How do I move past a break up after 30 years of friendship & 7 years of dating & living together?

[MsBell2018]

[Finchie40]

It’s easier said than done , especially if you fully gave your heart to that person and they decided To just walk away from you. The only thing that helped Me , was time and sadly there isn’t really a time limit , everyone grieves in their own ways what helped me move on , was focusing on myself and realizing , If she really loved me in the first place? , she wouldn’t have walked away from me period. We don’t walk away from someone we choose to love but It hurts big time when that person you loved , chooses to walk away from you , We usually blame ourselves and think to ourselves what did I do wrong? Why did they leave? Especially when you have a lot of time invested into that person and all the memories you share with that person , that you chose to give your heart to. It’s a tough pill to swallow but one thing you have to realize is we can’t force someone to love us , we can only love someone the same way we want to be loved in return , We can only give what we hope to receive in return , if someone chooses to walk away from you , let them go , and realize you deserve someone that will stand by your side no matter, what obstacles we face together in life. Don’t change who you are as a person Love how you want to be loved in return , find someone that loves you for you , I tell people all the time , learn how to remove selfishness from within yourself , it’s easy for all of us to be selfish and think what is best for ourselves , when you realize you are no longer single and you are choosing that someone , understand for them to choose you , you have to choose them , it’s not about being right or wrong , it’s about respect and dignity within yourself , Don’t expect someone to do for you , if you can’t do for them , it won’t always be perfect , but when you choose your partner it makes it easier for your partner to choose you. It’s always best to wear your partners’ shoes the same way you want them to wear yours. Making each other your top priority , never be someone’s option , you will just be wasting your time grasping on to something that isn’t there. Sadly people focus on things they don’t have instead of focusing on what they do have right in front of them.

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

If you're divorced you update your marital status on GAG for one, then you do a makeover and freshen your look. Finally, you come to accept that the relationship was good when it was good, bad when it was bad – but now that chapter has ended and you'll be ready to start a new one. Contrary to what a lot of older women in their 50s might think, there are older and younger guys who have a genuine interest in a mature woman for companionship and romance. What scares them away is anger, bitterness and the woke crap. A strong independent woman who doesn't need a man isn't going to attract a decent guy because a man wants to be needed. You don't have to be a damsel in distress but a little feminine vulnerability has great appeal and encourages a man's gentle, protective and caring side to come out.

[Bella2423]

Find new replacement soon and it needs time if you didn't find one

[Nikki1989]

Meet someone else and start a new chapter in your life.

[MsBell2018]

Thank you

[AviatorTom]

I've been there. 20+ years of marriage ended in an amicable divorce. It was hard at first, then I started dating, via an online dating site, and after a few years met my SO, we've been together now years and counting.

[Anonymous]

Let me put it this way. What is your other option. I'm assuming it's irretrievably broken. And if that be the case you only get 50% say in the matter. And that's not enough. You need to make your peace with that. That is the FIRST step.

[MsBell2018]

Thank you

[Tomisworthless]

Start having sex with younger men once you’re eased into the single life you can search for a new ltr or just stay single till death.

[MsBell2018]

🤣 too funny

[Tomisworthless]

Gotta get into the single life lol I volunteer as tribute 😩

[MsBell2018]

Aww, thanks. Way to take one for the team!🤣

[MsBell2018]

You do see I'm substantially older, right?

[Tomisworthless]

Being a man of the people it’s the least I can do 😎

[MsBell2018]

You're killing me Smalls

[MsBell2018]

May I dm?

[Tomisworthless]

Sure

[JohnK123]

Listen to after breakup songs, do things u love, watch movies, go places etc

[MsBell2018]

Thank you. I do a lot of walk

[JohnK123]

That’s also good! I’m getting over a break up too haha and sometimes I run but I’m lazy now

[MsBell2018]

I walk in the rain & cry

[FenixG45]

The same way everyone does! One day at a time! Make each day a little bit better than the last!