Is it more painful to be blocked with no explanation or to be left on “seen”?

[Anonymous]

I personally don’t know what’s worst. On one hand being blocked out of nowhere shows that they don’t want anything to do with you anymore (which hurts) but at least they’re clear about their intentions. With being left on seen or just ghosted tho… it hits different. It’s as if they don’t even care enough to block you but they’re still leaving the door to communication open even though it’s only one way. They’re leaving you with a glimmer of hope when they actually have zero intention of ever connecting with you ever again.

Blocked

Completely ignored

Ignored but left on “seen”

[Anonymous]

Definitely being ignored or left on read rather than being blocked.

There was a girl I chased for a long time back in school who’d message me for a bit then leave me on read. It kept happening over and over, but she’d always engage in conversation whenever I hit her up again, so I still always kept my hopes up even though I thought I never really had a chance with her (she was literally the cutest girl I'd ever seen in person, like wayy out of my league). Then one day she left me on read harder than she’d ever done before, and I eventually gave up hope and moved on. Soon after that she moved back out of town and she was gone from my life.

Then five years later we crossed paths again and got chatting, but this time I refused to get feelings involved and let her chase me instead. We consistently messaged each other every day for months and months and I still refused to let my hopes up, get feelings involved, or make any first steps towards a relationship. I guess I was still a bit scarred by how she’d treated me in the past and wanted to play it super safe this time, so I told myself she was just a friend. Anyway, after chatting for half a year she opened up to me, told me that she’d come to really enjoy chatting with me, and asked if I wanted to progress whatever we had into a serious relationship. I agreed and four months later we’ve been on a lot of dates together, met each other’s parents/families, fallen in love, started talking about marriage, and next month I’m going to propose to her😅

So yeah, that's why I'd rather be left on read or ignored over being blocked lol

[Asker]

Oh wow didn’t expect that ending, I’m so happy for you that it worked out in the end though!!

Has she ever give you an explanation as to why she was being flaky with communication back then?

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks!😅 Nah we often laugh about our childish "relationship" back in school because it was over 7 years ago and we were just kids. We were only 14 when we first started messaging and both of us were too young to even know what we were doing or what we wanted...

I didn't explain it in that story, but after we crossed paths 5 years later we didn't immediately hit it off. We'd only chat for a few days at a time and would only hit each other up every couple of months, but one time I hit her up and she completely ignored it for days then left me on read. That really sucked so after that I kinda gave up hope and stopped hitting her up and we didn't chat for about half a year. I thought things were finally completely over but then she hit me back up and we started chatting every day. Anyway, the other day she brought up that message and said that at the time she was going through a rough patch and took offense to what I said. A few weeks down the line she realized her mistake and felt too embarrassed to talk to me again after ignoring me like that. She spent months thinking about me and that message and eventually had the courage to hit me up and was so happy that I still wanted to talk to her and she kept things going from then on.

[Asker]

Oh lol I mean that explains it, we did a bunch of childish crap back when were younger bcs well we’re just children…

I too ghosted a bunch of people back then, even broke up with my ex (I was 15) by ghosting him lol. It’s so nice hearing your story and how it worked out in the end tho. Such a breath of fresh air

[ProbablyClueless]

Ignored but left on seen is the most frustrating. Getting blocked out of nowhere is weird and kind of insulting, but it's not as painful as someone leaving a line of communication open but then inexplicably blowing you off when you try to initiate contact.

[Asker]

Exactly!! When you’re blocked at least the message is clear that they’ve cut you off for good. Even being left on delivered is still much better, but for them to purposefully read your message without any intention of responding is just cruel…

[Anonymous]

I don't know how people say being left on seen feels bad. For me it feels good they at least saw it lol

it’s when you get blocked that it feels awful. If you actually liked the person.

being ignored without getting blocked is still not as bad as being blocked lol for me anyway

[Asker]

That makes sense bcs then you can still contact them and haven’t been completely cut off but at the same it’s harder to move on from (for me personally) bcs they’re still giving me false hope and leaving the communication line open with 0 intention of ever responding 🥲

[Opinion Owner]

That’s true.

