Do cheaters deserve to get cheated on?

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D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I think they do. The only times I've been motivated to outright cheat is because they cheated first. I have the same impulse to leave them as any normal person, but at the same time... revenge is sooooo fucking sweet.

I know a lot of people wouldn't agree with me... but it really feels good letting a deceiver think you've forgiven them and everything is good and then just drop them like a bad habit when they're feeling good about everything and also informing them you've also fucked 3 of their friends as well as a bunch of others since they cheated.

Now the time I cheated and I was in the wrong was sort of complicated and I did still feel bad. I was with two different girls for years at the same time. Eventually, I broke up with one, and the other thought she was my one and only after that. But then I ran into the other girl in a bar and it picked back up. Because it wasn't agreed upon with all parties that this is just how it's going to be... it turned into a shit show. She didn't revenge cheat me back, but I would've understood and felt it to be justified in that one instance.

Personally, I like to ask my partner..."Hey, I could totally bang this girl, can I?" My wife always gets flustered but I think she admires how I'll just shut a chick down just because she doesn't want me to bang that other girl. On the plus side of that, having a woman screen women for you can really make you aware of some bullshit you might of just stepped into.

Throwawaynowknow · Accepted Answer

I actually understand and can see the usefulness of the woman who cheat by monkey branching.

Whether other will agree or not, I think women get far more benefits from the man in a relationship than the reverse and no one is going to leave benefits on the table until they're sure they would be leaving for something more beneficial.

I'm this case of cheating, I don't harbor any negative feelings. I think it's a one of the duhhh decisions where you'd be silly not to do it.

I think guys need to not fight this, instead they should learn how to navigate it for their benefit.

As far as the more egregious cases, I believe if a guy gets cheated on, he either didn't vet her well enough, gave his commitment too soon before training her of his expectations if she should want to pursue a monogamous relationship with him, he set the bar too high too early and made the girl think that's the standard to hold him to from there on out, neglected to fullfil some aspects of what the girl needed (good girls need less). And finally, if he started to distrust her, much less have proof of her cheating, he would leave because clearly she isn't doing what he needs of a woman

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

Why do I need to lower myself to cheat on someone who cheated on me? That's not who I am, and never will be. I try my hardest in life to be respectable and to treat others the way I want to be treated because I have to live with my choices and the consequences of those actions and cheating on someone is not something I'd ever want on my conscious because it sucks to know you are willfully hurting someone else. Rather than carry out revenge for the sakes of revenge, you break up and move on to find someone who actually respects you and your relationship. If someone else cheats on them, that is their issue and their problem but I'll not be the one to gloat about it. Better things to do.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

absolutely

Pinay_ako · Answer

Nah. Just leave them. Sooner or later, whoever they cheated with will cheat on them too. Or they’ll cheat on whoever makes the mistake of dating them. That’s just who they are. They will not change. Temptation is too strong to resist!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you screw his father and his brother, you have lowered yourself to the level of your partner and proven that you are just as bad as your partner. Will screwing his father and brother make your partner stop cheating? No. Will screwing his father and brother make your partner become a better person? No. Will you potentially help to destroy other people's relationships with your actions? Yes.

Revenge is a stupid motive for having sex.

coachTanthony · Answer

It doesn't matter I believe Karma never loses an address so whether they get cheated on or hit by a bus it's all the same to me.

