What is Something you Found Out about your Ex-Partner after your Breakup?

[Paris13]

********It can Be from Your EX or On your Own. xx

[meetkitty123]

I found out in court while filing for child support my ex lied and hid his finaces extensively. It turned out he made legitimately 5xs the amount I made a week.

So the whole time we were together (3yrs) he had me struggling to pay the rent and utilities equally split between us. I would always be stressed out nearly coming short each month never able to save and he was living it up on easy street. I never understood how he aways could afford new shoes or the newest ps3 games. Meanwhile I'm shopping goodwill for stuff I and my daughter needed...

Furthermore we were supposed to be supersuperintendent to our rental building but he would always have an excuse (can't change the light bulbs: doesn't do hights, can't mow the lawn: allergies , can't snow clean or paint: asthma) he left the work to me even when pregnant.

Everything came to light when we went to court.

This is when things back fired on him. When I became pregnant with our son he insisted I use a friends address because he said there was no way we could afford healthcare. (A lie clearly discovered later because he brought home over a thousand after taxes). Since I had a friends address since before conception and he put his foot where his mouth was thinking he would be saved from paying for health insurance He swore in court he lived separately... (his own doing not mine) the court ended up not charging him for insurance for our son but instead charged him a higher amount of child support and arrears for quite some years back.

[Paris13]

Please write a Book!!! This is amazing!!! xxoo

[Moist_Gums]

He is stuck in a depressing loop that is never ending. It reminds me of this story I once read where this girl was walking through hell as Hades new lover and she saw someone crying out for help while being tortured. She begged to help them but he told her that they believed they deserve that. They're free to have a different reality at anytime so they can only help themselves.

My ex is stuck in bad health, depression, and the same old negative things. And I didn't realize him never wanting to grow or change is what made me want to leave most. I found out when we spoke again years later, and he was still in the same loops of negative things.

It breaks my heart for him, but I'm glad I'm out of that and in a better place. I was drowning there.

[Pyrofox]

I dug up info that she is a pathological liar, split personality with multiple personalities that eventually left me feeling like I dodged a massive bullet when I called her and her mother out for toxically saving all the things I did wrong. For when I already was feeling down. And I don't feel bad about calling them out on all their bull shit and leaving.

Oh and if you want an idea of just how crazy this girl was she was stalking my fb, and then also harassing my favorite cousin. All during the time that we had a legal no contact and no see order. It didn't help either that her mom didn't stop her from breaking the rules that they had with the authorities. Essentially this girl was jail bait and I'm glad I can now leave her and never look back.

I have zero intention of ever communicating or accepting her back into my life. After what she has done she is effectively dead to me. If she does try to contact me again my response is gonna either be wrong number or effectively treating her like a stranger.

[Anonymous]

That it was all an act. No one ever knows her. Because she's whatever she needs to be to get whatever she's after.

[Paris13]

*****I LOVE THIS!!! xx

[Paris13]

But you Know, True Blue, Don't you know IT IS US? xxoo

[Opinion Owner]

I know words and deeds go hand in hand. It doesn't matter what she says if her actions don't reflect her words.

[OlderAndWiser]

She's a weirdo.

We parted voluntarily, no children to argue about, she kept what she had and I moved out. I didn't stalk her or try to remain in contact. One day a few weeks ago, I was sitting in a self-serve restaurant near the self-serve soda fountain. I look up and see her walking towards me. I smiled and mouthed "hello" before she was close enough to hear me. She briefly made eye contact, then turned and walked in a different restaurant and immedately left the restaurant. I would have enjoyed talking to her for a few minutes, find out what her family is doing, how she is doing, etc. She wanted no part of it.

[TruthBringer]

I can't help but have the feeling that the reason why she avoided you is because she kept things hidden from you which she feels ashamed of. So best to 'avoid' rather than be reminded and face the demons.

Whatever it may be, you were the mature one in the end. And the good news is that you moved on and are in a more stable relationship. That's all that matters. And when it comes to her family, I guess you had a good connection with them, but they shouldn't be your concern anymore.

[OlderAndWiser]

@TruthBringer Right, I do not maintain a conscious, active, and deliberate concern for them, but I would like to know that they are doing well, just as I hope that she is doing well. I have never looked back, and I have ever tried to reach out to her in any way, but I never stop caring completely. I would also like to know if my very frst girlfriend is doing well.

I think most people would stop and have a brief civil conversation if they ran into an ex (as long as it was an amcabl parting,) so - as you suspect - I have assumed this relates to some guilt on her part.

[AviatorTom]

I discovered that, before we got married, she had an affair with a married man for a few months before breaking it off.

[Guy13]

Nothing as I do not operate within these kind of parameters. When I am done... I am exhausted and have no interest in anyway.

