Got back together with my ex do I have to tell him what I did when I was single? ?

[kareenakapur]

got back together with my ex. We broke up in may. I got together with many (toxic) guys after that and I just became rlly sexually open to the idea of everything. Got really good with sending nudes and sexting like soooo good. My ex was my first kiss/oral etc. I was his first too. Never went all the way with him or anyone. But Im like 99 percent sure he talked to no girls after me bc he was heartbroken. And here I am messing around with 5 guys.

[Miristheiss]

Well, he'll probably ask at some point. Tell the truth.

Regardless, he needs to know. It doesn't sound like you two have any future now. I lot of guys wouldn't want you anymore. The girl he used to know or thought he knew is gone. He probably thinks you are mainly the same girl he knew 3 months ago. He needs to know you turned into a promiscuous, sleep around, let the bad boys practice all their kinks on you girl.

Maybe, he doesn't care but either way. He deserves to know. We ALL deserve to make INFORMED DECISIONS when it comes to partners and to not be deceived, lied to, tricked into any relationship. He'll need to know and then you'll continue to date or it will end.

To be honest, it doesn't sound like you being in his life is healthy for him (HE WAS HEARTBROKEN) so that happening before and then you going 100% hoe phase... this sounds like a disaster. Why are you two even trying to get back together?

[kareenakapur]

I've never had a hoe phase since we dated so long. This was my first hoe phase. I never slept with any. just sent nudes lol made out with one. He tried to do more but I got scared.

[Miristheiss]

Does this original guy. The guy you may be getting back together with. Does he have a collection of nude pictures you've sent him.
Hey, everyone feels differently about this but to me, sending someone naked pictures, revealing all of your sexy, intimate parts to them... to men that are visually enticed and who get sexual pleasure from seeing all of the exposed, revealed sexiness of a part that is an intimate act. It isn't intercourse but 5-6 men walking around with naked pictures of you that you personally gave each one. That is something big. "I didn't sleep with them" isn't a dismissive statement. That is why I think Onlyfans women are so awful.
So, have you given nudes to this original guy? The ex who is back?

[kareenakapur]

yes but I def wasn't sending good nude pics before. one of the guys I was with was like teaching me showing me what he wanted and made me rlly good for future guys lol.

[kareenakapur]

I agree I think its a sexual act too

[kareenakapur]

I sent It to those other guys on things where they couldn't save the pics (obv there's ways u can save without me knowing) but most of those guys I think dont have saved pics. my ex im getting back w def has saved nudes.

[Miristheiss]

The guy needs the truth. He has a decision to make. He needs all the info so he can make an informed decision.

[jojoiwiwbwjo]

There should not be anything that you HAVE to do in a relationship. I'm sure you want to be with someone capable of understanding you were exploring yourself as we all should growing up. I think saying "i fucked five strangers the other day" is very bad for a relationship but, as I do not judge people who go for it I believe there is a healthy way to put anything like"the idea that this could be good has crossed my mind in the past, I was comfortable with myself and the setting to try it, my goals with this experience were x and y, x was good but y didn't go as expected yada yada. No one can judge this latter approach i think and you dont want to be with someone who will, i think. Therefore I would be honest in your shoes.

[WhitneySnow]

That would probably really bother him so I would say don’t tell him. It’ll just hurt your relationship.

[kareenakapur]

right I dont want to hurt him. but then im like honesty is good. but it was during our breakup so maybe he doesn't have to know ahhh

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t tell him. It’ll only hurt him and make him think you’re a slut.

[Blueeyes81]

It'll hurt him more if he finds out later.

[WhitneySnow]

@Blueeyes81 yeah but he might break up with her if he finds out she messed around with a bunch of guys and he didn’t do it with anyone else. He shouldn’t, they were broken up and she was just exploring her sexuality, but sometimes guys don’t think that way.

[Blueeyes81]

He'll find out sooner or later, they almost always do. Some dude she was sexting will hit her up again. One of her friends will let it slip. Her nudes end up online. Just saying this shit almost always comes to light.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Let Exes stay in the past…

[ManOnFire]

Are you sure you're mature enough for a relationship yet, even if that's with an ex? You broke up in May but are back together in 5 months. Was whatever broke you guys up that serious in the first place? Then you went playing around in the sack with 5 other dudes. And then you basically believe your ex was celibate just because he was heartbroken, which is kind of disrespectful. Whether you tell him or not, I don't think it will work out again being honest.

[kareenakapur]

I know he hasn't been with other girls bc we have a common mutual best friend. But the best friend is more loyal to me so wouldn't tell my business unless I asked. It was serious involving his family basically being disrespectful to me for all these years and him never standing up and then his family did something very disrespectful to not just me but my whole family. and stated complete disapproval of us getting married. He didn't stand up for me. He wanted to put a ring on it but his parents wouldn't let that happen. I dont think he ever will stand up for me and he knows it too. He's too scared. Keeps saying he wants to put a ring but its been so many years. I haven't been single in so many years. never had a hoe phase. I was going through other person stuff too. But then a guy from my school dm'd me couple days after we broke up and I "fell" for him fully. and basically he was so toxic (love one day blocked me the next) and then I started the cycle of oh shit I need someone so kept finding love and getting hurt by guys. The end my love story is tragic.

[ManOnFire]

@kareenakapur So then if that's the case about his family disrespecting you and never approving of you, why do you think getting back together with him will be any different? Why would you go back to someone where there was conflict and even weakness on his part? A guy who wouldn't even stand up for you. Why are you doing it?

