Is it normal that I am missing physical intimacy after breakup?

[pancake]

It is not a sexual post. But I've been missing physical connection of our my old relationship. Is it normal? Have any of you felt this way after a breakup?

[sheenagwapa]

yeah i would say ily in the wnd of the convo to any people i talk to be it to my landline or cellphone because that was i was used to. it's just automatic to me. i miss the hug so much. my ex wanna hug when we part ways i didn't i was bitter i told him i only hug boyfriend and he isn't my boyfriend anymore. i regretted that so much because i just miss the hug. i even planned to ask him to give me a huf once a month until i can recover. but i thought that was just so pathetic of me considering i've been asking his forgiveness for many times already and beg him to take me back but he is just always mad. the thing is i don't even exactly know where his anger came from. so i just thought i will ask for forgiveness for any negative feelings i have made him feel because i really don't know where it's coming from. the breakup was a complete shock to me to the point i felt betrayed.


there's a tiktok video about straight males it's a parody of some sort and that's exactly how my boyfriend behaves. he doesn't share anything deep. we just have shallow talks. the deepest convo we have is when he ask why people don't kill themselves to which i replied it's because it hurts. i have no clue. i thought he was just wondering of something because many times he is like thst he would ask questions why it's like this, like that for example why the government is blah blah it's not about life just things in general and so i was not able to pick up that he is undergoing something because he is the curious type, not always but many times.


when we broke up he behaved weirdly he act like a zombie that's when i research his symptoms and monitor the songs he listened to. there's this app music app we are connected before. i keep monitoring that and his song choice is death and just super obvious clue that he is experiencing depression so i confronted him about it he just got mad at me and accusing me of making him look like a crazy persom. mental illness here is taboo. he won't admiy. i call
his father and they don't believe me. his father told me his son is not into drugs. i told my sister and my sister collect second hand books before and she's able to but a book about depression. my sister also is convinced that he is not behaving notmal so i give him the book i put it on his bag i forced him to have it. then one time we all went out to a mall and my sister saw a fold on the book it means he is readinh it. i felt so relieved. but after that i became paranoid i would keep callinh him and if he didn't answer a lot of things are going on my mind. he is probably dead that's why is he is not pickinh up. at times i woud dress up so that if he is still not picking up his phone i'm already ready i don't have to change clothes and go raid his houde. i never thought mental illness do really exist

[Emerald55346]

That’s such a relief you could help him, I noticed this comment and how much emotion was put into it. I have been through a very similar situation, taking another persons health on as your responsibility isn’t healthy as much as you love someone, you can not change them altogether. You should not be with someone that will so easily walk away and make you question yourself, you should be spending the time you are ready to run to his house making yourself happy. You can’t save anyone that doesn’t want it and if he is stone walling it’s impossible.

[katiesmuff]

Yes it would be quite normal to feel that way! Your use to crawling in bed with this boyfriend, snuggling with him playing with your titties, rubbing your tummy and back, kissing your neck, ears, mouth, nipples and on down to licking your hot willing pussy. Finally he gets between your shaking legs and gently slips that penis you love up inside you.

[strlb]

Perfectly normal. You shared intimate moments with someone that made you feel emotionally and physically connected. Now that your relationship is over you're missing that physical connection that we as humans desire; sexual beings need sex and physical intimacy. Try cuddlecomfort until you find someone to share physical intimacy with. Best of luck. DM always open

[AviatorTom]

Perfectly normal. Your life has changed and it takes a while to deal with it. Best thing to do is get over the breakup and find someone else to be intimate with.

[Guy13]

Yeah, distance, separation, and angst does this to you.

[Changiis07]

It's normal to miss certain things yes

[Finchie40]

Yes it’s , normal , cuz you realize you will never feel that person again and you miss the way they feel and smell , you don’t realize it until it’s gone , you will remember the good times but barely the bad , But it’s best to move on and never try to go back to an ex , I tried taking an ex back one time and it wasn’t the same , the trust we had for each other was gone , I slept with her thinking maybe things would be better but it wasn’t , so I moved on

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I imagine missing physical intimacy is a big reason why people miss their exes in general. They miss the cuddling, the closeness, the warmth, though not necessarily the person themselves. I think that's pretty normal.