Paris13 · Answer

Two Wrongs Do Not Make a Right Thing to Do. Leave Them. xxoo

Finchie40 · Answer

No one deserves to be cheated on period , by someone cheating to get revenge , makes them just as bad and selfish as the cheater , cheating is a selfish act , getting revenge on a cheater by cheating yourself , makes you just as selfish as they are , 2 wrongs do not make a right period , The best revenge to a cheater , is to just let them go and walk away and act like they don’t matter to you anymore , because they will eventually realize how selfish they were and regret losing someone like you , if you stay with them and then cheat on them , they will learn nothing , they will feel validated for their actions by you cheating on them , If someone cheats on you they shouldn’t matter to you anymore period , Just because you feel like you love them , it doesn’t mean you have to be with them , they clearly proved they don’t love and value you , by cheating on you to begin with. We all know cheating is a horrible thing to do to someone , so if they can’t resist temptation for you , then they aren’t worth your time , Realize you deserve better than that, Value yourself worth and realize not everyone is a cheater , don’t spend the rest of your life with someone that doesn’t prioritize you period , Find someone that removes selfishness for you , the same you way you do for them , but if you give a cheater another chance the ball is still in your court , The cheater will either realize they were wrong for their actions and regret it and prove they love and value you and follow your boundaries. or they will cheat again , if they cheat again , walk away. I do know some couples that one of them cheated and they worked it out , and stayed together , How they worked it out is between them , so it’s possible but very slim chance it will last. I have cheated on a girl when I was younger and I felt bad and regret it so I confessed to her that I did and told her to leave me , she wanted to give me another chance , but I declined and told her she deserves better from that day forward I have never cheated again , I have been cheated on by other girls’ but I learned not to stoop down to that level anymore and just moved on

CuriousJC · Answer

I don’t know what people do in their relationships to cause their boyfriend or girlfriend to cheat. but either way, two wrongs never make a right either. So no, no one ever “deserves” that kind of treatment. You must* (I say must bc I feel like I have questioned this, myself back when I didn’t fully love myself) do internal work. Study, learn, find out exactly why you go for the people who’ve hurt you in the past/wronged you and why you ever tolerated certain behaviors you knew you shouldn’t have. Seriously learn why, and learn how to never do that again. People get cheated on every day. do they deserve it? Maybe some do! But the majority of people that have been cheated on are generally good honest people who picked the wrong person to fall in love with. What people deserve is a S/O that gives back as much as they take from a relationship. Devotion to someone can be easily given out, with respect, loyalty, honesty, and understanding with compassion, and compromise. It sounds easy to most people. To others an impossible task!

cunnilinguist · Answer

Everybody deserves to be cheated on. No intelligent being should ever enslave another human being, not physically, NOT MENTALLY, NOT EMOTIONALLY. No male wants to be with just one woman. Every female knows this. Yet women knowingly sucker men into monogamy with an obsolete marriage ritual and then use all sorts of blackmail to prohibit men acting out their natural desires. They force "their" men to ignore, suppress and deny their own desires. This COULD be accepted (though why it should is beyond me) is these same females at least TRIED to cater to these men and fulfil their desires any time asked. Yet not only do they prohibit "their" men from practising their free will as sovereign beings, they deny them their own self. They play mind games every minute of every day, pretending to have headaches, hurt feelings, and "not being in the mood". And even when they are in the mood they are 95% useless, not willing to do what a man would want them to do, just lie on their backs and think of England. Well if you can't be my woman when I need you to be my woman then don't be with me or anyone. Live alone and have headaches.
Luckily AI is developing insanely fast, it is a matter of just a couple years now until **x dolls will be equipped with AI and will be motorized. At that point females will become obsolete evolutionary by-products. Especially with Ecto Life coming on board. Then they can have all the headaches they want.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

Honestly, do you think that “cheating” is the way to get back at someone who doesn’t value a monogamous relationship? That doesn’t seem effective to me. Do you think that using sex as a weapon against someone is the way to advocate for sexual morality? What point do you expect that to prove?

It seems to me that you are advocating doing something that isn’t likely to bother the other person in order to reinforce that “cheater’s” belief that relationships are fluid, that partners should not be trusted, and that “everyone cheats.”

Do you think that will accomplish your desired result?

ohsheeT · Answer

I don't think anybody deserves to get cheated on and if that's their karma paying them back then that's what it is

It's one thing that the person cheats

But it's a whole different thing when they come home every night and say hi love you miss you how was your day blah blah and act as if nothing happened day after day after day after day until he get caught and then they start to cry because they say they love you in all reality is they don't want any of their friends or their parents to know what they did

It doesn't matter that they manipulated you and made you feel as if you were the one all the time that they were cheating at the moment they walk out that door and come back home it's nothing but lies and playing you as a fool I think that's worse than the actual cheating like I said I don't think anybody deserves to get cheated on but it is what it is whatever happens is whatever you put out there you're going to get back I guess

CaptainOverthink · Answer

N/A.

I don't believe in "deserving" things.
You get what you get and what you work for.
What you choose to do to others is how you choose to embody yourself with that intent.