[kareenakapur]

I am going through something else personal. When we broke up it made the something else get worse 10 fold. He left at a really really bad time. He knows that him leaving made it worse and so he is trying to be there for me until that gets sorted out I think. we both love and care for one another.

[DannyUk2017]

So ure back with him now but YOU STILL MESS AROUND ON HERE? 😳🤦‍♂️, no wonder some of you deserve what's coming, no offence. I would rather leave him and move on...And here I am messing around with 5 guys.

[kareenakapur]

not on here lol. I wassss messing w 5 guys. no one now

[DannyUk2017]

Ok..
Well i read ur feed which was posted by u very soon on here, otherwise, you would have cut that last phrase off... no? 🤔

[DannyUk2017]

So 18h ago u were messing with 5 guys on here, and Now not! 😂

[kareenakapur]

what? no lol messed with 5 guys at diff times. I just feel bad I did stuff while I was single. Now I am messing with just my ex

[DannyUk2017]

Feeling bad? Maybe you thought that getting back with ur ex is bad too? From what i've read so far you saying that ure sure u2 won't have a future together...🤔, so maybe start working on that...😉

[kareenakapur]

yeah we are just together for short term. But I still love him care for him. he's my best friend.

[kareenakapur]

sent this on another comment ill send here if u wanted background. It was serious involving his family basically being disrespectful to me for all these years and him never standing up and then his family did something very disrespectful to not just me but my whole family. and stated complete disapproval of us getting married. He didn't stand up for me. He wanted to put a ring on it but his parents wouldn't let that happen. I dont think he ever will stand up for me and he knows it too. He's too scared. Keeps saying he wants to put a ring but its been so many years. I haven't been single in so many years. never had a hoe phase. I was going through other person stuff too. But then a guy from my school dm'd me couple days after we broke up and I "fell" for him fully. and basically he was so toxic (love one day blocked me the next) and then I started the cycle of oh shit I need someone so kept finding love and getting hurt by guys. The end my love story is tragic.

[DannyUk2017]

Fair enough...

[DannyUk2017]

Wow.. now that makes sense... so i guess is better to put ur affairs in order as it seems is not capable of Being the Man of the House, now i can see that you'll stand no chance in having a future with him. Seems like is not worth ur Being..🤷‍♂️

[BourbonAndBacon]

If you want a relationship based on honesty you should tell him. If you want a relationship where you keep secrets from each other than don't tell him

[Blueeyes81]

Have to, no. But he'll find out sooner or later. Kinda sounds like you just want someone, anyone. Do you even want to get back together with him or is he a crutch.

[Twalli]

So you're cheating on him? Or are you saying that you messed around with 5 guys between May and now? It's not a problem, you weren't together then.

[kareenakapur]

in between

[bowenw]

I believe it's best to not talk about pasts. No good can come of it.

[RedInnocent68]

Do you want him to tell you what he did? Would it change anything?

[Tomisworthless]

no im sure he knows you probably slept with half a dozen or more men

[Tomisworthless]

Lol didn't even have to read the description. I feel terrible for that poor guy you're using he would be better off without you if he knew better

[kareenakapur]

read the comments lol

[Tomisworthless]

idc for others opinions i gave you mine

[kareenakapur]

This is the comment I meant about why we broke up. It was serious involving his family basically being disrespectful to me for all these years and him never standing up and then his family did something very disrespectful to not just me but my whole family. and stated complete disapproval of us getting married. He didn't stand up for me. He wanted to put a ring on it but his parents wouldn't let that happen. I dont think he ever will stand up for me and he knows it too. He's too scared. Keeps saying he wants to put a ring but its been so many years. I haven't been single in so many years. never had a hoe phase. I was going through other person stuff too. But then a guy from my school dm'd me couple days after we broke up and I "fell" for him fully. and basically he was so toxic (love one day blocked me the next) and then I started the cycle of oh shit I need someone so kept finding love and getting hurt by guys. So talked to these guys sent them nudes. Made out with the toxic one but when he got his dick out I got scared lol I offended him by wanting to only make out. Rest was just nudes and talked but I did truly like them. I still think nudes is sexual relationship, but yeah I am still a virgin. I didn't sleep with anyone. The end thats my life.

[Jerre]

I would not tell him anything. Go back with him and keep seeing the other guys.

[kareenakapur]

lol no im not seeing them

[kareenakapur]

faithful to my ex now boyfriend

[jjj101010]

Best option. Both keep that period a secret, he doesn’t need to know who/how many guys u have blown since u split and u don’t need to know who he has been with either

[Anonymous]

If you're just talking about sending nudes and sexting. What is there to tell?

[kareenakapur]

true it was just nudes but I did make out with one. he slapped my ass choked me bit my lip kinda vibes but then tried to do more w me but I got scared and he got offended that I didn't want to do stuff with his dick lol.

[Mark987]

What’s your question?

[kareenakapur]

do I have to tell him what I did when I was single

[Mark987]

Are you back with him?

[kareenakapur]

yes I am not sure how long it will last. we have no future we both know it. its super complicated but its 100 percent his fault to why. he has to do something but hasn't done it. so we are enjoying time with each other with no real future. it will end eventually. we prob shouldn't have gotten back together but thats another story.

[Mark987]

I wouldn’t.. you were broken up, you owe nothing

[DextroShade]

The streets are calling...

[noohair]

Say nothing.

[krin_m]

Not at all.