How do I NOT regret a relationship like my ex who said she didn't regret anything?

[hardboiledink]

She said she didn't regret anything in our relationship, which is good, but I can't help but dislike how we kinda wasted eachothers' time and money. We traveled to different states and to Mexico, and I introduced he to sooooooooooo many new things sexually, restaurants, and new places. I feel kinda bitter. How do I not regret and not feel bitter about a past relationship?

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some suggestions bro:

- Remember the growth. Any relationship teaches you lessons, even if it didn't work out. Appreciate what you learned about yourself and what you're looking for now.

- Focus on the good times, not the end. You obviously connected in some way if you did all that exploring together. Cherish the positive memories, not how it concluded.

- Know that pain means it mattered. Feeling bitter shows you cared. But don't let regret overshadow the carefree moments you once shared traveling and trying new stuff.

- Own your half. You both gave the relationship your all at the time. Don't dwell on who may have wasted more - you committed fully too. Learn and move forward.

- Leave what was to the past. Don't cling to "what ifs" or ideas of the relationship. Accept it ran its course and now you're both different people on different paths.

Staying positive takes effort but it's freeing as hell. You got this bro, just focus on growin' from the experience!

[hardboiledink]

You give the BEST advice bro you on Instagram or somewhere to connect to?

[Oliverlogan263]

Sure, instagram, on here, snap

[Oliverlogan263]

And thanks man

[AutumnSerenity]

You have a right to feel resentment and regret. I’d feel used too. Unfortunately, those negative feelings won’t go away until you’re happy again. Whether you find happiness in a new career, traveling, or a new relationship - it’ll take time. When I was younger, I’d give myself closure by making people regret how they did me - I’d do it by chasing success and flaunting my achievements. These days, I simply don’t react to people’s betrayals and silently cut them off - as if they never mattered in the first place, because they didn’t.

[HelpfulWoman]

You need to stop reflecting on it. Because you're looking back with the knowledge it didn't work out.
You enjoyed yourself in the moment. Otherwise you may as well say your whole life should be with regret, you've "wasted time and money" on much more than just a relationship that ended.

[hardboiledink]

Good point. Sure did waste a lot on McDonalds, movies, and more that I shouldn't have but it's pointless to look back and be like I should've not enjoyed myself a little bit!

I guess it's the same thing. I did enjoy myself in the moments of that relationship but shouldn't constantly look back because it was a good time but bittersweet since it ended. I think it's good to look back though to learn the lessons, but besides that you're right, really bad to dwell on things.

But yes, I gotta live in the present moment