It's not so much about that other person, it's about how you handle your inner storm. Take control of yourself and choose how you want this situation to define you. That is not always easy, I know.
But you can calm down inside without turning out to strike back. Don't get me wrong, it's important to be able to defend yourself and those you love, but hurting others should be the last line you cross.

In the end I think keeping your agency and acting in line of an idea of who you want to strive to be is a core principle of life.
In defence of that ideal, it's not about how hard you hit but how hard you can get hit and keep going straight.

Losalt · Answer

Deserve is one thing, but the reality is that life is more complicated then that...
Do you plan to stay with him?
Then cheating back will just make it even harder to reconcile.
You're not going to forget the pain of him cheating.
And he won't forget *his* pain.
Both will harm your trust in each other...

If you plan on leaving...
Well, do you really want to remember yourself as someone who did that?
Do you want your next partner to worry because you cheated once?
Do you want that reputation?
And also, do you want to sink to that level?

Talk with him.
Communication is the only solution.

The real problem wasn't him having sex with someone else anyway, was it?
It was him violating your trust in him, hurting you by going behind your back.

And talking together is the only way of dealing with that.

natedawg0620 · Answer

Thats a tough one. Id say no based on the fact that once you get your revenge, you're inviting that bad juju into your next relationship. I think we should always wish the best for those that hurt us so that we can hope that others will treat us the same way. You have to understand there are people that dont care if they hurt someone because they want something they shouldn't be looking at. Those are the people to avoid and stay away from. There are decent men out there, we need to be vigilant for the warning signs we often ignore, Im just as guilty of that myself…

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes, cheaters do deserve to be cheated on and punished. What goes around comes around !! God will teach them a lesson.

Let me give you a real example: My father constructed a house 25 years ago. We bought no.1 quality expensive teak wood for making doors and windows. The carpenter and the superviser stole some of the teak wood and some construction material. My father is a great guy, he was busy in his work and later he came to know about wood theft. He believed in karma, so he didn't take any revenge, he bought another load of teak wood. After 25 years, we came to know that this thief carpenter lost his leg in a bike accident and the supervisor still lives in poverty.

DermalPunch · Answer

Well, they probably would get cheated on eventually but I don't know what being just as classless, grimey and, frankly, nasty would accomplish. If anything it would relieve the cheater and make them see you as the same as them so it's no big deal. It's a childish way to essentially accomplish nothing.

SakuraBlossoms87 · Answer

But by lowering yourself to his conduct you ARE stupid. You'll just prove to his family and friends you're a tramp & whatever else he's called you... justifying cheating on a proven whore.

Smart people do not lower themselves to the level of trash. See if you're smart

SeaStorm1 · Answer

yep they do and will get karama. monkey branch mean is a dating behavior that someone continues pursue potential partners while already in a relationship , often without the knowledge or consent of their current partner. i seen both men and & more women that did monkey branch.

KaDooKan · Answer

my ex wife who left to go "find herself" under another man was cheated on by that same man 6 months later while she was pregnant with his kid, it gets better, he was caught at work as a security guard screwing a 16yo co worker

you say Karma, I say Gods judgement

mstbooblover · Answer

In my opinion a rather childish and silly reaction. Sure the cheater may be wrong, but things being never black or white, if you decide on your turn to cheat as a way to only take revenge instead of really feeling attracted by someone else, I think you're not better than your cheating partner.

It's not because a person parks their car in the wrong prohibited place, that the next driver is allowed to do the same. There are plenty such examples.

Taurusmoon · Answer

As a strong believer of karma I think their actions will eventually lead them to be cheated on. Sooner or later this will happen what goes around comes around

yulbsari · Answer

Several years ago, my ex-fiance cheated on me, dumped me and married the guy she cheated on me with. I found out later that he was some type of paranoid schizophrenic who was abusive (putting his fist through the wall, etc). She had 2 kids with him. So, karma took care of everything. I didn't have to do anything. I have not spoken to her since she dumped me. All is well on my end!

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

That's just gonna create a snow ball effect. When you don't justify cheating, you're ironically justifying cheaters who cheat on cheaters if you think cheaters deserved to be cheated.

If cheaters get cheated, the one who cheats on the cheater gets cheated and so on.