[TruthBringer]

I found out (on my own) that she is a borderline. A con artist who lied to her teeth about everything. Something I never knew during the relationship because I had no knowledge about personality disorders. No wonder the entire relationship was one giant rollercoaster with the lows making absolutely 0 sense.

Not only that, but I also found out that within a month of no-contact, she was trying to find my replacement. Not just some replacement, but with a guy she always talked shit about, claimed to hate, yet ended up chasing him anyway. Which goes to show she is a lying POS. Sadly for her, karma made sure that he rejected her. Whereas I spent a few years single trying to recover from the trauma bond she gifted me. Nonetheless, it made me realize that her 'moving on' so fast is a confirmation that she never loved me but rather the way I made her feel about her miserable self. She only loved the fact I was catering to her endless needs. This realization helped me get over her quicker. So good riddance.

She gets to watch me enjoy having a real relationship with an actual stable & loving person.

[molonski2]

Well my very worst one , never married , together 2 years , immaculate presentation , nice car ( not that that stands for anything ) , but fitting the entire image , flying around , this project , that project , always great reasoning , always had an answer , but things got progressively more unusual , and strange things happened , car parked out front of my house for 4 months ( Why? ) , still dont really know , I started getting crank phone calls , then at one time the police ( private number , as used by Aussie police ) , well it turned out she was a fraudster , it was all fake , she got caught , for a tiny percentage of what she did , and was sentenced to jail , first sentence 18 months , appealed and got it down to 10 months , horrible and confusing experience , no idea if she is still in Australia. Mind blowing experience , I had no idea until around the end that something was illegal , she didn't care who she ripped off.

[FunkyMonkee]

Mostly, that she's a cunt!!
When we were still together, I met her niece, who was only 9 or 11 and I considered her to be my niece, too! I saw her again online about 7 to 10 years later and she was DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!!! All I did was tell her so and my ex (of about 3 or 4 years, by then) started accusing ME of trying to fuck her (our) niece!! I haven't heard from, seen or talked to that bitch since!!

[Titanic1912]

After my last relationship ended after I read her “Dear John” letter, she got into the terrible world of ouija boards. She’s also a witch and that’s the reason why she doesn’t wear any panties. She practices witchcraft and wizardry with things of the world. She doesn’t think God can do amazing things anymore. Besides, she has very liberal political views.

[RobT312]

Well I found out she had 3 more bad relationships after me… made me feel a little better knowing it wasn’t me that was the problem. She can’t get along with anyone!

[DizzyDesii]

I rarely found out stuff “after”. It was often DURING which led to a breakup. Like two (with the same name) turned out to have a baby on the way, three (turned out to be former porn stars), another was grooming underage girls, two or three in my opinion mightve been bi/closeted/in denial (my gaydar sucks), two were homicidal (with one plotting how to kill me “for fun”), and at least one just wanted a greencard, but hey, i dated a bunch of good guys too 🤣

[DrillBeats]

Yo wtf! Damn! Where are you finding these guys? Outside the psych ward?

[DizzyDesii]

@DrillBeats 😂😂😂😂 Some back in high school, some back in college, some i used to work with and very few online

[ArrowheadSW]

Years after she and I split up, I found out that she was bisexual. She eventually ended up marrying a woman and adopting a child. They are split up now though.

[OfMiceandMen]

I dated this one woman for 3 months before she told me she was a stripper down in the city. It took me by surprise bc there was no hints, she always dressed very conservatively, etc.

Ultimately, we broke up bc of the distance, but she was nice. She did the stripping to put herself through school and went back to it after her career didn't take off like she hoped.

[lightbulb27]

her father died. I really enjoyed time with him. he was the source of a lot of his daughters pains, but he was a good guy in his older days. not easy to be a dad... when there is no training.

[nojokecarmichael]

He went back to contacting the same girl he claimed was a good friend. Even got a job with the dirty bih but lied and said something else to me. He swore up and down they never talked but really did. Then got a girlfriend and never told me until i found out somehow

[Anonymous]

She had an std from cheating on me, she had been taking our son cheating with her, she was abusing our son, she intended to empty our joint bank account, she intended to move me out and move me in as father.

[NathanDavis]

that she used to smoke...

last time being shortly after we met... lol

and did it a couple of times during our relationship

[Simspawn]

They were trying to convince me their pregnancy was mine, but they were pregnant before we hooked up.

[Finchie40]

She is bi polar and has PTSD and is on the same lines as a Narcissist

[humanearth]

That they cheated with everyone she was with

[Dustypink12]

Found out he had booked an Escort whilst away on his solo UK tour and been able to read the feedback from said Escort online. I also discovered stuff he has said about me to gain people's attention and sympathy on social media platforms. He is skimpy with the truth I'll give him that. I should have ditched him and pressed charges when he used physical abuse towards me few months ago. I gave him a chance to change that about himself but instead he abused me further albeit covertly.

[Massageman]

cared more about her job than anything/one else.