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I have been casually dating this guy and it’s been great, we’ve been on and off for some time now. At the start it was very consistent, we had regular sex, I met his friends, his met mine, we had some great times together but started pulling back being inconsistent so I called it off and moved on with my life. We have still been in contact on and off but nothing sexual (last time we had sex was 2 months ago). Last week, I told him let’s cut everything off completely because I don’t want to be in this situation anymore. I do have strong feelings for him but life is short and I want to move on. Last night I saw him in the club when I was out with my friends, he was staring at me the whole night I was dancing and hanging out with my friends (I have to say I was looking hot and was getting a lot of attention from men in there). I went to say hi and gave him a side hug and he rubbed my back when he was hugging me (same thing when I went over to say goodbye as I was leaving), meaning?
As I was leaving I could feel him trying to make eye contact and asked my friends behind me why were leaving so early.
I know I made a decision and I need to stick to it. I want this time apart or no contact period because if fate allows and he reaches out, I want to start this over with him.
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He likes you, he wants to be with you, and he thinks that you might be willing to resume the relationship. Actions speak louder than words. Though you told him you were moving on, you approached him to say hi and hugged him. If nothing else, that's sending conflicting signals to him... and maybe to you too.
I always have to say hi to people I know when I see them and bye when I leave them even if I don’t like them. That’s just me. I like him too but I am not going to reach out.
The rubbing of my back when he hugged me felt very comforting but he could just do that as a sign of friendship.
He was staring because he misses you; because you had sex; because he still thinks about you.
I have learned that when the woman says it is over, it is over. He does not understand this aspect to life and does not know what to do.