Is it true if you have sex with a boyfriend he won’t marry you and if you get married guy will never leave you or cheat on you? ?

[Sugar100]

My mom would tell me this as a child and now as an adult. She said you can never have sex with a boyfriend, or he won’t marry you. If you get married man will stay forever with you. Yet I see people divorced single moms, and I doubt girls date a guy 10 years then get married. I know relationships last many years with a guy before marriage unless you are lucky or want marry fast after dating a guy only 3 months or less than a year. I cannot imagine a relationship with no romance as even a kiss leads to more. A kiss you feel it all over your body and it would be weird just going on fun dates no romance til marriage. It would feel like a buddy and not a lover partner. my mom neevr wants me to have sex and says only she can have sex cuz she’s older and I’m 25/26 little girl.

[caring__1]

It's interesting how many people present their opinion as factual. Do your research and then believe what makes sense to you... not what others indoctrinate you to believe. By doing research, you'll discover none of your mom's opinions are factual.

I've heard multiple women say they were told by their parents: "You're dirty, ugly and smelly, but when you get married, it becomes a beautiful gift to give to your husband." On their wedding night, they looked at themselves and realized they didn't change, so felt someone played an awfully dirty trick on them. They confronted their parents and were told: "You didn't get pregnant, did you? We did what we had to do. If you have a hangup, that's yours to fix." Parents often focus on what's in their best interest, not what's in their child's best interest. Learn from this experience, and don't pass on the selfish parent pattern.

[RavVid]

In the 1950's people married early to solve this problem and the trend to later marriage will bring the conflicts you speak of.

I think there is some truth in what your mom says but obviously some married men do cheat and some boyfriends don't. There is some truth that boys don't feel a need to marry if they are getting what they want.

I'd rate your mom as being somewhat right to mostly right.

I think future boyfriends would be ok with you having had sex with a past boyfriend but not OK with you having a body count of 100 by the time you are 20.

[Sugar100]

Wtf? I have only one boyfriend I never had 100 bfs. I have serious relationship with one guy only. Where did u read I had 100 bfs sex with many guys? I have one boyfriend many years

[Sugar100]

I am only with one guy period. I never have had sex with any other guy. I have only one boyfriend.

[RavVid]

I was answering generically and taking a point to an extreme to make the point, that's all.

[Sugar100]

Okay I thought u were saying I’m having sex with many guys. I neevr said that.

[RavVid]

No I never meant to imply that. I was mostly saying your mom was mostly right in what she is saying.

[Sugar100]

Well I didn’t have sex with boyfriend after first for one year. Neevr got married lol. I think I’ll be the unlucky one and married after I have my first child. I won’t be married before

[Sugar100]

After first date ***

[Sugar100]

Life can’t work perfectly as you want. Life doesn’t turn out the same for everyone.

[RavVid]

Well I hope it does turn out well for you. Everyone is a bit scared of marriage now - I know I am.

[melanieeeB]

Sex with boyfriend and afterwards he won't marry you - bullshit! Some people meet up for a hookup and end up marrying each other. If it fits, it fits.

If you're married he will never cheat - bullshit! If a partner wants to cheat on you, he will. No matter the circumstances.
There are enough married man who go and fuck the hoes in our city (cause one of those hoes is the little sister of a friend of mine)

[melanieeeB]

Don't believe everything that your controlling mother tells you.

[Sugar100]

She is very controlling to point we fight a lot and I live alone but I’m scared of her. If I’m pregnant without marriage now to age 27, she’ll beat me til I’m bloody 😥 she had terrible relationship

[Sugar100]

She’ll prob call me a whore the day I’m
Pregnant at 25-28. Rn I’m 25.

[Sugar100]

One time she said only she can have sex cuz she’s older and I’m a little girl 25. She would even faint if I live with my boyfriend one day.

[melanieeeB]

You're grown woman. Don't let your mom have that much control over you.
I personally would probably take a big distance to her and don't involve her in my personal life too much tbh

[Sugar100]

Yea but she resides like 20 min super close to me so it’s hard live my own life. Like I said wen I’m pregnant now 25 to 28 she’ll beat me til I’m bloody stalk my address & im scared. She’s type beat u if you are 25-28 and pregnant have ur first baby without marriage

[Sugar100]

I can’t move to another state as boyfriend lives sand city as me

[melanieeeB]

My mom lives 4 min away from me and it's possible to have your own life, but you need to set boundaries and stand up against her

[Sugar100]

I do that and she doesn’t change continues not respect me boundaries

[melanieeeB]

Well no what about no contact?

[Sugar100]

I do that like I don’t see or speak to her 2 Months but then I miss her and when I speak to her again we fight soemthing goes wrong

[Guy13]

Neither one of those are true.

