Do you believe in the three month rule after a relationship break-up?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

If we were all identical, and we all needed three months to resolve our feelings before beginning to date again, it would be a great rule, but. . . we aren't all identical and we don't all need the same time to recover and regroup.

In general, attempts to state "rules" such as this represent a simpleminded oversimplification of relationships and human nature. All guys are not alike, all girls are not alike, one guy may dislike what another guy loves; what one girl seeks in a relationship might be boring to other girls. Every person is different, every relationship is difference, and there is no set of rules that you can learn to guide you through all relationships.

bolverk · Accepted Answer

Until this question I'd never heard of it. I take it you men this; In layman’s terms, it basically means that you should wait three months before you start dating after your previous relationship has come to an end. You shouldn’t break up with one person and then immediately start dating another one the next week or even the following month.

Over my time it was rare that you'd even consider any kind of relationship within 6 months of coming out of one that has just broken up.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I didn’t date anyone for 6 months after break up and even when I dated, it didn’t work out cause I was not ready at that time.

laly520 · Accepted Answer

such rule exists? never know and I think each person deals with it differently, I have a friend who moved on in few days

snowy · Answer

The "three-month rule" after a breakup is a popular concept, but whether to believe in it is subjective and varies from person to person. Here are some considerations:

Personal Healing: Some people might find this period helpful for personal healing and reflection. It gives time to understand what went wrong in the previous relationship and what they want in the future.

Arbitrary Time Frame: For others, the three-month rule might seem arbitrary. Everyone heals and moves on at their own pace. What might be enough time for one person might not be sufficient for another.

Avoiding Rebound Relationships: The rule is often seen as a way to prevent jumping into a rebound relationship, which might not be based on genuine feelings but rather on a desire to fill the void left by the previous relationship.

Cultural and Individual Differences: Cultural norms and individual differences play a significant role. Some cultures or individuals might advocate for longer periods of singleness, while others might see no need for a set time frame.

Self-Discovery and Growth: This period can also be an opportunity for self-discovery and growth.

No One-Size-Fits-All: It's important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all answer to how long someone should wait to date again.

It's important to focus on what feels right for you as an individual rather than adhering strictly to a set time frame.

Fireguy17 · Answer

what is the 3 month rule, you don't date for 3 months, you don't get serious until 3 months, no doinking for 3 months, no getting all liquired up and going to a strip club for 3 months and bringing some stripper home for the weekend?
No I have never had any of those "rules".

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Never heard of it. Three months before dating someone else? Haha... no. No I'll pass on that. Three months before another relationship, maybe... depends on how long the prior was. I'm going on a date the following weekend though, F wallowing.

strateguy632 · Answer

if a lady knows she possibly might be pregnant , she should wait until certain not pregnant, because if not wait six weeks, won't know which is father.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I believe when im single, im single. I’m up for grabs soon as that deadline hit. I just usually need a few days to myself first to feel emotionally available again

HawkPerception · Answer

No that's a rule for plebs that can't think for themselves. Everyone moves on at different rates. I find it easy to move on even a few days after.

BadApple69 · Answer

Personally I don’t believe in any man made rules. I treat them more as guidelines than rules. Do what feels right.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Is it even there like you have to stay three months single before entering another relationship what if I broke up with him because I wanted to enter another?

SphynxUK · Answer

Never heard of it, and I make my own rules to follow.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I don’t believe in any rules. I do as I please and when I break up with a woman, I block her on everything

rosemilk · Answer

wasn't aware there was a rule. if you're ready to move on to another relationship, then do so

mandyfire98 · Answer

I thought the 3 month rule was dating someone fir 3 months before you actually make it official.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

No. I rather believe in the 20/80 rule. ... if any' And add: ''Murphy's Law''

JHAYES317 · Answer

No it depends on the length of the relationship. For a three year relationship, 3 months is reasonable. But for say a 12 year relationship, I think you should wait a year. My rule is 1 month per year.

EBoyXx · Answer

I never heard of this rule till now. I understand it. Some people need time but not me why wallow? More on

Nikki1989 · Answer

There are NO rules.

sheikalana · Answer

What’s the three month rule about?

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

What’s the theee month rule

OfDeath · Answer

What rule is this?

BLP11520 · Answer

There are rules in relationships?🧐

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly. I don’t give no fqs

BarryLiverstone · Answer

What’s the rule?

MissBoogus · Answer

What’s that?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope.

collie22 · Answer

Or a year

Roudyrebel8 · Answer

No I don't

Anonymous · Answer

What is that rule?

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