Girl why do you try to be friends with your exs after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

Why do girls try to be friends after a breakup?

[McKellar]

My ex fiancée wanted that as well with me. She wanted to break up and just remain friends. I can understand she would still care about me and keep me in her life and everything would be fine and great between her and I,... in that perspective. I know in her perspective anyway.

Considering after she broke up with me and just wanted to remain friends and that's it,... since my feelings for her were WAY WAY too strong for her just to go back being friends, I just couldn't do it. Even in the now, I still can't do it. Was this experience recent? No. This happened about 17 years ago. From 2005 to 2006.

For some couples, that can be achievable. For others or for the most part of things, I'm sorry ladies, but in a realistic sense and for the most part... you just can't expect that. I know this terrible and saddening experience had greatly impacted me that much to the point where that changed me to a different kind of person that I don't like but unfortunately I'm stuck that way and nothing won't change.

[Somoneelse]

Because it sounds easier than letting the person go. My ex also wanted to stay friends after we broke up. Simply because we also started as friends. But no week or two later the contact got cut off by her and she "moved on" with other guys.

[RavenDarkheart]

I don’t, normally (for me) break ups are for a reason. Staying friends with him would only be putting up with more of what ever it was.

Best example I can think of, my first ex in school when I was 16. Got my when he thought I was letting some other guy flirt with me while I was in another class while he was in JROTC. (His friends who didn’t like me saw me working in a group for a project, and turned that into me letting the guy almost touch me in class.) Anyway, long story short he confronts me, I deny it, he gives me a black eye and a whole mess with authorities in and out of school later he finally sees it in his best interest to never even think about coming around me.

[Angxl3120]

I've had contact with my ex for a long time, we dont talk everyday, we dont sext or something.

Its just that we can't just ghost one of the best persons in our lives, we didn't break up because it didn't work or something, it was because he had to move to another state and we weren't financially stable to have a long distance relationship and go meet up with a 700 pounds plane ticket.

Just to be sure he's the only ex i have contact with, other exes do try to get in a sexual relationship but that never works, so I just dont

[Paris13]

Fo rMe, I Want Us to Be In Each other's Lives. Still. Maybe Not so Much Official Anymore, But As a Small Bond Yet. Been Nearly Five Years We Have Been "Together" and Just Now... Getting on The Same Page with No Rage. Silly... But True. xxoo

[devilish-cutie]

often they care about the person and want them in their life but romantically it didn't work out

Also they could just say it to keep therelationship nice but have no intent to hang out as friends

Third, they may wanna keep you as an option

[JHAYES317]

That last part is why I would not feel comfortable with a girlfriend remaining friends with their ex

[In_Trance]

They do this to save face.
They've just done one of the most horrible things humanly possible and they never want to be perceived as a bad person.
So they mask it with a good thing; offering friendship.
The reality is you're not friends and you're never going to be. It makes it even worse when one or both of you have a new partner in your life

[WhitneySnow]

Because we like having friends and we probably still want him in our life in some capacity as long as he didn’t do anything horrible like cheat on us

[JHAYES317]

Ok but you can be friends with people who you aren’t attracted to…

[WhitneySnow]

@JHAYES317 there’s no reason two people who are attracted to each other (or were once attracted to each other) can’t be just friends

[JHAYES317]

In my experience it’s not possible unless one of them is lesbian or gay

[bobalife]

It’s the opposite for me. Usually they wanna maintain some connection, friendship, or still get a chance I guess.

[LaurenM1997]

I am never friends with an ex it’s a recipe for disaster and in the long run I’ll just get hurt again

[JacobJordan]

Because that ex is their fall back plan if they can't find someone else. Most guys have realized that which is why they move on expeditiously

[douride2]

Why do you generalize? I am not friends with any of my exes. Most of my friends are the same.

[KrakenAttackin]

Ideally they would like to put him back into the orbiting beta zone. He can still provide resources and validation, but she owes him no loyalty.

[laly520]

never tried that
an ex rarely would make a good friend

[SolitarySolace]

They want to leave the door open. This is why men need to keep that door bolted shut.

[Nikki1989]

Because they are friends. Not complicated.

[JHAYES317]

Except you had sex in the past so that does make it complicated…

[LiamJHayden]

People might get along but just not have a romantic spark.

[SotiCoto]

I think a better question is why my ex-wife wanted to befriend all of my other exes.

[KittygosMeoWW]

I tried because we have a child but we don’t talk anymore

[Jmmmfi4]

THEY'RE DUMBASSES

[Anonymous]

Because humans are creatures of habit. I see love as no more than a habit. Take a glass from an alcoholic and prepare for doom

[myloveforuisinfinte]

Yeah that's weird. A ex is a ex for a reason.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No..

[Roudyrebel8]

I don't usually