Is a wife allowed to kick her husband out of the delivery room?

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My question is based on an argument i had with a typical feminist who thinks that she can kick her husband out and invite anyone she can into the delivery room and denying the father to watch his baby coming out to the world...

miaisapapaya744289 · Accepted Answer

mhm i would allow the love of my life to watch. if i’m certain enough to allow him to impregnate me, im certain enough about our love, trust, and vulnerability. it’s not only my child, but his as well. him being there would make it all the better. i would have given him the trust and vulnerability of choosing him, allowing him to access my body, and mind - i clearly would have that need to have him there because of the trust and love i already have for him. it’s not one sided. he’s experiencing mental, emotional, spiritual things as well. and the love only grows stronger from witnessing your woman birth her and yours child which you created through ultimate trust and vulnerability

Apulu_Imback · Accepted Answer

Why do these women feel like they have the whole baby for their own? You won't have got that baby if not for the baby's dad. It's the dad's right to see his baby sprouting out, It was his seed after all. My dad chose not to see it because he didn't wanted to see his wife in pain and thought my mom would be uncomfortable. But he got to hold me first.

DaveJord · Answer

So legally it has been argued that mothers privacy rights, in regards to pregnancy are paramount to that of the fathers. According to a 2014 ruling, and they cited Roe vs Wade as setting presidency over the women's right. Because pregnant mothers do not need the fathers permission to get an abortion, therefore the father does not have any legal custody rights until after the birth of the child. But now that Roe vs. Wade has thrown out it really comes down to the states making that determination, and I am sure moving forward there will be challenges to this ruling.

Legally it might be permissible, but morally I would say it unethical of women, and most people would say that the father should be present. Let me tell you if a women tells her husband to get out, that is very telling of the future of the relationship and the type of mother she most likely to become. So men beware of these types.

Although I am supporter of "Her body, Her choice", I do think most of that comes at the expense of the man and empowers some women with a sense of moral supremacy. So I say, "HER body, HER choice", but then it should be "HIS money, His choice."

If you want the dad to be apart of the child's life, then he should pay, and get 50/50 say. If you do not want the father to be part of the child's life, then no money, and no say. "HER body, HER choice!" But as it is most these types of women get it both way, she makes all the calls in regard to the child, corrupts and interferes in the relationship between the father and child, and still gets the money... how convenient for these women, right?

My dear lady, your hypocrisy knows no bonds!

Birthing Moms Can Kick Dads Out of Delivery Room: N. J. Court - FindLaw

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musicbrain5 · Answer

There are two different aspects to your question. Legally, yes she can ask him to wait outside. Any patient undergoing any kind of medical care or a medical procedure has the right to either have someone with them or not. You even have the right to kick medical staff off your case if you feel you’re not being treated right or respectfully, or if they are not acknowledging your rights and wishes for your own care. (That can start getting into the area of medical malpractice, though, which is not the focus here.)

HOWEVER, I believe you are asking about the moral aspect. Again, she can have whoever she wants in the room (or nobody at all) - her husband or boyfriend, her mother, father, or any other family. Usually it is limited to one person. I am sure that there are also still many cultures and religions around the world where the father is not permitted to be present during childbirth. In Western countries like mine, this is not the case.

If I were giving birth I would like for my husband to be there. However, I won’t force him to stay if he isn’t comfortable. So that is the opposite of this whole question - if he knows my wish, then what does HE want to do?

TruthBringer · Answer

MORALLY? If it is against the man's wishes, not a good thing.

Gentlemen, if your woman wants you out WITHOUT a solid/valid reason, then that's quite telling about how she feels about you and where your relationship can lead to. I would be very concerned in that regard. Imagine, you're not allowed to witness the birth of your own child that you'll be taking care of for almost the rest of your life, but you're still expected to take ALL the responsibilities of being a father...

Just because it is legal for the woman to ask the husband/father out, doesn't mean that it is morally the right choice to make. Why deny the father, who is most likely the one being the main provider and protector of the child & the mother being tossed out? Why can't he be there to help or at least be supporting the mother during birth?

