Girls, what would you do would you breakup or try and fix it?

[Anonymous]

So if a guy that’s your best friend and that you told him you had feelings for and you know he had feelings towards you back, told you he felt used and that you only wanted him when you need something bc of events that happened recently but he says he wants to work it out. What would y’all do.

right before this conversation a week before you both got mad at each other bc you got him to work on your car and he ran into issues he couldn’t fix that led to late in the night to the early morning.

[Flower7]

It would be best to just try to stay friends instead of continuing into anything romantic. It’s not good to start a relationship when there are problems already.

[Asker]

Yeah I wished she never said anything to me but I feel it was over bc she just completely changed after (bc we quit hanging out doing things we did before and she began acting like I wasn’t her friend and just kept with the mindset I had to do something to see her) and when I brought it up she just called me a liar bc I said it but was still treating her nice at the time.

[Flower7]

Sounds toxic.

[Asker]

Really it was this happened like 2 months ago and I thought I’d just ask to lol looking back it was way more than it should’ve

[EmmaMary]

We would obviously sit down and quietly talk this through.

[Asker]

So that’s what I thought, but she said she lost feelings bc I said I felt like that and then to me lashed out at me saying she was done and that I was insecure bc I would try to talk to her when we went to dinner ( just like small talk like how was your day and such)

Thanks for the opinion I just wanted to see if I was crazy for wanting to talk it out rather than not bc I know it’s not a easy issue to just say but completely sucks when you feel used

[EmmaMary]

Sadly I think perhaps you should prepare yourself for the parting of the ways.

[Asker]

Oh yeah that already happened after she said she lost feelings and I was insecure for talking to her.

it was more less it’s been stuck in my head since and thought I’d ask to see if someone saying they felt used was just something people just don’t wanna work on bc it’s def a first for me

[EmmaMary]

I do wish you all good luck and happiness for the future.

[Asker]

What would you say or start out with when y’all did talk?

[EmmaMary]

There's absolutely no point in dwelling on this any longer.

You need to put it out of your mind once and for all, move on and focus on the future.

[virtualwasp]

Work on issues.

[Asker]

I feel the same about that she I guess didn’t she rather just leave it there and move on

[Asker]

How would you work on them? Like have a talk and what would you say? I only got told I was lying bc I was treating her nice till I said I felt used, just curious

[virtualwasp]

Have to sit down, be open and honest about what you both want and how you both feel, until then you will both keep upsetting each other and dancing around the issue. I know I'm incredibly stubborn.