When breaking up with someone, do you do it in person or with a phone call or through texting?

[mandyfire98]

If you have to breakup with a significant other, how do you do it?

[DaveJord]

So, I am firm believer in breaking up in person... but in today's age its harder and harder to do that.

So, in my last two relationship it was done in text or over the phone. The first one started when I we were texting about things, and I asked her what type of relationship she does thinK we have? Are in a committed type thing or not... and she responded with "I do not like to define things like that."

At this point we had been in my mind dating for about 6 weeks and talking for 8 weeks, and I was getting all types of mixed signals... so that was not a good answer to me. Anyway, the text went back and forth, and we mutually agreed to end whatever it was we were doing... which is really all I wanted to know, before I started talking to other people.

The second one was an 8-month relationship, and we were definitely in a committed relationship. But for life reasons I felt that we were drifting apart, and she was avoiding the subject with me. So, we eventually got on the phone together after some confusing texts... I basically said that everything that made the relationship work for the last 8 months has changed... because she got a second job without telling me and the reduced the amount of time we were spending together. She more or less said that if that is how I feel then she understands. I said, "Well then I guess that is that then... unless you want to talk more about how we can work this out." She wasn't comfortable about talking about it at that time... we exchanged a few more text over the next week and then we just stopped talking all together. There was no real or official break up... but we knew it was what it was.

My new girlfriend (of 3 months) has made it very clear that if we are to ever break up, that it needs to be in person. Not texts or phone calls. Which I was very grateful to hear her say, and I hope it holds true. Because honestly, I think mature adults should always have these conversations in person. If you do not have courage to confront someone face to face, then why are in that relationship to begin with?

[BoobSlayer]

When breaking up with a significant other, it is important to be honest and direct while also being respectful and sensitive to their feelings. It's best to have the conversation in person, and to avoid breaking up over text or phone call. It's important to be clear about your reasons for breaking up and to avoid blaming or criticizing your partner. It's also important to give them time and space to process the news and to be prepared for a range of emotions. It's also important to remember that breakups can be difficult and painful for both parties, and to be prepared for the possibility of not remaining friends right away or ever.

[petitedollbabee]

It depends on why I’m breaking up with them. If they’ve become abusive then I would do it over text, to avoid being abused if I do it face to face. But if I’m breaking up with them because things just aren’t working out or it’s not their fault, then I would do it face to face.

[Msputiton]

Kinda depends how it goes down.

Like usually we be texting, they start complaining about me not spending time with them, and i say if you feel i am not satisfying your needs we can end things.

And that's usually the end of the relationship

[OlderAndWiser]

You should do texting ONLY if that is necessary to protect your personal safety. Otherwise, breakig up via text is for cowards.

If I have had more than three dates with a lady, I break up in person. Otherwise, a telephone conversation is sufficient.

[DenizLikesTennis]

I give a phone call and arrange an appointment by telling her that it's a very serious and important matter.

I would never ever. Never ever ever ever ever... do it in public places like at a café etc.

I'd tell her to come over to my place, make tea and explain how things been for a while.

And give her a big farewell hug

But hey do you know what the thing is? In your mind, you'd act ethically. But in reality... who knows. Maybe you'd actually give a text call. Because as soon as we're on an intense emotional state, we become reckless.

[exitseven]

I had a long distance relationship. We lived 1500 miles apart. It took me a couple of months to decide I wanted to break up and another couple of weeks to work up the nerve. I called her late one Saturday night and broke up with her over the phone. I would have rather done it in person but it was not practical.

[big_ben_007]

I would do it over the phone so i could explain myself and stay on good terms. I dont want to just break up over text and leave someone hanging with questions and doubts. But thats just me. I'm not most people

[TheVigilantFox]

When I broke up with the poisonous ex I didn’t say a word I just ignored her, she hurt me no end in the nightmare you’d call a relationship, and I’d just had enough so I just stopped bothering with her and it was the best thing I ever did.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

If im gonna break up I want it to be in person as much as possible. So if I can be there I would want to be. If not I would want to be over the phone of video chat or something.

[Kabluie]

the last ones were in-person. texting feels too zoomer and impersonal.

Google fired my friend by turning off his accounts so he couldn't even check his phone, it had to come through personal email. What a world we live in.

[WhitneySnow]

In person unless they’re an LDR, then either by FaceTime, voice chat or texting (texting is the least preferred)

[melanieeeB]

I always wanna do it in person out of respect for the relationship

[NathanDavis]

we always talked about in person, and our decisions were mutual...

and with the best interest for both as well, been lucky so far...

[summiter]

It usually has been face to face. I feel we should at least respect the relationship we had together.

[abc3643]

The two times I did it, I did it in person - as it should be done unless distance is an issue.

[TacosRAwesome]

I do it however I feel works. Last breakup was done in person and the one before was done via text.

[TCredo]

I have not had to do it for eons... as in before texting existed lol... but did it in person not over the phone - that seems too cold :)

[ThePregnantOn3XD]

I rather do it person that why they convay its fully over.

[20yearsolder]

Just my opinion, it should only be done face to face

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Many relationships just fall apart. The one with Shayna was just by telephone (we broke up with a call). Dawn Marie broke up with me in her house.

[Bricealan]

She and I parted company the day after New Years, No words were exchanged, just understood.

[Guardian45]

Obviously, the "best" way is in person, but for various reasons that may not be possible. Communication is like 65% visual, 31% audio & 4% words

[DavidRaul]

Never got the chance to do either of the given options