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Why does my Ex Partner Always End up Coming Back to Chat After Every Altercation We Have?
Just stop talking to them!
I've only talked to mine about 3 or 4 times after we broke up and haven't said a word to her since!
First time, she talked me into going to my fave pizza shop with her. We went but, unlike before where I'd make sure she caught the bus home with me if we got to the stop a moment late, this time, I didn't give a shit! I got on the bus, never said a word to the driver about waiting for her and, if she was left behind, oh fucking well!! I guess she'd have to either sit there at the stop for another hour & a half for the next bus or call a cab!!
Next time, a few months later, she talked me into going to a Christmas party with her and her new fiance. I don't know why, but I went. It was pretty boring! A bunch of people just sitting around talking with Christmas music playing. They were HIS rich friends! The next summer, she left him, too, and ran away back to India!! Then moved to Denmark where she started opening animal rescue type places and now teaches something or other at a University, there.
Last time, about 20 years ago, I told her niece, who was at least 18 by then, that she was GORGEOUS (think: Natalie Wood meets Apollonia Kotero). I wasn't trying to get into her pants!! I considered her to be MY niece, too!! Besides, she's at least 30 years younger than me! AND, she'd stupidly taken up smoking since I last saw her when she was a gawky, scrawny little 11 year old!! Next thing I know, Madame Ex is jumping all over MY ass like I told the girl I wanted to fuck her brains out and make her my girlfriend!! I haven't talked to either of them since!!
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Manipulation game, they want what they want... but then scared of losing you. Insecure people do this often. Its sign of low self-esteem to me. Like they will piss you off and argue, then act like nothing happened, or that they are ready to move on.
The only way it's a positive behavior is if they are taking responsibility for their behavior when they come back chatting you later.
s Cause they like talking and having fun with you and probably sex with them... So it's easier then a relationship for them course they want you
Till they crush on someone else and just leave you on read...
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He either likes you. Or he's trying to manipulate you. He probably thinks you're still into him.
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Maybe because you let them. Tell your ex to leave you alome.
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Well first of all you have to have the altercation because that partner has to leave to do what he has to do and he knows since you let him back before that he can keep doing what he wants to do because you're always going to take him back
Kind of like the dumbass guy that it starts talking to a girl hits it off with her and all of a sudden he thinks they're going to become best buddies girlfriend boyfriend so he tells his wife to f*** off goes out and does his thing the girl realizes who this guy really is she doesn't want any part to do with him she tells him to get out so where does he go right back to the lady that he cheated on and guess what she takes him back because he apologized and said he's sorry and two weeks later he'll do It again and two weeks later she'll take him right back again
If you allow a guy to get away with something he's going to keep doing it over and over and over until you say you had enough get the f*** out -
Its called Manipulation
He is playing with your emotions and your head.
He will always do this to you as long you keep talking to him.
Remember when I said STOP ALL FORMS OF communication WITH HIM.
Well you didn't listen and now you got this mess
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You have to remember paris there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship everybody fights it’s only natural, especially in these times. By sticking together and showing loyalty and working through your problems is what it’s about. Can you imagine breaking up with that person and never speaking to them for the rest of your life how bad you would feel you don’t want that so you have to work it out
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Hummm... My guess is that he is coming back just to show that "it is cool" and it's ok even after the altercation. Just a guess without being there to see it.
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Why do you keep having altercations? It sounds to me like you're trying to piss him off on purpose. And you're mad at him for being a good Christian and forgiving you. That's what it sounds like, from what you have written here.
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To raise your confidence! That's all he's good for now.
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I don't understand why your ex and you are having fights at all. What are you fighting over? Politics? Careers? Gossip? Are these simply friendly conversations you disagree over and you both get mad and don't talk and then you make up and talk again?
If that's all it is, just talk, what's the problem? Friends usually have disagreements and sometimes fight. What's bothering you about this situation?
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Maybe to stay somewhat friends. I'm friends with 2 of my ex's. We've known each other for to long not to be at least that.
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Because he’s not letting you go or he’s just messing with you?
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Because he's not over you yet, or he loves the drama.
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He misses the attention you give him.. and most likely he is being manipulative. He is your ex for a reason
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To waste their own time because they got lots of it and that’s too bad. Never take an ex back. They’ve got lots of options and you have the opportunity to resist the urge now.
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Sounds to me like manipulation.. but I've mostly heard of women acting like this.. either ways RED FLAG stay away from people like this
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Because your ex is still in love with you…mine is doing the same thing, but I’m done.
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Like introverts and extros, that’s her way of closure to the fight.
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What do you mean you and him argue and then he comes back like nothing happened
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Cuz u have the same feeling and he can feels that... none of you wants closure
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Because he still feels connected to you and you open a window of opportunity every time you respond back
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Nothing ventured, nothing gained. He'll keep harping on you, "just in case". Sounds like he's just trying to keep options open.
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