I remember talking with my girlfriend about this and she INSISTED that I would be there to support her. She does not want me to leave her side.

PS: Of course that feminist is going to argue that a woman should be allowed to kick her husband out. She doesn't care about the moral aspect. She only cares about throwing jabs at men. Imagine having that type of person as the mother of your children. I'm already cringing at the thought...

Prettygurl12 · Answer

I mean... a mother giving birth gets the ultimate say as to who is in the room with her. That being said, assuming her husband is the father of said baby... I want to know what he did that made her kick him out because I feel like the vast majority of women would want their partner in there with them.

A man's role in the delivery room is to be his wife/SO's advocate. He needs to support her and her wishes. Medical staff can be pushy and try to override the mother's wishes. So it's her man's job to make sure she gets the birthing experience she wants. He has to go to bat for her, if necessary. And if he's not doing that then I could see how a laboring mom would kick him out.

I imagine it's hard enough to give birth and then have to advocate for yourself also? That'd be his job and if he's slacking then I could see how that would be extremely disappointing and frustrating.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

It depends.
My boyfriend wanted to be there for my delivery & so did my mom. Thankfully I got to have both of them in there, but I also knew my boyfriend was going to be ill or faint at some point during delivery.
I was right, he was holding my right leg & my mom had my hand. Next thing I know I hear him call my mom's name 3 times & he flew away into a chair because he almost fainted as our son was crowning. He looked white as a ghost when I got through with the contraction. He turned a little green when I had to get a sight episiotomy that required 7 stitches. My mom had to take his place holding my leg.
Delivery is not easy on the stomach to watch for a portion of the population. If the one giving birth knows their partner probably can't stomach the whole process, they have the right to say "you know what, babe, maybe you should wait outside". But that is a private decision between the parties involved.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Well, they weren't married, but when my daughter had my grandson, she needed an emergency c-section and they told her she could have one person with her and she picked me not my grandson's Dad.. but then she was scared and probably wanted someone she knew would be supportive/comforting unlike the dad who kept disappearing from the hospital (think was getting high with his friends🙄) while my daughter's blood pressure was soaring and high blood sugars) she had preeclampsia... Sometimes hubby/baby daddy might not be the best person to have in the delivery room

sage2021 · Answer

Totally unacceptable! These feminists have ruined so many things for people because of their unrealistic and snooty ways.
Sure, it's a choice who you want in the delivery room, when You're the Father of the baby you can say what they say:
"My body, my choice and I chose to be right there when the baby is born. My body made the baby, so it's not only what you decide that counts."
Her Friend can see the baby after it's born.
Stand up for yourself on this one. Afterall, it is a once in a lifetime chance to see a child that you helped to make come un to the world. Of course you want to be right there for that.
How can you stand to be with a modern day feminist is beyond me. I am just the opposite of them.
The best to you on this. I hope it turns out in your favor.
Sage🌹

MementoMori_ · Answer

When you say "Allowed" I think the answer is yes. In the US at least, I assume a hospital will not allow anyone in the delivery room that the patient does not want to be present. That comes under patient rights.

But whether or not she SHOULD exclude the father is an moral and relationship question.

As to the relationship, it seems to me that it will likely be damaged if the father wants to be present but the mother excludes him. So you have to decide whether or not you want to risk those consequences.

As to the moral question, that is open for debate. I can see both sides. For example, is the father expected to assume any financial responsibility for the child? If so, it seems to me that he has certain parental rights which may include the right to see the child's birth if he chooses. With rights come responsibilities. But with responsibilities also come rights.

sheikalana · Answer

Very sensitive topic out here. I would personally want my husband to be right next to me during our child birth but I can also understand why some women wouldn't want their husbands to be there they'll be in a very vulnerable position and maybe some women are not that comfortable in showing that side tp their partners. However, it's also the husband's right to be present during their child birth. Lots of conversations need to be held before this day comes and before taking a final decision.

