If boyfriend, wants a three some then he does not love you! Break up and Divorce them! True or False?

[RoseySarah]

This also applies to gfs! If they want it early on in the relationship!

Hear several of my friend friends say this and I fully agree. Years latter maybe not but really on it is a huge red flag! True or false!

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100% True

False

Depends but not a healthy sign.

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This is about quickly wanting a 3 some in the honeymoon phase! Not latter on in the relationship.
The point if the relationship when your supposed to not want to share!

[Summeroflove]

Doing this will RUIN your relationship. Even if it’s fun at first. It will RUIN it sooner or later. Anyone whose doinf this and claims they’re happy are usually lying. They aren’t and the way they say it tells. Maybe they have moments of intense pleasure. But long term they’re miserable.

They broke the sacred bond of being married to one another. The same thing with cheating. Maybe someone doesn’t notice at first but it will spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and in many other ways BREAK someone.

[Anonymous]

True. It means he doesn't care about your feelings and when a guy loves a girl, he might occasionally THINK about other girls sexually, but can and would suppress acting on it because he is in love with his girlfriend. Basically means he's selfish and thoughtless.

[RoseySarah]

So once through the honeymoon phase he would just give up trying to not look.

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, love means continuing devotion and respect.

[Jennz6]

You’re a wossy

[Opinion Owner]

@Jennz6 naw, just a romantic

[Jennz6]

Lots of guys love a 3-some, why not try it 💕💯

[RoseySarah]

Early on not like 3 years latter. When he should just be focused on you! Not dreaming of other girls.

[Jennz6]

@roseysarah are the girls bisexual?

[RoseySarah]

Not for this question Jennz6

[DizzyDesii]

He may love you but he's not committed. Breakup

[RoseySarah]

Agree especially if mentioned early!

[razelove]

Anyone can want anything they want. I want a copy of my wife as my ultimate fantasy. It's never going to happen, but it's what I want.

Pretty much every guy wants more than one woman (or more of who they're with), like every woman wants more attention than they're getting. The dividing line is having the looks, charisma, and resources to get those desires, and fulfill those fantasies.

I'd say it's something to be concerned about if a partner starts blaming you for their inability to fulfill their own fantasies. That's when you need to hit the ground running, especially if it's early on in a relationship.

Until recently with having a family, my relationships have been the dynamic of being with multiple women, usually one stable anchor with multiple women rotating out, solo time and threesomes.

As long as you respect another person's autonomy, and don't expect them to find partners for you, I don't see a problem.

[JacobJordan]

At no stage of a relationship is a threesome healthy. 100% of relationships that have a threesome end. It may not be the only cause of the relationship ending but it contributes.

[RoseySarah]

Great answer why do you think that?

[JacobJordan]

Because there are no relationships that have had that that survived. It isn't a thought, it is a fact. Their is a reason why promiscuity in general makes for horrible relationships. A threesome is even worse.

[velvetheart]

Where did you get that statistic from? 😅

[JacobJordan]

@velvetheart you go ahead and find a relationship that has survived a threesome. As of today not one has managed it. Be stupid if you want doesn't change reality.

[RoseySarah]

Still looking for one

[JacobJordan]

She'll find one eventually if only to try and prove me wrong. I have no doubt there is some obscure random man or woman that managed to not fall apart as a result. As the saying goes there is always a chance no matter how small.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Wants one like just as some innocent fantasy never realized with no plans or real interest to make it happen or wants one as in serious about making it happen? That distinction is very important to me.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

For example, I have a fantasy of putting on a cape and becoming a superhero vigilante like Batman. But I don't really want to do it and will never do it. It's just an innocent kind of fantasy that's exciting to think about.

[RoseySarah]

Good point maybe I'll put that as an option in the next question!
If he tries to have one vs he fantasies

[RoseySarah]

But also I said early on in the relationship when he is supposed to only focus on you and are in love

Not some day he wants one for dreams

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I have a very shallow kind of fantasy of an FFM threesome that way, but I don't actually want it on a deeper level and would never even attempt to make it happen. I figure it wouldn't actually be a good thing; it might mess up my relationship with my wife which I consider so precious (not to mention that it would be a violation of my wedding vow).