[Sugar100]

My mom doesn’t listen to me when I say this she wants continue manipulate my mind I’m 25 she never wants me have sex no babies neevr life with my boyfriend

[Sugar100]

She says a lot of things to manipulate me

[Makeushiver]

#1: Don't ask important questions on here since the most common response would be- what are you a slut? Regardless of whether the question is about men or PB&J. #2: You're in for a world of hurt if you try to characterize 49% of the world population. #3: despite it being primarily a guy's responsibility, don't ever count onn a guy having a condom. If he dioes he'll simply try to make you agree to not forcw him to wear it since it feels better w/o and anyway, if 0you get pregnant he will happily move to the other side of the country. Pay 5% of the total child support you should receive. I'm afraid you're going to judge eah person on their own merits and you are going to need to live with consequences. Fair? No. True? Yes.

[Sugar100]

What the hell are u talking about? I’m not talking of sex I’m just asking is it true if you have sex with your boyfriend then he won’t marry u? I’m my boyfriend many years. I never had 100 bfs. Just one guy same guy that’s it. I want to know if there are any women who neevr had sex and got married or is what my mom says not true?

[Sugar100]

I know some couples have baby live together and married til few years AFTER having a baby.

[SlothySlob]

What she says makes some sense.
If you fuck a guy before marriage he most probably got what he wanted, so why even stay.
If you don't fuck before marriage, sure you might have to date a lot of guys, but the guys who'd wait are the ones who'd be willing to be with you, in other words they'd actually love you.

[Sugar100]

But it’s impossible date a guy 10 years without sex then marry. Not everyone gets married fast in one day. dating same guy can be few years. So I don’t believe in that.

[SlothySlob]

So you want to have sex, not be in a relationship.
Look, I don't think that your mom forbid you from having sex with people. Just don't expect that the guy who you let fuck you will stay.

[Sugar100]

No I have a boyfriend im in a relationship, u are not reading corectly what I am saying

[Sugar100]

Wtf I don’t want sex with people. I have a boyfriend I’m in a relationship

[Anonymous]

Not always true. At least not in this day and age. Maybe when y your mom was your age the statistics on that may have been good, but these days no. I do believe though if you have sex w a man and give him children he probably won’t marry you. He gets all the benefits of a relationship w out having to get married.

[Sugar100]

I know some couples have baby first then after few girls get married?

[Sugar100]

I just think you have to be lucky to be married have perfect life.

[Sugar100]

It’s like saying being married u will never be cheated on or divorced. U will still be cheated on while married or divroced single mom.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s why I mentioned he probably wouldn’t. I didn’t say all men won’t marry a girl like that.

[Opinion Owner]

Perfect life in what sense?

[Sugar100]

U say he prob wouldn’t but I know many girls that have baby first then after guy does marry here. So what u r saying isn’t true. Think u either need be lucky or goody goody guy to be married or super religious

[Opinion Owner]

Ok you may know many girls but that’s the exception to the rule. Exceptions to the rule don’t override what is statistically true. Again I didn’t say all men, yes some may get married. I don’t think you need to be lucky. You just need to work on yourself individually to be able to attract people. So I take it you’re not married? Have kids?

[Sugar100]

I have a boyfriend But no kids not married yet.

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you two been together? Does he plan on marrying you?

[MadAndBankrupt]

True, As an Arab and a Muslim If I ever slept with a Girl (not married to) which I will never will, I will never respect Her, Me or our relationship.

If I ever made such a mistake, I would like to run from it as much as I can ( leave her and forget the whole thing.

This is my personal opinion and I like to be honest.

[Sugar100]

My mom married my dad and he cheat on her while married and pregnant beat her.

[MadAndBankrupt]

I’m not saying married People don’t cheat, What I’m saying is that Unmarried people are the ones who would most likely cheat and leave because They aren’t mentally tied to the relationship

[Sugar100]

So that’s not true marriage makes u respect someone forever

[Sugar100]

That’s not true I have seen many loyal bfs. Ik many husbands cheat a stupud contract cannot tie you down at all it’s just a paper you can still cheat

[MadAndBankrupt]

It does make you respect your partner forever because that partner have chosen to be with you in every way.
Look, what happened between your mom and dad isn’t something that is going to happen to you.
You just need to choose the right way of things

[MadAndBankrupt]

You know why?
Because they slept with a lot of women before, They are used to being fuckboys
I’m 26 years old and a virgin by choice ut I learned from this is that I can control myself and learn to appreciate a partner

[Sugar100]

I think marriage is overrated.

