Is it true you need to be married to sleep in the same bed with a guy?

[Sugar100]

The one guy I dated in my entire life he would get mad & say we aren’t married & blow up & deny sleepover at my place, deny sleep in the same bed, & deny live together.
One time we stayed at a hotel together & he ordered 2 separate beds. 🙁

the new guy I’m seeing that’s long distance , on the first day we met he sleep in the same bed with me & I felt so happy blissful as he’s first guy to sleep with me & it was my dream, felt like we were married as it was an Airbnb house & we both left together to get food. I will see him again & he agree to sleepover with me.

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We’ll i meant a boyfriend , lover, partner whatver u want to call it.

[Finchie40]

Yea the first guy you mentioned was a complete asshole and sadly just using you for sex and nothing more , he just liked the convenience of you. A guy that really likes a girl? , wants her by his side as much as possible , especially in bed. If a girl told me she wanted separate beds that I was in a relationship with , she better be prepared to be single again

[Sugar100]

Wish I knew sooner back then, and dumped him sooner. This happened becuz i neevr had a first boyfriend so I got bad luck by meeting this guy when I was 18 instead of a good guy. I could have been married at 24 & now 27 have a baby. Now I’m 27 soon & never had a boyfriend due to that guy. Time wasted. I hope this new guy is the one

[Sugar100]

I don't know yet if this new guy wants me by his side as much as possible as it’s long distance so hard to tell.

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to hear that but join the club , I had my fair share of bad seeds as well that destroyed my heart. So it’s a learning experience in ourselves to never fall for shit like that again , Me personally can not stand negative people , that have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves , I no longer tolerate girls’ that do not have a good heart , good personality and good morals , of if I sense she is a selfish person? I kick her ass to the curb , Life is too short to be with someone that is rude and disrespectful to you period. So you will hopefully meet your knight in shining armor one day , all you can do is keep trying and set your preferences to what you will accept and not accept? Just don’t set them way to high lol

[Finchie40]

The long distance guy sounds like a good seed so far for you so don’t give up on that , long distance can be hard but it can work as well if you both choose to make it work

[Sugar100]

The only guy I met in my life that wanted be my boyfriend, marry me, follow me everyday, meet family, was a guy in Ireland. We didn’t meet December 2023 as I didn’t want to live in Ireland 15 hrs away too far.

Then that same month my crush at job got rehired & we finally met & talked and he also had a crush on me & he was a guy I loved deeply, we had a deep spiritual special connection & I felt he is my soulmate but we didn’t exhange numebrs fast as we are shy & we got fired.
I don't know if god will make us both rehired one day & reunite.
But this other long distance guy he looks & acts identical to my crush which is weird creepy.

[Sugar100]

So I kinda did encounter my soulmates decmeber 2023.

[Finchie40]

If it’s meant to be it’s meant to be , Life definitely puts us on a rollercoaster ride for sure and love usually happens unexpectedly for most people. So all we can do is try. If the guy you are dating now reminds you of your crush than that’s a good thing , and you are best to let that crush go , because if he really wanted to be with you he would of reached out to you by now , so you are best just to move on and bury him

[Sugar100]

We’ll we r fired so there’s no way for him to even find me.

[Finchie40]

Well you both know each others’ names right?

[Summeroflove]

Look. Blowing up isn’t the right thing to do. Some people aren’t compatible and that’s okay. Sometimes people need to learn to move on and find someone whose a better fit, then force someone else to change.

Anyways, if you’re a Christian. Sleeping in the same bed isn’t sex. The problems can arise if temptation does. But that’s between you and God.

[jjr23]

each person decides based on parents, religion customs and morals and the person there with and how long. now your alluding to just sleep a thing different to having sex just sleeping next to a person is a benign action and cad be simple as rest and might feel real nice. now sex adds emotion and complications, pregnancy can result in any insertion, sexually transmitted diseases minor uti to serious hpv HIV and about 12 others. and many emotional and hopefully your of legal age as well as rejection
it can be complicated so serious thought should be done before sex the first time

[DannyUk2017]

Is NOT true! That must have been A Muslim guy! Or Turkish, etc... they pretend to "keep" a clean relationship until marriage, when they are the ones that HIT on their... daughters, nieces, aunties, etc... So all that "sincere angelic, protective face" is just for the "show" in nothing more than Brainwashing! 🤷‍♂️

[Sugar100]

I meant like we would have sex & he would deny sleep over or sleep in same bed with me

[DannyUk2017]

Wow... ok... Now that's weird...🤔

[Mark987]

2024... NO... I have actually slept in my bed with women that we didn't even have sex the first time... just cuddled talked the whole night. It's up to the man and woman to decide what they want. Of course it's hard to sleep in the same bed without having sex, but it is possible.

