We split up after 6 years. Relationship wasn’t perfect and both sides had their faults. She was unhappy and didn’t like herself anymore. I did bring a lot of stress to the relationship. There are moments where I was unhappy as well. I agree that we both need to heal and contact isn’t the best. She’s asked for space and has mentioned she can’t talk to me right now. I’ve started respecting not having contact. All aside though, she was a good woman. I do have my regrets. I wrote this letter below. Not sure if I should send. At the same time I want to give respect and maintain my self respect. I figured writing the letter below would do both. What are your thoughts?
”Look I want to be with you. I really like you. I really love you. I really care for you. I want you to be happy, no matter what that means. I hope you find someone, who’ll treat you with all the love that you deserved from me. I hope you meet someone who will see you always as I do now. In the meantime I won’t be reach out anymore. If you change your mind, I’d love to see you.”
Look I want to be with you. I really like you. I really love you. I really care for you. While alots been learned & im definitely taking action. I want you to be happy, no matter what that means. I hope you find someone, who’ll treat you with all the love that you deserved from me. I hope you meet someone who will see you always as I do now. In the meantime, I won’t be reaching out anymore. If you change your mind, I’d love to see you.
What Girls Said
Go ahead and send it. Just don’t send it in hopes that you will get a reply, send it with sincerity. Mean what you say. A lot of guys will try and play the talk game after they fucked up and I think if she gives you another opportunity, I hope you improve your actions and make her feel loved just as much as that letter specifies. A lot of you men don’t realize what you have until they are out the door and ready to move on
DO NOT SEND!
She asked for space, give it to her. Suddenly dropping back into her life can undo any healing she's managed thus far.
Also, your words are a total mind fuck. You say you love her and want to be with her. But it's clear it's over. That's cruel. If you truly love her, leave her alone. Keep the letter and in six months re-read it. I bet you'll be glad you didn't send.
Please, take my advice. I've been in her shoes. My ex just showed up six weeks after breaking up, on my birthday with flowers and a card. But it wasn't a grand gesture to win my back. See the mixed messages? I was basically back to square one.
I didn’t break up with her. I hear you loud and clear though. Thanks for the words.
Ugh. No