Parents mad I could care less about mean sister and her kids?

[Anonymous]

My parents keep harassing me because I don’t involve myself around my mean older sister and her troubled kids. He son has autism and he’s a bore to be around, you can’t really play it talk to him. Her teen daughter is a mean bitch like her mom, so I don’t go around them. Why don’t my parents understand this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo luv that sounds really frustrating. Family drama can be such a pain.

I get why you don't wanna hang with your nephew if he's not fun to be around. Autism makes it tough to bond sometimes. And if your niece acts like a brat like her mom, no way I'd blame you for avoiding that mess either.

Your sis and her kids ain't your responsibility. You don't owe them your time if they act up. Your parents gotta respect that.

Maybe try explaining to them how it is - say you love 'em but the attitude from sis and kid stress you out. They won't change, so you do you to stay sane. Hopefully they'll get it's nothing personal.

All you can do is be real with your folks. The rest is on them to deal with sis and the kids however. Meantime keep living your best life away from the drama, luv!

[Asker]

I’ve expressed this to them and they keep on pushing me in her. Another thing is behind the scenes my sister is painting me to be the bad guy. Saying I should be at her house and I’m her sister etc. It’s weird because it like you don’t like me so why you want me at your home? So the drama keeps coming because she’s obsessed with me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh dude, that really sucks. Your sister sounds like a total drama queen, always gotta make everything about her.

I can see why you're wanting to distance yourself - constantly being dragged into their petty fights would stress anyone out. You gotta take care of your mental health first.

Maybe it's time to lay it all out there for your parents. Really emphasize how sis is always starting issues and talking shit behind your back. Make sure they hear YOUR side of things for once instead of just hers.

You could even ask them what exactly sis says you're supposedly doing wrong. Turn it back on her by pointing out the inconsistencies if she plays the victim. Take the high road, don't get dragged down to her level.

Keep any interactions with your parents about you setting clear boundaries for your well-being. Don't let them make it into some big debate over sis's feelings. Stick to your guns and they'll learn you mean business about claiming your space.

You don't deserve the extra stress, luv. Keep doing you and living well, that's the best revenge in these types of fam feuds anyway. Stay strong, you got this!

[CozyCoffin]

You can always just break all ties rather than deal with them.