Anonymous · Answer

In your example, what is the reason for the husband being kicked out? I don't know anyone in a loving relationship with their spouse that would kick them out unless there was a reason, and there can be for both the mother and hospital staff to kick a husband out of the room like he's being/saying abusive things, he's fighting with the family and making it difficult for staff to attend to the mother, he's violently ill or queasy, his actions are disrupting staff or he's being abusive to staff. Ultimately, the reality is, staff's goal is to bring a healthy baby into this world and if the husband is causing disruption or not allowing them to do their jobs, yes absolutely he or she can kick him out.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Absolutely. She can have whoever she wants in the delivery room. It's her choice. I'd he's being a dick she has every right not to put herself in a vulnerable state infront of him.

Of course it would be morally wrong and all kinds of fucked if they were in a loving relationship.

TransAm85 · Answer

Yes, apparently in ‘85 when I was coming out, my dad was drunk and being annoying so my mom had him leave! My godmother, grandma, and mom’s cousins saw me come out, but not my drunk dad. That in itself is weird bc I wouldn’t want other family members watching me give birth, only my husband. But, my mom is a little different I guess.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think the wife should be allowed. Her husband might be hyperemotional and a distraction to her and the medical staff. I remember the days when the husband wasn't allowed in the delivery room unless it was documented that he had special training.

Liasa · Answer

If he is a loving and caring guy and the mother is not very insecure about being seen in that vulnerable position and they are in a happy and healthy relationship where the woman is comfortable and would love to rely on her man this will not happen

Women only act defensive if they feel like the "man" is in some way shape or form either making her feel unsafe or insecure. For example if the relationship is toxic and some abuse is going on behind the scenes, or if the woman has some insecurities or traumas related to being seen in a vulnerable position.

Then... leaving her alone is probably best for you, her and the baby.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah, if he is getting on my nerves and behaving out of line while I'm in pain and pushing out a fucking baby out of my vagina... I would kick him out too but I assume that a good father and partner wouldn't be an asshole in that moment, so everything good

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Great question. I work in a hospital as a security officer. The laws involved, she can choose who she wants by her side or not as a patient. If she doesn't want someone in the delivery room, then me and my officer buddies will show up and force that person out.

If the husband is a good man, not causing any havok in the hospital, and the wife doesn't want him in there... That's fucked up of her... But as a patient she can choose who she wants. Hopefully a good husband never experiences that, would be sad.

RangerBlue22 · Answer

Well it’s a pretty shitty thing to do to the father.

With that said she is going through deep pain and stress of delivering a kid. Along with the surging hormones she’s bound to say or even do something extremely bitchy or nasty in the moment.

If she really insisted on kicking the dad out I guess she can have her way. But she better give him a true and heart felt apology later when she’s all recovered. If she doesn’t that a huge red flag right there. Giant one.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Bit why would you? The only reason I tell him to leave is if he's going to pass out or throw up. Otherwise you should want tour husband to be there, you should want him to see the birth of his child. You dont create a baby alone, I just find that weird. My husband will be there and I will squeeze his hand lol

Nash62826 · Answer

Well if he was of no help and puked on me during the process i'd put him in the corjer not kick him put. My brother in law passed out when my sister gave birth to my nephew, we put him s chair dude missed the whole thing after he saw the head i told him not to look.

hahahmm · Answer

Hmm. I guess from a legal standpoint - in modern 1st world countries - she can because she's considered the patient and if she's conscious she can limit visitors. But I bet she's not kicking out access to his bank account...

The guy in this scenario picked the wrong woman to impregnante/wife.

HighValue · Answer

If she does that, he should leave, change his house, car, etc. into his parents' name and cancel all of their credit cards so she gets nothing when he divorces her. Have the papers served to her while she is still at the hospital. She deserves it.

Anonymous · Answer

So many pathetic answers by the women here. Very telling about the maturity, the mentality, and morality that they have. Women currently ask where all the good men are. Well, they're gone from your disgusting presence because of the way you women are these days. No man with a right mind would be around you.

