Allow father in delivery room or not?

[Anonymous]

I am 25 weeks pregnant, me and the father where together for 4 years before deciding to have a baby he was so happy when i told him i was pregnant.

The beginning was okay but the further along I get the more strained our relationship become because I needed more support from him and he isn’t providing the support I needed so we ended up separating.

We are having a harder time planning for this baby now to the point we don’t talk for days at a time.

At this point I am over it and I feel resolved to finish this on my own.

Is it okay to change my mind that as I don’t want him in the delivery room with me anymore? I am not feeling safe and trusting enough to have him see me in such a vulnerable situation.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I support you 100% and not allowing him in the delivery room, and you want to make sure that the baby, and you have complete safety.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[imawfulatusernames]

Birth is the last selfish decision you ever get to make. If you don’t want him there he shouldn’t be there

[SaoirseS]

It’s your choice. If I were in similar circumstances I wouldn’t let him in either.

[Asker]

i am ok with him being at the hospital in the waiting room or something but just not in the delivery room it's self

i am fine with him seeing the baby after the birth

[SaoirseS]

That sounds reasonable.

[Asker]

well my ex does not think it is reasonable as he thinks he won't get to see the baby for hours and that he will be pushed to the side

[SaoirseS]

In the end though, it’s still up to you.

[Asker]

i know but it is hard to make a choice

[gorydetails]

It's his child, also.

[Asker]

i am ok with him seeing the baby after the birth just not in the delivery room