and let that trust grow.
I took him to the guys party after we had a fight of him not trusting me with him, fight #2 (he is my best friend and I wanted him to be a part and show he is not a threat to the relationship) and they made him feel very welcomed. I tried to make it work. But I started to feel insecure bc he wasn’t talking to me much and looking at another girl at the party and I told him. I thought since he’s been accusing me I can bring up my negative thought. I don’t know why I did that because that’s not me. Instead of him comforting me I was comforting him because he was furious. He said I was barley talking to him and I accused him of something but I told him that’s the same thing he did to me but I’m sorry I did that. He left me that night. I asked was what I did that bad for him to leave he said no. I asked why did he leave, he said he just felt it wasn’t going to work in his gut. I said he didn’t even give it a chance, it was great way more than it was bad. He seems so disinterested in me after that and my heart is broken. He’s back on the dating website and everything
He left because he felt it wasn’t going to work out even though nothing bad happened, thoughts?
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I think it’s better that you two aren’t together. Seems like a recipe for disaster as both of you don’t seem to know each other enough and both of you clearly have things you individually need to work on. I know it stings now, but those seem like two big reasons to back away from an early relationship to me
I thought that’s how it goes. You learn each other. He makes mistakes and I make mistakes and we forgive and learn. I don’t understand
@asker so he voiced out to you that it seems rushed and instead of listening to him and maybe taking a step back from the relationship, it was forced to work. So then issues rose and 2 months isn’t a long time to have tons of great moments /memories / investment into someone to make those factors seem mild in the long run. No one is obligated to stay in a situation that seems like it may head down the bad road before it gets good. This is a learning lesson here. Listen to your partner. You wanted him to listen to you and trust you, but you didn’t listen to him simply telling you that it may be better to not put a title on things so quickly.
You know what I mean? Because if he truly was looking at another woman, why would you want to be with someone like that? Don’t rush into relationships
It is not your fault and it is not his fault. He liked you, jumped-in, and thought about. He pulled out and you got upset and everyone made up. Relax and back off as he needs time to think this through and miss you.
You seem all wound-up and too much at this time. Give him space.