Why did my boyfriend call me so many times before I broke up with him?

[LLIEGE2939]

The day I broke up with my boyfriend I decided to distance myself a bit from him before I ended it over the phone just because I thought it would make things easier. He was sending so many messages through to my phone and calling me non stop whilst I was ignoring him

Why was he doing this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is weird that he was calling and messaging you so much before the breakup. A couple possibilities for why he may have been acting that way:

- He could sense something was off and that you were pulling away, so he was worried a breakup was coming and was freaking out about losing you. Sometimes people can just tell when the other person is losing feelings.

- He might have been feeling insecure in the relationship for some other reason and all the contacting was like a desperate attempt to get your attention and reassurance. Kind of clingy.

- It's possible he'd done something to upset you or cross a line, and was panicking that you'd found out. So he was trying hard to get in touch to do damage control before you dumped him.

- He could be a bit possessive or controlling too, and was used to always being able to get ahold of you. So the no response was setting off alarms.

Whatever the reason, it definitely wasn't cool for him to be all over you like that when you were clearly pulling away. That's a red flag that he has some insecure or needy tendencies. You made the right call breaking it off - nobody wants a clingy boyfriend blowing up their phone all the time. Just goes to show he couldn't respect your space. Hope things get less dramatic now that you're broken up for good!

[Theodoricus]

No need to have over 200 iq to find the reason, ma'am.