Well considering that then even if being blocked for me seems more hurtful than the others, I would rather be blocked so that I can move on faster even if it hurts like hell because otherwise I’m stuck there thinking there’s a “chance” even if left on read even if left UNread just ignored.
Blocked just means it’s likely 100% over

[Asker]

Exactly! Both hurts nevertheless but at least with being blocked you know for sure it’s over. Here’s to never getting ghosted/blocked ever again tho!

[Opinion Owner]

Lol yes. And strangely I only realized that here answering this question. Now we know lol 🥂 ✨ never getting ghosted/blocked ever again lol

[Asker]

That’s great lol! You gotta realize your worth as well, stay awesome xx 🥂

[PeachyPie93]

Blocked hurts more. Since they are completely kicking you out of their life forever.
Being left on seen just shows they don't care but are letting you reach out if you want to, since they are still using you for an attention boost lol.

[Asker]

Well that makes sense lol for me it hurts less when I’m blocked bcs then it’s straight forward but being left on seen is like “hey I see you, but I don’t care enough to respond or to even spend time blocking you” lol

[PeachyPie93]

LOL I used to like this guy who left me on seen for a month and was really slow at replies so I started deleting the messages after 2 days if he didn't reply then he would message me and be like stop deleting messages! I thought it was funny since it would make him mad but he would reply fast, so why not delete them lol. We fully deleted each other everywhere now but he didn't delete or block me on Snapchat which is him still leaving it open, which is annoying in a way.

[Asker]

Oh lol that’s kinda weird. Was he just trying to get you to chase him then? It’s great that you’ve deleted him from everywhere, you’re better off deleting him off of snap as well. Seems like he just likes the attention

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I did delete him off snap, that was 3 years ago lol. I don't know what it was, he was constantly telling me he loved me but wasn't ready emotionally to handle a relationship, he was also hooking up with girls and saying we aren't official but I won't leave you lol. I was so stupid :(

[Asker]

Glad you cut him off, otherwise you would’ve been trapped in his game and would get hurt… You’re not stupid, he the stupid one for playing you like that

[Anonymous]

I recently blocked someone that up until a few days previous I considered a friend. I was up all night long without sleep putting together something for her. The next day whilst we were talking, she disappeared for no reason leaving me sitting there like an idiot. I thought to myself, friends don't do that, so I gave her one more chance and she did the same thing to me again the next day, laughing about it.. There you go.. there is the other side to it why people get blocked

[Asker]

I’m glad you managed to cut her bs off. That makes sense tho, if they truly cared about you they wouldn’t have done that

[Opinion Owner]

If it was thoughtless I could have forgiven that, but it was bordering on maliciousness, as if she was doing it on purpose to take out on me what was going on in the rest of her life. I wasn't prepared to put up with that.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s a shitty thing that she’s doing. Sometimes ghosting is okay in these circumstances

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't care... my blocked list is empty, so it's their problem, not mine :D

[Asker]

Same, I don’t even bother with blocking. I just delete their number as if they never existed lol

[Okra9-]

Girl, the best is just let it go, some day you gonna do it to others, the other days, others gonna do it to you. People feel bad about being blocked or left on seen but trust me its better than forward direct rejection statement that you will carry to your heart for the rest of your life. I just understand i am not that person's type or not what he is looking for and move on.

[Asker]

Yeah true… there’s no point in me waiting for him to give me the closure that I want. I’m not about to embarrass myself and keep on trying to contact him (although I’m very tempted to do so lol)

[Nikki1989]

Neither is painful. Is this really what concerns people these days. Good grief!