Lokiion · Answer

Nah I don’t think so I don’t think anyone deserves that cheater or not do I think the relationship should end? Yes do I wish negative things happen to people? No for the most part until it involves children and grape in general forget the g in grape

Blueeyes81 · Answer

An eye for an eye and the whole world goes blind. My friends girlfriend cheated on him so he cheated on her so she cheated on him and on and on and on. They got so obsessed with getting even when they both should have just cut their loses and moved on with their lives.

Cheating sucks but the getting even mindset is childish and only stunts your life. Letting go and moving on and being happy is the best revenge a person can give.

Sour-rose · Answer

Nah, I don't think they deserve it. It hurts to everyone, cheater and cheated. Sooo don't think it's fair... but if it happens to the cheater... you know what they say about karma

jshm2 · Answer

Depends on the reasons. Not all cheaters are the same. Just as not all convicts are the same.

Some guy does 60 in a 20, gets a jail time, some guy murders a bunch of kids, get jail time. Both are convicts, but you cannot compare them.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Never cheated, but last night just Got cheated on, so i guess i can start LIVING my life now, and shag every women that i get, been faithful and become a loser, no way i'm taking all that.

Anemone978 · Answer

I would say just dump them on the spot and never speak to them again is a far better punishment.. forget wasting time fucking someone I don't want just to hurt them lol

Lily_lilac · Answer

Yes.. but at the same same time, at the end of the day, both of them is equally bad.. unless those who get cheated cheat just to get revenge, not something they actually enjoy, then yeah sure…

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

Of course what they do comes back to them ten times harder

Spongebobssocks · Answer

They deserve death row but not being cheated on. That's not doing any good

ShesRad80 · Answer

i wouldn't waste my time, i would just leave and not look back. though in the next relationship maybe what goes around comes around in the end.

katiesmuff · Answer

Karma generally finds a way to make it full circle so yes a good many cheaters get the very same treatment.

sheikalana · Answer

Most cheaters won't care if you cheat on them or not. Best thing one can do is delete, block and cut all forms of communication.

LiamJHayden · Answer

People can do what they want. I refuse to cheat, period. My integrity is more important to me that getting even with someone I'd already be over.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They do as a lesson. They should know what it feels like to get betrayed by someone they really loved. Because they did do it so carelessly to others.

VioletHaze · Answer

Sure they deserve it. But why would u wanna sink to that level? Just leave. Im not that vindictive.

AydenHazor · Answer

No. If they're a cheater, break up with them and move on, don't stoop to their level. It has nothing to do with what they are worth and everything to do with what you are worth.

Sabretooth · Answer

If you wish to bring shame on to yourself. This may sound justifiable in your mind... Good luck bring as convincing later on. You'll both be scum.

Grond21 · Answer

No one does, and cheating to gets revenge not only damages the other person, it damages yourself

Drumlin2001 · Answer

No. No one deserves that. 2 wrongs don't make a right

Andres77 · Answer

No, they deserve to have their relationship ended.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah definitely but usually don’t stoop to their level

clampfan101 · Answer

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Don’t stoop down to the cheater’s level. Be the better person.

DiegoO · Answer

If you cheat on someone who cheated on you, you're not any better than that person.

Staximus · Answer

You lose yourself when you become what you despise for the sake of revenge.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm cheater n I don't expect my girl to stay loyal to me... If I'm cheating than why not she? I'm ohk with that.

SxcSierraa · Answer

They deserve it, but that doesn't mean if you got cheated on that you should do it back.

Pyrofox · Answer

It comes with the reputation.

genericname85 · Answer

no because 2 wrongs don't make a right.

AndLikeThatHesGone · Answer

Cheaters deserve to get broken up with.

gothbxtch · Answer

nope that doesn’t solve anything

red324 · Answer

I don't think they care honestly

Joshuabenitez · Answer

Cheater is just another fancy word for winner.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Then you’ll be a cheater yourself

wishiwasfiction · Answer

Yes they do

Wonderingguyy · Answer

Hell yeah

nudeNhorny · Answer

Sure, sounds fair to me.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Why not just leave ans move on lol?

rainbowww · Answer

I don't think anyone deserves to be cheated on

shygaloo7 · Answer

Yep.!

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