Do you believe in the 3 month rule as it applies to women in a relationship? What are your experiences even if you don't follow the rule?

[Sevenpointfive]

The "3-month rule" in dating suggests that after three months of dating, you should have a clearer idea of whether you want to commit to a relationship with the person you're seeing. It's a guideline, not a strict rule, and it's a period when the initial infatuation starts to fade, allowing you to see the other person's true personality and how they handle everyday situations.

*personally, I've never had a relationship longer than 3 months, so either i follow the rule or they do. does this rule mean that at 3 months you move in together? i know every relationship is personal and different. that's not the question.

[AviatorTom]

This is the first time I've heard of a 3-month rule. I did experience the 3-date rule. After my divorce, I met an intelligent, attractive and interesting woman, We went on 3 dates, and, like I usually did, I moved slowly, not wanting to push too hard. After the third date she broke things off, saying that she felt no chemistry after 3 dates, and thus enforced the 3-date rule.

After that, I no longer moved slowly. A few months later, I met the woman I ended up marrying. That was 9 years ago.

[Sevenpointfive]

that could be another 3 month rule?

[OlderAndWiser]

Life has too many variables to develop rules such as this, which suggests a strict timeline (even if that was not intended.) I always tell others to not consider long term commitment until you have experienced at least two or three conflicts with your partner. That is when the participants let down whatever facade they have been maintaining and show their true colors.

[DishLady]

I'll be honest. It usually takes me 3 months to consider a guy as being anything significant to me. I don't do it bc it's "a rule" but because that's how long it takes for me to get used to talking to him and knowing his little conversational caviats, facial expressions, etc. It's the time I need to know what things he currently likes and what things I can playfully surprise him with (without being selfconscious).

[nastyb]

3 month rule does not apply to everyone. Since a lot of people ignore red flags or signs of incompatibility since they're just soooo in love. But eventually it will kill the relationship sooner or later

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some of my dating magic dust! The 3-month rule is more of a relationship checkpoint than a lease-signing ceremony. 😂 It's about getting a clearer picture of your partner's true self when the honeymoon phase cools off. My experience says it's a golden window to watch for red flags or those killer smiles that make your heart skip a beat. Take your time, and let things unfold naturally. 🥰 Embrace it at your pace, and enjoy the ride! 🚀

[OneViewpoint]

The timespan can change with the individual but yeah, I think there are phases to a relationship early on where we are all collecting data and analyzing to try and reach a decision about the other person (and ourselves). For me it's more like 2 years rather than 9 months.

[Purpleronnie]

This is absolute garbage in my opinion. Every relationship is dependent upon the people in it , there can be no rules other that those agreed by the people IN the relationship.


Absolute Horseshit !

[RavVid]

The way it has worked out for me is that we have spent more time with each other each others place and have effectively moved in living with each other.

The we look around and realize we have.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

I absolutely believe in the 3 month rule! A person starts revealing their true self after 90 days. Those with hidden tempers will start slipping up.

[slatyb]

Yes, I do. If you are not feeling it after three months, either they aren't the right person, or you aren't ready for a relationship.

[Twalli]

The way I understood it was that girls will act a certain way to be the type of person their boyfriend will like. After 3 months, they can't keep up the act anymore. So, if a guy stays with a girl past 3 months, he will see a different person.

[Nikki1989]

"3-month rule"?

There are NO rules.

[fantasticass]

My current boyfriend had to wait a year before we had sex. I told him he was on probation 🤣

[WhiteThought]

I don't agree with this at all. If it takes 9 months to decide whether you want to commit to a person or not, then there is something wrong.

[zagor]

I'll let you know if I ever am in one that lasts 3 months. 6 weeks is my record.

[qwerty2469]

Three month rule? If I haven't fucked them 3 days before dating them they aren't even in my thoughts.

[Phoenix98]

Never heard of the 3 month rule.

[msc545]

What the hell does "commit" mean?

[Sevenpointfive]

maybe you like them so much you'd be willing to commit a serious crime with them?

[noohair]

I never got the rulebook. Is it on Amazon?

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I never had a relationship.

[SamWinchester058]

Seems wise.