[Asker]

For some it is. It hurts knowing that the person you thought you were developing a connection with to just up and leave you with no warning 😔

[exitseven]

@Nikki1989. I never really used social media before I joined GaG. I always thought it was sort of creepy. You are texting somebody who could be totally fake ND then there are all the scams too. I actually formed a couple of friendships here and was a little surprised at how real it seems. Somebody just blocked me and I do not know why and to be honest it makes me sad.

[BetaBucks]

I've never been blocked, but since being ignored doesn't bother me, I'd assume being blocked would feel like an insult.

[Asker]

It does feel like an insult especially if it was someone you thought were your friend/had a connection with

[BetaBucks]

Yeah, I'd be pretty butthurt for sure

[Asker]

Totally valid

[strateguy632]

for me 1 v alone is frustrating but 2v whether seen or not doesn't bother me.

[Asker]

I’m basically left on 2v seen, have been for 2 weeks now… At least I’m not blocked I guess lol

[summiter]

If someone wants to block me just tell me... they do not need to explain however

[Asker]

I agree. Just a warning would be nice. As simple as “hey I don’t think we should talk anymore, bye” would suffice

[summiter]

I agree... has this happened to u?

[Asker]

Yep… got ghosted out of the blue by the guy I’ve been talking to/dating…

[summiter]

Do you know why? Was there an issue with the sex with him?

[summiter]

What was the reason? Did he have sexual issues he was embarrassed about?

[Asker]

We haven’t had sex yet, have only met twice for lunch but been talking for months. He was acting all lovey dovey still though, sending me good morning texts, calling me baby, sending heart and kissy emojis and what not then the next morning I texted him and he left me on seen. I tried giving him a call a couple of times, he ignored those. I tried again the next day and still he left me on seen. I don't know what happened.

[bobby_bush_eater]

I'd rather someone block me then the ghosting. Message received if I'm blocked, but obviously I'd rather have someone say what they're thinking/feeling

[Asker]

Couldn’t agree more! With getting blocked at least the message is clear that they don’t wanna associate with your anymore even though it still hurts but with getting left on seen… it’s as if they’re just teasing you but they don’t respect you enough to even respond…

[Emmytexrex]

I have been blocked, I have been left unseen and I know how it feels like but I know that there are different people out there that can do better and I deserve better

[Asker]

You definitely do deserve better! Even though it still sucks but I much prefer to be straight up blocked rather than left on read bcs that way the message is loud and clear that they don’t want me anymore. Still a very immature thing to do though, I don’t understand what’s so hard about texting “hey I’m no longer interested, I don’t think we should talk anymore. Bye.” This is like the bare minimum…

[Emmytexrex]

Yes it is immature to do that it will just leave you confused so what is your next move what are you going to do now

[Asker]

I think I’ll just try to move on. I tried reaching out to him for a couple of days and was left on seen every single time so I’ll just walk away. I do desperately want to find some closure but I know he’s not gonna give it to me.

What about you? How did you approach it when you got ghosted and left on seen? And how did you move on from it?

[Emmytexrex]

Do what you think is right

[Emmytexrex]

I moved on without looking back I know it was hard for me but I have this strong mind of I don't take bullshits and I don't want to look desperate

[Asker]

That’s awesome, proud of you for not talking anyone’s bullshit!! Easier to maintain your peace that way

[nawtee_me]

Neither, both let you know they are not interested. Knowledge is power it allows you to move on without regrets. Look for the good in all things not the bad…..

[Asker]

I guess that’s true when you put it that way…

[exitseven]

Somebody blocked me on GaG. It was somebody who I though was my friend. I am sad and confused.

[Asker]

Exactly… You’re left wondering what you did wrong

[NatalieKeller95]

both are things virgo and capricorns are highly guilty of

[Asker]

I’m being ghosted/left on read by a libra tho lol

[Theodoricus]

It just a trap. Many people among both women and men uses this tactic. Be kind person and find someone else better than him.

[Asker]

What is the trap for tho? Like they just want us to keep thinking about them and eventually chasing after them?

