Why would you break up with somebody through a text message instead of telling that person in person goodbye I mean you cared for them at one point?

[Justneedtokno]

[Screenwriter]

Most people don't like ANY kind of confrontation. So TEXT messages are the next best thing to ghosting people, the VERY bottom of the foodchain for wussies with no gumption.

Ignoring people who you have to hurt so YOU don't feel hurt about doing so is pretty common behavior. It's not good behavior and it's not polite, especially if you did care some smidgen toward that person at some time.

The LEAST you can do is CALL the person. Don't Text, don't ghost, don't email, or if you're real 19th century, don't send a Dear John or Joan letter, unless it's IMPOSSIBLE for you to see that person face-to-face. And with facetime, zoom and a host of other phone and computer apps, it's simply almost NEVER impossible to do face-to-face talks.

What it IS is cowardly. Be responsible in your breakups. It's the right thing to do.

[DizzyDesii]

In person you can be more easily swayed, guilt tripped, manipulated to stay in the relationship. Not being near them when breaking it off makes it easier to stick to the script and move on

[zeitgeist057]

You might do that if you were a coward. Worried that you would break down and cry, be embarrassed, or that the person would be hurt, angry, cry, &c., and you wanted to avoid feeling that responsibility for hurting them. Many other scenarios/rationales, but mostly they add up to being a coward.

[AviatorTom]

You cared for them "at one point" but you don't care any more, so although in-person is preferred, there's nothing wrong with a text message. I've both received and given text messages when breaking up, and thought nothing of it.

[Guy13]

That makes no sense. Always do that in person. Low quality action.

[dynamicyandere]

I’ve always broken up with people in person. And, for the 2 times I didn’t, was because we were long distance, but I still called them and broke up with them over the phone.


It seems cowardly or completely uncaring to do it any other way.


Unless of course, you were never exclusive and you never started anything serious.


But, generally speaking, it’s just good etiquette. And for me, good etiquette matters.

[Pudsmucker]

I look at it this way it's the lowest thing that anybody can ever do to tell him to get lost through a text message. I was dumped by my girlfriend 50 years by phone. She didn't have the guts to come and tell me that she didn't want to see me anymore. I didn't know what I did wrong. I still don't know what I did wrong for her to dump me. It hurt bad. But today I'm glad that she dumped me because I have a better person. We've been married over 4 decades.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Avoid the awkward situation maybe? I don't know. Since the corporations have started firing people over emails, I hardly see anything wrong with it now.

[NathanDavis]

well, maybe if she took off to a different country?

a text could be quicker than an email

[whirled_up_girl]

It doesn’t seem very nice but it’s better than ghosting someone.

[DevikaButts95]

It's easier for the other person. Not that they should but that's why.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because you are tired of their shit and don't want to argue.

[Anonymous]

i didn't have a choice. her sister said some stuff (a lot of stuff) which caused it to end

[SnowedIn]

People avoid conflict.

[Gummy_Cluster]

I don't feel safe in this world no more.
I want to sail off to a distant shore.
And live like an ape woman.
(I used this sound track in my video about Gibbon monkeys)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eEep67akIn4

[Gent207-2]

Simple cowardice and conflict avoidance

[Sixgunsound]

Presumably because they no longer do care.

[exitseven]

No, I would do it in person if I could.

[legalboxers]

I was dumped over text

[msc545]

Easier perhaps.

[Alex8736]

people have no balls. just saying

[EaterPeter]

How many excuses are enough to justify?

[OnTheLevel]

Immaturity