If I use another analogy, one dumb side of me "wants" to eat an entire large pepperoni pizza. But the deeper side doesn't and won't, because I don't have the metabolism these days. I try to eat a whole large pepperoni pizza now in my 40s and I'll feel sick and regret it for the rest of the day. 😅 So I can both "want" and "don't want" something at the same time.

[Jennz6]

@GuyAnswersGirls123 put it in the wedding vows

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Jennz6 It's actually something I don't really want when I think of the possible consequences. I might relate it to some women who have rape fantasies and enjoy reading Harlequin novels where they might have had sex without consent. I doubt they actually want to be raped; it's just like an interesting fantasy that we never want to turn into a reality.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Jennz6 [*] and enjoy reading Harlequin novels where [the female protagonist, sorry] might have had sex without consent.

[Jennz6]

@GuyAnswersGirls123 sure thing

[Paige90]

I did a threesome two times with my college boyfriend and at first, I didn't understand why he wanted me to have sex with another guy (it was a mfm) but it made our relationship much stronger.

[JHAYES317]

How?

[Kelley1]

I really don't know. I guess it depends on the parties.

[petitedollbabee]

False, but mostly depends on the relationship. Not everyone is monogamous, and for some non-monogamous couples, threesomes can be really healthy and fun experiences that strengthen their bond.

[RoseySarah]

Along with key parties lmao

[IslaTheWitch]

there is a huge difference between wanting (having fantasies) and doing it without agreement. Only wanting is OK...

[RoseySarah]

This is early on honeymoon phase though. Not 3 years together bored bad sex.

[IslaTheWitch]

fantasies don't wait for relationship to mature, lol

Everyone is different. As long as it stays in fantasy world I don't mind

[BoopBoopBeep]

@IslaTheWitch
Not just this question, but in general, thank you for having a healthy outlook on sex. Just saying.

[IslaTheWitch]

@BoopBoopBeep thank you :D

[Candymtf]

I don't see the problem if the two are really comfortable with each other and also both love the third person.

[RoseySarah]

So a love triangle? So tv lol and no one ends up together!

[Candymtf]

I know some Mormons are into that and have been married to multiple wives all their adult lives

[RoseySarah]

And are very toxic too... Yeah ran into a few sister wives all make tlc look tame

[NathanDavis]

absolutely false... like any other generalization

what works for some, might not work for some others... truth is threesomes are not for everyone

[RoseySarah]

Funny these answers always come from the same people.

[NathanDavis]

well... why would I change my opinion all the time, lol

or others... people usually keep their opinion unchanged, no?

or did you mean to refer to me as "that kind of people" ?

[RoseySarah]

The phrasing

[NathanDavis]

I still don't get it... but alright

[rosemilk]

yep that's true

[RoseySarah]

Yup and why do you think it's true?

[Nikki1989]

1000% false, but it depends on the threesome itself. We would never have a threesome with another man, and NEVER with people we don't know too well.

[Summeroflove]

Not to be rude. But you would do it with another woman?

[WhitneySnow]

I’m pretty sure I agree with you

[RoseySarah]

Thanks and congrats your doing amazing on this site Snow!

[WhitneySnow]

Thanks!

[exitseven]

I think I would like tobtry it just to cross it iff my list.

[JHAYES317]

Not necessarily but I’d understand if you felt dismayed because of that.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I would say 100% true.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

100% true and very disrespecting as well.

[RoseySarah]

So disrespectful

[MissBoogus]

Weve been in relationship for 9 years and recently opened the relationship. No issue.

[Jkgordon]

He most certainly don’t

[Samantha_17]

If it's an MMF then I would be in!!! :D

[Jennz6]

@samantha_17 yess, that’s fun too 💕💃💯

[RoseySarah]

Lmao then something might be wrong with him!
Wanting to share you! Early on

[Samantha_17]

What if I want him to share me? :D

[Jennz6]

@roseysarah
@samantha_17
Good answer, maybe I want him to share me too

[JHAYES317]

If you want him to share you, then y’all shouldn’t be in monogamous relationships

[ab2shifty]

This got me thinking 🤣

[RoseySarah]

About what

[ab2shifty]

The question..