[Theodoricus]

Of course, they want it. So, you should be careful.

[Asker]

Makes sense, thanks for sharing this, never thought about it this way before

[Theodoricus]

No problem, have a nice day!

[Asker]

And you too, hope you’re having an awesome day!

[noohair]

I try not to live on social media so I don't deal with this stuff.

[Asker]

It’s basically a guy that I’ve been talking to and went on dates with. He just ghosted me out of the blue when I thought things were going smoothly…

[noohair]

sorry

[LaurenM1997]

Are you on about boyfriends/ friends?

[Asker]

Both. But I think it’s much more painful when a friend does it

[LaurenM1997]

Oh yes it’s much more painful when a friend does it

[Anonymous]

Both are immature.

[Asker]

Couldn’t agree more

[Anonymous]

I don't think either is very painful.

[Asker]

I wish I was a strong as you lol getting ghosted hurts a lot to me

[Opinion Owner]

I mean I get that the act it's self doesn't feel good. But then you got to tell yourself they actually did you favor. Because if someone is a flake like that it's best that they show it early. That way you don't waste another second on them.

[Asker]

You’re right… I just gotta get over the idea that I had of them and what we could’ve become

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I learned a while not to get emotionally involved till a ways down the road. Then if they pull this crap I'm like, NEXT!😆

[Asker]

Lesson learned lol It’s just this was actually an ex, I thought we were in the process of getting back together. He started calling me baby again, we exchanged hearts and all that, went on a couple of dates (no sex yet tho) then out of the blue he just ignored my calls and left me on seen 🙃

I wanna be like you and go like “thanks, NEXT” but I can’t help but to look for closure still lol

[Account]

For me? Neither.

[Asker]

As in you don’t find neither of those things painful?

[Account]

Μy self worth doesn't derive from the actions (or lack of actions) of others

[Asker]

That’s the goal right there, I’m getting there

[Account]

As soon as you realize it, the rest comes easily, no worries you will get there.

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[Anonymous]

Both

[Asker]

If you had to choose between the lesser evil, which one would you pick?

[Opinion Owner]

it depends how long you’re left on read they both are very bad

[Asker]

I’ve been left on read for two weeks now. Haven’t been blocked so he’s still opening and reading my texts but no response. I feel like being blocked hurts more but at least it’s straight forward. But being left on read just seems very petty and I find it harder to move on from. I don't know what even happened, we were talking just fine and then the next day no response…

[Opinion Owner]

is there anyway you can contact him? Why don’t you text him and say I’m extremely disappointed
in your behavior, that’s very rude people don’t do that ghost for no reason plus tell him if there’s a problem you fix it and work it out there’s no reason for him to do that

[Asker]

I did, gave him a couple of calls - no answer. I asked if there was a problem and that I’m willing to work it out but he just read the message and left it at that. I can still see him being online so I got the message and stopped texting him but it’s been 2 weeks and I’m still so confused…

I have a feeling that he might have found someone else. He did tell me that he met a really cool girl. But he was still being loving with me at the time, sending me kissy and heart emojis, good morning texts, calling me babe, we even went on a couple of dates. Then on Sunday he said he was enjoying his day off so I told him to go ahead and relax along with a heart emoji. He read it and no response. The next day I said good morning and he left me on read. He kept leaving me on read ever since. I even sent him a selfie (not a nude lol) to entice him but still left on read. I don't know what happened 😭

[Opinion Owner]

He’s not Genuine he’s a phony baloney and he’s an a hole for treating you like that. That’s horrible. It’s probably time for you to move on. I think it’s over, but that was very wrong of him to treat you like that.

[Asker]

I agree. I’m trying to move on but there’s still a lot of unanswered questions that’s making it difficult for me to come to terms to. Here’s to never being ghosted ever again though, I wish you nothing but the best. Thanks so much for taking the time to respond!!

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you and I hate ghosting