Mangospacho · Answer

You have to be invited into the delivery room and those deliveries do get intense so they may have him kicked out even if she doesn’t ask for him to be kicked out if he is causing trouble. I doubt he would even be invited in the first place if he was gonna get kicked out.

DJB72 · Answer

Being in the delivery room is a privilege, not a right.

If the wife doesn't want him there then for patient care medic staff will ABSOLUTELY let her kick him out.

Childbirth is a highly stressful experience - my wife almost died giving birth - and the patient's wellbeing is paramount. Your desire does not trump her right to privacy. My son was delivered and the problems started so instead of cutting the cord he was handed to me wrapped as her blood pressure dropped to zero and the staff fought (successfully, thank God) to save her life.

A delivery theatre is no place for civilians when something goes wrong.

So again, yes - the mother is the patient, not your ego. Her consent to your presence can be revoked at any point.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I think its stupid she would do that if he wanted to be there, nevertheless, with a medical procedure she should have the right as a patient to feel safe and without stress in the medical room especially during a very stressful and painful procedure such as a child birth.

If she feels her husband is causing her stress or making her uncomfortable then he should be kicked out.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Allowed? That means she has my permission? I dont "allow" my wife to do anything. Its her choice. Id respect her wish, but I would logically convince her why i should be there.

For what its worth, I received my kids when they were born. It is the one experience which, for a man, made me cry uncontrollably.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Well... I don't think it's fair because it takes 2 to make a baby. The father is just as entitled as the mother.

Matthew2024 · Answer

I dont see why they would want to, it seems like a pretty shitty thing to do. If your wife did that, maybe you should rethink things lmao.

Only time I could see it is if the dad was like drunk or not a good person. If she had a legit reason, but if he was her loving husband and about to be a loving father, why. Ig it all depends on the situation.

suzzieQ · Answer

Yes she is. That choice would be protected under HIPPA and doctor patient confidentiality. She is the patient and has the right to have anyone she does not want present during her delivery removed from the room... doctors prohibited fathers in the labor and delivery room for a long time regardless of weather or not the woman wanted him there.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Of course she can kick him out. NOBODY has a right to be in the room with any medical procedure except the doctors and/or other necessary staff to perform the procedure. All medical procedures are private unless the patient gives explicit permission otherwise.

I know there has been a trend for husbands to be in the delivery room, but more and more doctors are advising against it.

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Yes, a woman has the right to endure the trauma of childbirth in privacy just like any adult has the right to undergo medical care without witnesses.

The one experiencing the medical treatment has a right to privacy.

The one who is mad about not being allowed in the room is merely entitled, bitter and has no sense of consideration.

AmberESTP · Answer

I think if she's uncomfortable of you watching her have a baby, then that's totally fine, she can kick ya out.

But the thing you said that she'll invite other people like friends and stuff, that's weird.

That means you screwed up somewhere and she doesn't really love you.

lauraannm1278 · Answer

I think that’s awful! It’s his baby too. It’s not just hers only because it’s inside her. It’s 50/50. He’s excited about the baby. It took two to get pregnant. He stuck with her for 9 months. She had no right to kick him out.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I would find that a little sus if she did that. Why can't a Dad watch their kid come into the world? Sounds like she is hiding something.

shanshu · Answer

I think if he's a loving husband and she tells me to get out I think he should try and stay against what she says because most what she says comes from anger due to her blaming him for doing this to her, I think he should get hold of her hand and say "I'm not going anywhere".

If he's being a complete dick and inconsiderate pain in the ass then yeah she can boot his arse out

Curmudgeon · Answer

"My question is based on an argument i had with a typical feminist who thinks that she can kick her husband out and invite anyone she can into the delivery room and denying the father to watch his baby coming out to the world..."

How dismal. I am old enough to remember when "feminists" (sic) insisted the father be present at dcelivery, rather than waiting in the waiting room and passing out cigars or other trinkets to his fellows.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

A patient can request that everyone except essential staff be excluded from the room during any procedure. That’s a fact. She can’t just invite ANYONE in. One birthing “coach” or whatever. It’s not like she can invite the local beach volleyball team to hang out in the delivery room or something. Ell oh ell!

