I miss intimacy with my ex. Is this normal?

It's been two weeks since we broke up. I cried and grieved and got over it. I don't want to be with him, I realized I was only in love with the IDEA of what I hoped he would be. He didn't treat me bad per se, but he was very immature, leading me on for months not knowing what he wants. So we kind of mutually broke up.
I don't miss him (as in him as person, as boyfriend, as relationship) but I today I started miss intimacy with him. I was fine this whole time, I really thought I'm completely over him, but yeah today kinda sucks and I don't know why. All I think about his being in his arms, kissing and hugging. I wish we could do that right now so badly! I don't want sex, just intimacy, with not a word spoken.

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  • Of course it's normal. Intimacy releases a lot of very positive and potent chemicals and hormones that make us feel good and makes it all feel right.

    When you suddenly then lack that, you're going to miss it. Being with friends, comfort foods - these are things that will give you some of those good feelings, but not quite the same.

    Make sure the next one is a keeper and you'll never have to miss those feelings again.

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  • What you're feeling is completely normal! Many of us like that feeling of physical intimacy; the warmth and love that comes from giving your significant other a comforting hug, kissing their cheeks/lips, cuddling with them and such! When you lose those feelings of intimacy, it can make you feel lonely and depressed, wishing you could have those feelings back. We as people of social beings don't like being alone and plenty of us want to give our affection and love to someone we really love and care about as we'd want to have those feelings returned to us the same way!

    It's ok if you feel this for a while; it just shows how much you've loved being in a relationship and wanting to bond with your significant other through acts of physical intimacy! I hope you'll find someone who'll treat you with great care and love so you'll never have to worry about another break-up again, along with having those moments of physical intimacy with your significant other for the rest of your life!

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  • I don’t think it’s bad, and it normal. You might not miss that person, but you just miss having someone to cuddle and kiss and all of that stuff. I get it.

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What Guys Said 14

  • Yes of course it's perfectly normal and in time you will think less about it and hopefully move on and meet someone else.

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  • Cold turkey, totally normal, natural you calm down after a few weeks... but one dick and you are again fixed, so dont dare...

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  • Hahahahahaha 😂 fuck No its like
    Like I'm used to your advantage.
    as she saw and demanded nothing but friends and no more than just that

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  • Sorry can't offer an opinion, as only you can decide x

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  • It's normal. Find somebody else.

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  • Yes very normal!

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  • I would say very much so

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  • its very normal but it will pass with time

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  • U dumb

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  • Yeah I still do

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  • You must be a very lonely soul

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  • Sounds like you like most women initiated the break up. Also sounds like you like most women portrayed the fantasy of what you wanted him to be. And on top of that it sounds like you like most women were got turned on by the challenge of trying to CHANGE him.

    Men often have delayed reactions to break ups. For me personally I’m usually initially relieved but it hits me hard after a month. There is one ex I broke up with a little over 4 years ago that I still think about often.

    You can be friendly with him but not friends. If there are unresolved issues on both your ends I think it’s fair to keep the communication lines open. I think it’s extremely cruel to cut someone off 100% when there was no cheating or abuse involved. But some people think this is the best way.

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  • Of course, it has been almost 4 months and I would do anything just to even see my ex again, even if it means we aren't getting back together.

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  • Well, intimacy is usually best enjoyed after a thorough sexual work out, so. . .

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What Girls Said 2

  • I guess you’re just lonely

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  • Not if you are a elephant

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