[MadAndBankrupt]

Lets agree to disagree.
You’re losing a lot, I genuinely feel sad for you

[Sugar100]

Just know many people r divorced single moms. Don’t get angry marriage isn’t perfect as it seems. You only stay together forever if you are lucky

[MadAndBankrupt]

Other people’s experiences aren’t yours, You have your own personal experiences.
Them getting cheated on doesn’t mean that you’re going to get cheated on.
Lets just stop here because it’s obvious that you have trust issues

[Sugar100]

I was cheated on once while married

[MadAndBankrupt]

Sorry to hear that, you have to know that the next person doesn’t have to be the same..
I just don’t want you to lose hope
Life is beautiful, don’t waste it on negative emotions
If someone is going to cheat on, he’s going to cheat on you wether you’re married or not.
But marriage is beautiful because it shows how two people are willing to commit

[Sugar100]

I don’t want comitt to a stupid contract stuck with a guys last lame. You don’t need a paper to stay with the person you live

[Sugar100]

Love

[MadAndBankrupt]

It’s forbidden in my religion and culture to name a wife after her husband, its a sin.

[Anonymous]

That's very outdated advice. It doesn't apply anymore because women have made casual sex the norm, so very few guys are going to wait until marriage to have sex.

Keep in mind too that the institution of marriage is dying, and women are killing it.

I can't tell you what you personally should do with that information, but those are the facts.

[Sugar100]

My mom has said that too but when I met my boyfriend we didn’t have sex one year. Nothing got serious til we had sex and we began dating. He did wait a year but we didn’t marry lol I just think u have to be lucky to be married to a boyfriend fast In one month or u find a goody goody guy that will marry fast and have sex til after marriage.

[driven159]

having sex before married does not mean that it will fail the number one reason marriages don't work out is because of finances not sex that is way down the list.

[Preeti161101]

So complicated to decide 😛

[Bizimortam]

Married people cheat too

[Sugar100]

I keep telling that to my mom and she doesn’t want admit it’s true.

[Sugar100]

My moms toxic very controlling. She wants me be goody goody girl never hav sex be perfect Angel never live with boyfriend , only she can have sex & never have baby. No tatoos. I live alone & have tattoos I’m 25 & sadly have bad relationship with my mom. We fight 24/7

[Bizimortam]

You can have sex with whoever you want, don't look at anyone, be free

[Bizimortam]

Mothers can't always tell the truth

[Sugar100]

I have a boyfriend. I’m in a relationship. But I’ll be the one with bad luck not married while everyone else got goody goody guy and got married fast no sex

[Sugar100]

Eveyone in family is married cuz they are older than me 30-40 and I’m 25. Only goody goody men got married to them and don’t have sex with them. It’s rare to find men like that. After first date I don’t. Have sex with for one year. I’m not married lol and we began getting serious and dating til after sex. So you have to be lucky to get married with a guy fast and neevr have sex as boyfriend girlfriend

[Bizimortam]

Are your boyfriends dating you just to fuck you?

[Bizimortam]

Does your boyfriend live with you?

[Sugar100]

All women have babies , how do they get pregnant have babies? No we love each other wtf are u talking about. A guy that only wants sex would dump you after first date or want one night stand only.

[Sugar100]

I have one boyfriend!!! Don’t u fucking read? I neevr said I have 100 bfs. Stop talking please

[Sugar100]

Stop talking about sex!! I’m in a serious relationship. I just asked this question to know if it’s true that all men date girl 10 years and never have sex then marry. I just wanted ask to see if it’s true or not

[Bizimortam]

Does she introduce you to her family or spend time outside with you?

[Sugar100]

OBVIOUSLY I SAID IM IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP!!!

[Bizimortam]

It's so sad that your family is against you, I wish they were supportive

[Sugar100]

They r very. Strict goody goody religious parents and don’t know many women have babies before marriage and really think men wait for sex til after marriage. Like you date girl 10 years then marry no sex

[Sugar100]

They don’t even know I have tattoos. I just have a small heart tatoo and a rose. They would beat me til I’m covered in blood if they saw that and I’m 25/26 soon

[Sugar100]

I’m 25. Soon 26

[Bizimortam]

So, did you want to move to a separate house yourself or did your family want it?

[Sugar100]

Well I’m older I want my own apartment , soon have my baby in my new life new chapter with boyfriend. I won’t be 26-40 living with mom. I’m a women I don’t need mom cook for me daily like men do

[Sugar100]

Also my parents don’t have a home and divorced they fight daily so when I was a baby you can’t run away but now as an adult I can finally run away no longer see or hear fighting daily across the room.

[Bizimortam]

So are you satisfied with your life?

[Sugar100]

Why are u asking this? Lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's all untrue