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Personally I didn’t watch I went near my wifes head behind the curtain thing they saw I started to look pale and made me sit down lol. Not a blood person.

TacticalLizard · Answer

First off It’s the dudes Cum that created the baby secondly The girl is only There To Fertilize Your Own Cum that’s it After your cum is injected Is still your cum But You just don’t Have Any Authority of The Liquid that left your body.

acooke-13 · Answer

You don't have to be a feminist to know you're allowed whoever you want in the delivery room. It's a very large medical procedure and if them woman doesn't want the Father there, then unfortunately he will be asked to leave.

VIVANT · Answer

Oh Tony I thought you were asking if she can kick her husband 😯

Ghostluck · Answer

I wouldn't be with a woman who thought this way and I hope no other man is dumb enough to be with her either. Let her die a very lonely life without child.

zagor · Answer

I had a boss who related how her now ex-husband kept whining about how cold he was in the delivery room while she was going through the pains of childbirth. She finally just told him to GTFO.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Yup. Wish I would’ve done it with my abuser but I felt bad

Anonymous · Answer

Well I have two children and I wasn't interested in seeing them being born, too messy and too much blood so I don't care much

John_Doesnt · Answer

It's medical privacy. Yes, she can kick anybody out of the medical room: her mom, dad, husband/wife, etc.  Why would a husband be entitled to stay in the delivery room? There is no law allowing somebody to barge into a person's medical room. It doesn't matter what you are doing in there: getting a pimple removed, having a standard check up or having a baby. Medical privacy is for all.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I suppose she can. There is nothing wrong with it if the husband is disruptive, drunk, getting in the staffs way, or even being problematic with the wife. It'll be better if he is removed. This isn't a feminist issue, so I don't know how would a feminist weigh on something that's between a couple.

Massageman · Answer

I'm sure that each birthing venue, hospital, clinic, ER, etc., has its own protocol for this sort of thing. Our daughter was in fetal distress (requiring an emergency C-section to save her), and I darn near got trampled in the uproar. I got to warm the bench.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Lol i don't want to be in to see that blood shed. May if requested then have to but in our part of the world it's quite common that we see the baby post its birth. Cleaned up abit and wrapped in a cloth

Anonymous · Answer

Dude--if your wife kicks you out of the delivery room, you thank your freaking lucky stars! Go get a beer and relax! Buy her a nice gift. Avoid that bloodbath and shitshow. It's literally both of those things. You're there out of duty if she wants you there, but if she doesn't you should peace the fuck out!

AngeryCapsicum · Answer

As the patient she gets the say, however if she is doing it to be spiteful then I certainly do not envy his position or the life that she's probably making hell.

Luopio27 · Answer

It is her right, but its still fucked up to even want to have tje husband out.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You can bet the hospital staff and security will side with the woman.

TallAnon · Answer

It's fun to see some people with very clear and direct answers.. all of which aren't even talking about what country this is happening in. Each country has their own laws, so this changes as well. In most cases the hospital can decide who is in the room, as they have to make a safe environment to work in. They will likely side with the woman to end the argument and get to work.

abc3643 · Answer

Yes. No one has a right to be in an operating room (and that includes a delivery room) except the patient and attending medical staff.

Guy13 · Answer

PLEASE KICK ME OUT... EWWW, you are NASTY... I can't ever touch THAT thing with MY THING

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately she can kick the guy out and if she does, hospital staff can enforce it and if he refuses to leave they can call security or the police and have the guy removed.

Anonymous · Answer

ah yes. It's "her baby" when she's giving birth, but it's "our baby" when she wants those child support checks! lmao

Charlesbrandonf · Answer

This is little argumentative. Understand this is not the time to argument as she is the one in the delivery room delivering the deliverable baby. Life can be so upside down but knowing when not to argue and enduring the pain is a great thing.

Moose304 · Answer

In all seriousness, if you as a male are having a child with a lady and you are having this discussion, the problems in this relationship go far beyond a baby delivery! BOTH of you need help!

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