Why does my ex boyfriends mum continue to check in on me? Does it mean there’s a chance we could get back together?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I broke up 5 months ago. I miss him a lot and still hope we rekindle at some point. He broke up with me after almost three years together, it’s a complex story around the breakup but we ended on mostly good terms. His mum regularly sends me texts asking for updates on my life and checking in, as well as sharing updates on her life. Could this mean that there is potential for rekindling? Or is she just being nice?

[Changiis07]

Sounds like what happened with my ex and his family. His dad kept in touch, and it was more like he missed me and I'm sure to get some sense into what his son missed out on. Honestly I had to block all of them because I had to move on. I miss them but it's not healthy

[Vegasrunner]

@Changiis07 Completley different. Her boyfriend broke up w/ her. You broke up w/ yours. Also Mom is checking in for a completely different reason than dad is.

[Changiis07]

@Vegasrunner Oh I didn't know you knew my life? He broke up with me as well

[Vegasrunner]

@Changiis07 What did you do?

[Changiis07]

@Vegasrunner long story! but I didn't do anything. We remained friends but of course it doesn't work. We saw each other recently and we are both attracted to each other very much. I just don't see a future and have stopped responding to him

[Vegasrunner]

@Changiis07 Wait, I thought you said he broke up w/ you?

[belle_kai]

@Vegasrunner she never said that? She blocked him which is normal. I did the same its the only way to move on. Helps the healing process

[Vegasrunner]

@belle_kai she literal said she broke up w/ him in her initial response to me. Did you not read it?

[belle_kai]

@Vegasrunner she must have deleted it then. Can't see it

[Vegasrunner]

@belle_kai I found it pretty easily. Tbh I just wanted to highlight how women will take the opposite side of any argument that a man presents simply to do it. @Changiis07 responded by saying "he broke up w/ me" as a way to try to validate that I don't know her situation. Since women rarely admit when their broken up w/ by a guy I needed a creayive way to get her to admit that.

[belle_kai]

@Vegasrunner where is her answer can you copy and paste? Where am I missing it?

[Vegasrunner]

@belle_kai Ask Lol, I have it saved but ask @Changiis07 first if she said it. if she denies it I'll send I to you. This provides another excellent opportunity to highlight female behavior.

[belle_kai]

@Vegasrunner I can't be bothered lol. But just making sure I'm not going blind.

[Scootergirl111]

@Vegasrunner what is your hitch my guy. Do you get on here just to gaslight people and annoy them? Lol

[Vegasrunner]

@belle_kai Hopefully you are not as her response is clearly in this conversation thread. I find it ironic that you were quick to present a false judgment as if it were fact yet are reluctant to go and seek our what seems like obvious evidence.

[Vegasrunner]

@Scootergirl111 TY for your question. I don't know what "hitch" means. Asking a question on a forum designed to ask questions is gaslighting? Please elaborate.

[Changiis07]

@Vegasrunner I just saw this but yes again HE broke up with me about 2 years ago. It was never toxic and his family loves me

[Vegasrunner]

@Changiis07 TY for sharing this however I believe @belle_kai is the individual that needed this information.

[belle_kai]

@Vegasrunner wtf I knew he broke up with her. You were saying SHE broke up with him. I'm not one of your victims. Lmao

[Vegasrunner]

@belle_kai We'll u kinda are. You responded to me after I said "I thought he broke up w/ you" Your first statement was "she never said that" Perhaps you misunderstood.

[TheThingALing]

There's always a chance that she could be just reaching out genuinely to check in make sure you're good. But I think most moms operate and do what they can for their children first and nothing comes between them. So it's possible that she maintaining contact with you because she doing it so you can get back with son cuz she sees you as a good girlfriend or it's possible that she just checking in to see how you're doing so that if son were to want to come back and she had some pertinent information that she could share with him to discourage that she would

[AviatorTom]

It's possible you could get back together. But I suspect that she likes you and wants to make sure you're doing okay. She may want you two to get back together but knows that's up to her son.

[Anonymous]

It could just be her being nice. I was with a guy for almost 5 years and got really close with his mom. Sometimes the breakup is hard on everyone, especially when you form close bonds with their family and vice versa. Even now, a few years later I’m still in contact with him mom as I’m in a whole new relationship lol she doesn’t tell him about it, we just check in from time to time☺️

[Paris13]

She appears to Like and Miss you and may even be Talking Some Sense Into HIM to Rekindle. Keep in Touch with Her and See what happens. His Mum Liking You is Rare these Days. lolxxoo

[Pinay_ako]

She seems like she just genuinely cares. But don’t have your hopes up. If there was ever a slight chance of rekindling, her son should reach out to you not her. She is not him.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex’s mom is doing the same, she sends me gifts, messages me very often.

He was my fiance and his family was very happy to have me, they told me they wished we married, they are angry about him and encourage me to start my new life,

my ex is already in a new relationship with another girl for 7 months and it’s been 10 months since we broke up.

I guess they liked you a lot, but his family still can’t decide instead of him.

[UnknownSwede]

I guess she enjoyed your company and is a nice person so she's checking up on you to see how you're doing. I don't think it necessarily got anything to do with your ex and that you could get back together, unless the reason you broke up had something to do with his mom.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

A lot of moms see their son's girlfriend as a second daughter. Even after they break up.
The good news is, most moms will side with their son during a nasty break up.
So if he didn't like you, neither would his mom.

[Screenwriter]

Unless your EX is checking up on you, his mother's checking up has nothing to do with the two of you. She's being nice and clearly she likes you.

The only reason to think about a rekindling is with your EX checking in.

[summiter]

She obviously likes you and thinks you would be a good fit for her son. How old is he? Do you think he still has feelings for you?

[belle_kai]

How long were you together? She cares for you clearly and probably just wants to make sure you're ok. That's a good mom even if she's not your mom

[spartan55]

What would his mother have to do with getting back together? This is one of the bigger reaches I've seen today.

[NYCQuestions1976]

She's being nice, and it probably means that she's hoping that you guys get back together, but it doesn't mean that your ex-boyfriend is thinking the same thing.

[Justmeagain1]

I’m actually concerned this is going to happen to me.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, where you close with his mom? that's the only reasoning. no subliminal messages here...

[Blueeyes81]

It means SHE is fond of you, like a daughter. That has no bearing in whether you get back together with her son.

[Christoff92]

She cares that you were a great girlfriend to him that's all 🙂

[mommymommymommy]

Likely not

And why do you care if he did anyway. he's AN EX. YOU NEED TO MOVE ON

[noohair]

She likes you. I would not read too much more into it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Nope. She likes you for some reason but he is done with you.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Only if you're trying to date his mom.

[JaxiCats]

Probably because she just cares about you

[poetic_pisces]

She likes you