[serious]

Well, I have always been single so not applicable to me.

However, for your question yes it is normal for you the miss that physical connection and intimacy of your old relationship.

[molonski2]

Extremely normal , of course you miss the intimacy , you possibly even ran that thought though your mind before you broke up , perfectly normal and expected.

[Appleserpia]

Physical intimacy makes up a greater percentage of a relationship. You get used to the scent of their Cologne, the texture of his hands, and the rhythm of his heartbeat. Some go as far as missing the sound of his snore when he sleeps. It's your partner's identity and then you don't get them, it can trigger sadness, anxiety, and other mental pressure that can injure your human status.

[BagoH]

It's because your brain was used to getting the hormones from the physical connection and now that it's gone you experience natural withdrawal symptoms. There are multiple hormones that play a role and one of them is oxytocin.

[Fireguy17]

yes, that is very normal, and it is one of the benefits of being in a relationship vs going out and boinking someone different every chance you get.
That gives you the physical relief, but does not take care of the emotional needs.

[RavVid]

I think that is pretty normal. For myself I sleep better if I have a girl sleeping beside me but it is not the sex per se. We evolved to sleep together I'm sure.

[AMS700CX4u2]

As long as the intimacy is there the ocytocin flows freely as does the serotonin. When those two are not present they are sorely missed.

[TenderFantasy]

God that's the worst lol.

Yep, been there done that. Especially during my fertile/horny days haha.

[savagewolf22]

What's your boobs size ma'am?

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah. That happens to a lot of people. That's one of the main reasons that people get into rebound relationships (or go back to their ex.) So try to be very careful not to let those urges take control of you and cause you to make any bad decisions.

[tinydiva1991]

I believe so. It’s probably harder for guys though.

[bolverk]

Yes its normal, you feel as though part of you is missing, the longer the relationship the more pronounced the feeling, especially if it was your SO decided on the break up.

[JDAC092299]

Yeah I’d say it is, hell it may sound weird to some but I miss cooking a meal for two, having someone enjoy my food with me

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Yes, it is completely normal. Most people want some affection or intimacy of some kind.

[FallonSamuels]

Absolutely normal. You’ll probably crave physical contact for a while

[lottiebannotie]

Yeah it's perfectly normal especially if you were together for quite a while you will get better though

[Paul09]

I've felt like that for most of my life now. Haven't had any kind of physical or mental connection. Just have to not think about it, and keep yourself occupied with things you love to do.

[Sleeper07]

You're an idiot if you broke up over stupid reasons.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I craved for my ex's touch and kissing for months... Then I fell for someone else. It will wear off eventually, don't worry.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's very normal you're used to the physical contact so you went from having that physical contact on a regular basis to not having it at all. So of course you're gonna miss it.

[JohnK123]

Yes lol when I haven’t seen my girlfriend in a long time I get like touch deprived like I want her

[Guardian45]

I love sex, but it's NOT sex I miss the MOST. It's intimacy. The things that only a partner knows, and hopefully misses too!

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Go over the problems that severised u. And try t' make the same problems occur again. And have a "talk"/write a letter. And also, work on yourself..

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It makes sense. You go from having a consistent source of physical intimacy, to none at all.

[BrookeS]

In the meantime just say hello to mr. Cucumber

[Ihatethewill]

Yes it's normal. And what some women do to cope with this emotion is sleep with a bunch of guys.

[Anonymous]

I would assume it's normal. That constant feeling of knowing that you had some level of security would be gone. I would feel lonely personally

[fuddly]

It's probably why couples stay together in the first place

[lovethislife55]

Of course it is natural, this is definitely something you would miss

[Anonymous]

Maybe 🤷‍♀️ I don’t like being touched to begin with

[ArrowheadSW]

Oh yes I think that is very normal.

[nitsuj86]

I think the answer is... duh. or No shit!

[sheikalana]

It is very normal.

[dusky_woman1]

Yes it's totally normal.

[sarasubmis]

That’s completely normal

[noohair]

It is not abnormal to feel this way.

[Celticwolf78]

Plenty of times