Is it OK to date someone who is separated but not divorced?

[gayesblog]

This is not me, my really close friend, and she is dating a guy who lives separate from his wife for 6 months but they didn't divorce yet. What do you think? Is it OK for you to date someone who is separated but not divorced?

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I'm trying to think this through and determine the best scenario for all parties involved. If they're not living together, in the same structure/household, that would be preferable to them living together while sorting out assets, which often include a home.

if the couple who is going through the divorce are still in the same home, they may be dating others in order to flaunt it in their soon to be exes face, which is not the right motivation for dating in most cases.

the last factor is children. How are the children going to be affected by the new relationship and any confusion they may be dealing with from the divorce or soon to be divorce.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Thank you for the MHO selection!

[MrOracle]

I would not. I am a strong believer in not inviting problems into my life, and dating someone who is still married (regardless of separation) is a STRONG invitation to trouble. Sure, you might get away with it, but it could also get very messy. in my opinion, there's simply no reason for that. If that person really wants a relationship with me, they'll clean up their previous relationships. If they can't or won't do that, then that says a lot too, doesn't it?

[NathanDavis]

I've seen it work okay a few times... especially when it's been long time since a separation and it was a mutual decision

but I've seen a couple of times in which too soon or too tense and problematic, so, like many things if not all things in this life, it really depends on the actual circumstances and might vary from one case to another... yeah

[OlderAndWiser]

1. How long have they been separated?

2. Is a divorce filed? If so, how close is it to being finalized?

3. Are they still living in the same home?

4. If he or she still bitter and ranting about their spouse?

5. How likely is it that this person and their spouse might reconcile?

6. Are you prepared to be this person's rebound?

[Charliefretz329]

Divorces definitely take a long time. Especially if you have a lot of assets. Actual signed divorce papers mean a lot I think.


But they definitely should be living in different homes and have their own finances.

[IslaTheWitch]

In general, it depends on how serious the situation is.

If the couple goes off and on regularly, I would say don't touch it.

If they live separately and lead separate lives, or even better, the other partner already has someone... it looks quite safe.

Separation takes time to be effective, and it would be unfair to force people to be alone during this time.

[Paris13]

Half and Half with Me. Never Know How it Go if They would Get Back as One, hun. xxoo

[Paris13]

Tanks, Gag. xxoo

[TrueConfection]

Personally, I wouldn't want to date someone who is still married.

[WindAtMyBack]

I have done it. I think a lot of people feel the same. ONLY if they are truly separated and have been for a while. Like long enough that they aren't having second thoughts. I don't want to be the cause of a divorce, or even a factor.

When I did it, they had been separated for 2.5 years. Even then I waited until she had made up her mind 100% that she was getting divorced before moving on her. Until then we went out and did things together - call it dating if you want - but no kissing or even holding hands until she decided for sure to get a divorce. I let her know I was interested before that, but never acted on it in any physical way.

[HawkPerception]

My parents never had a divorce. They just separated and that was around 19 years ago. My mom has been living with her current partner for about 16 years now. It's definitely okay to date someone that's separated, but you really need to critically evaluate whether or not they still have an attachment to their ex.

[Guido]

Yes, it's fine if separated and living apart. I was separated and dating. It took over 4 years to finalize the divorce. By that time my girlfriend and I had bought a house and been living together for 3 years. After the dust settled, moved twice more and bought 2nd and 3rd houses with each move, we got married in year 7 together. Still together after 30 years.

[lightbulb27]

6 months isn't much.

I did, but she was years into the divorce process and it was done. I've seen it work out... but generally speaking, they were far along...

I wouldn't... so easy for him to go back to her and she's rebound.

[BadApple69]

Yes. Sometimes divorce can talk a long time... No one should put their lives on hold so lawyers have more time to battle for every nickel. My sisters divorce literally took years.

[Xoxocutekitty]

6 months isn't very long long after a divorce. I would recommend taking it slow since it's easy to become a rebound if you're the first after such a serious relationship.

[molonski2]

Yes of course..

Financial separation is the key , divorce really does not matter , but has to be official , took us years to actually do the divorce bit.

[mandyfire98]

Is it a legal separation? If paperwork hasn't been signed and it's not a legal separation then it's technically adultery.

[exitseven]

I think I would check it out first , Maybe the husband is a cop or something. She also could be lying.

[Anonymous]

6 months is really not a long time to be separated from your wife, so no I probably would say no not okay.

[Anonymous]

No because everything they own is basically attached to their ex.

Including finances. 🤡🤡🤡🤡

Marriage is such a joke

[DarkWinterNights]

I’d say it’s “okay”. But I’ve done it and I don’t recommend it.

[RedInnocent68]

Yes. Divorces take a long time to sort out. 😺 still needs ❤️.

[Staximus]

That depends on if they have gone their separate ways already, or they are still in each other's lives

[RainBat]

Why does it matter if it's ok? As long as you're not the one being hurt.

[genericname85]

I think that's subjective opinion. In my subjective opinion, this is not ok.

[soe11]

Absolutely 100% okay dear, nothing to immoral and indecency.

[Carly2005]

Probably not. Plus are they telling you truth. I mean This a good way to find yourself on Investigation discovery.

[OddBeMe]

If you’re ok with him going back and fcking his wife and being with his kids and having you as a side piece.

[Sasha0426]

Do you prefer he abandon his kids and never be in their lives?

[OddBeMe]

@Sasha0426 I’d prefer those kids have stable parents instead of arguing aholes.

[Sasha0426]

Yeah, you’re totally right. All divorced couples are the same. Like…literally the billions of those who are divorced argue after divorce.

[OddBeMe]

@Sasha0426 I imagine there’s either little convo or arguing. Just default settings. Sad for the kids.

[Anonymous]

I'm Catholic. We don't believe in divorce so no it's not.

[IslaTheWitch]

The Church can give the divorce if some rules were broken

[Opinion Owner]

@IslaTheWitch it's not a divorce but an annulment. In other words the church isn't granting a divorce but is ruling that the marriage didn't actually exist. For instance if the couple were brother & sister, aunt & uncle. If one of the couple was infertile or the same gender. Or if one of them was underage.

[LiamJHayden]

Bad idea. I have seen many divorces dismissed (withdrawn) after filing.

[AviatorTom]

It's okay, but risky.

[Kelly6]

Yes it is okay to date people who are separated

[Sabretooth]

It's still cheating. Would YOU be okay with it?

[whistlingwh0res]

Men are tits suckers and they will do anything to get tits

[Cheerfull009]

No, they can compromise any time, so date to divorced person

[sheikalana]

I guess it's okay but I wouldn't.

[collie22]

That wouldn't work for me.

[HouseMoat]

Probably not. Only because it might be "fake"

[crystalline0909]

Nope.

[msc545]

This is asking for trouble

[Drumlin2001]

Sure. Why not?

[butterly248]

Yes!

[ThrillSeeker01]

Yes, I think so.

[eagle1951]

i wouldn't