So my ex-boyfriend and I broke up almost 2 months ago. We have not spoken in a month and a half. He ended it with me and we dated for 2 years. I still have some of his things at my house. He also has some things of mine as well. Two days ago I sent him a text saying
"Hey, hope you are doing okay. I’m reaching out to talk about exchanging items with each other. I have a couple of things that are of yours. (I proceed to say what I have that is his) I also would like my spare key back as well. Let me know if I have anything else that is mine you want me to have. Let me know and we can talk about a plan and compromise what works for both of us. Thanks"
Anyway, he read the message and has not responded at all. This breakup has been hard for both of us but I am tired of all the things that I have because of him.
What do I do?
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I'd say just give him some more time to respond, luv. Breakups are tough and he may not be ready to deal with exchanging stuff yet. A few options:
- Wait a week or two then send another friendly text saying you need to sort this out and asking when would work for him. Give a specific day in mind.
- If still no reply, you could try calling instead of texting. Maybe hearing your voice will prompt a response better than writing.
- As a last resort, gather all his stuff you have and drop it off in a public place he'll see it, like leaving a box on his porch with a note saying "your things." Gets the job done without direct contact.
But I'd try to be understanding - he may be avoiding your stuff cos it stirs up emotions still. Just make it clear you're not looking to rehash things, you just need closure on getting your property back too.
Maybe leave the ball in his court by saying let you know when he's ready to sort it. Trying not to pressure him could work better than constant follow ups. Stay chill, it'll work out!
Put them in a box and mail them. If he has organs of yours, send a demand letter. Your last resort is to file in small claims court.
do nothing just wait