[Sugar100]

No I meant that guy would have sex with me & deny sleepover deny sleep in same bed he would get angry & say we aren’t married as excuse to do nothing serious with me

[Mark987]

So you would have sex but not sleepover?

[Sugar100]

Yes but I would be sad & confused at that time why other guys do sleepover with their girlfriend and not that guy. So I would feel very empty & cry. But that’s because I never had a boyfriend so I have no idea what a real comited boyfriend is like.

[Sugar100]

That’s y I made those mistakes & don’t dump him sooner

[Billlewis]

No. In fact, sleeping in the same bed with a guy with whom you're not having sex with can be an excellent method of conditioning him to want sex with you all the time.

[Sugar100]

I feel a good serious boyfriend should sleep in the sae bed with you unlike the first guy I dated he would be an asshole & get mad & say we aren’t married. It would be too serious for him to sleep in a bed together. He was a fuckboy

[Lliam]

I never heard of NOT sleeping in the same bed with a girlfriend. Of course, we had lots of sex, too.

[Sugar100]

Yea that first guy was a fuckboy , getting mad about wanting sleep in same bed together. Glad the new guy is different.

[Sugar100]

Even by wanting to live together or meet his mom he would deny & get mad & use we aren't married excuse to deny that

[Lliam]

That's weird. I always met my girlfriend's families. It was no big deal. I would bring my girlfriends home. So they met my parents. I even brought them to large family gathers. It wasn't an indication that we were getting married or anything.

Honestly, I wasn't interested in getting married when I was young, but I liked having a steady girlfriend. They were loyal and so was I. I preferred exclusive, monogamous relationships.

[Sugar100]

My dream is meet a guys family attend fmaily parties with a boyfriend. I’m 26 and it hasn’t came true. Men act like they’ll die if we meet family & act as if we’ll get married that second 🙄

[Sugar100]

I don't know if the new guy will ask me to meet his family or not

[Lliam]

I just treated my girlfriends as girlfriends. They were my date to a get together or whatever. They were my plus one.
I really liked being with my girlfriends and was proud to be with them.

But yeah, it's not like meeting parents meant we were getting married. Nobody said "When's the wedding."

[Sugar100]

Yea I never have a plus one, no guy is proud of me. ☹️ , no one is proud stand Nexf to me show me off to his family

[FunkyMonkee]

Absolutely not! Marriage and religion are man-made things! We were fucking each other for centuries before marriage was invented.

[Sugar100]

No I meant like we would have sex & he would deny sleep over or sleep in same bed with me

[FunkyMonkee]

See my answer.

[pierre7i]

I am pleased for you @Sugar100, and I hope he treats you well and gives you the love you are seeking, and deserve

[NathanDavis]

guess I did it very wrong...

very, very wrong

[Makeushiver]

Yes, it's part of the user manual that comes with bed. Also it is illegal to remove tags

[Bklynbadboy12]

You don't have to be but it's the right thing to do

[Anonymous]

You don't have to; but it is usually best to wait for marriage in the long run for your relationship.

[HawkPerception]

That's very obviously not true.

[Kelly6]

@Sugar100 Not at all

[Anonymous]

This is sad on so many levels.

[Sugar100]

What’s sad?

[Opinion Owner]

Your story just sounds so lonely to me.

[Sugar100]

But now I have new guy that’s long distance I’m traveling rn to see him, I might seehim this weekend.

[Sugar100]

Yea I’m always lonely I never had guy with me 24/7 with me desiring follow me everywhere

[Opinion Owner]

You touch my heart. I really hope you find happiness with this guy.

[Sugar100]

I hope he’s the one

[Opinion Owner]

So do I but I worry about you because you're so inexperienced. I don't like thinking about you getting fooled by some guy.

[Sugar100]

Yea i never had a boyfriend. I don't know what a relationship is like. This new guy is younger than me tho

[Opinion Owner]

I hope you will be careful and not rush in too fast. Spend time together before you invest your heart. Make sure he is the one. You are understandably anxious to have a relationship. But there are a lot of people out there who are not so sincere. You should spend more time with him before giving away your heart so you don't get hurt.

[Sugar100]

Yea it’s hard as I’ll be 27 and never had a relationship I’m yearning for it

[Sugar100]

It shud be my time already I shudnt need suffer longer

[Sugar100]

How I’ll know he’s the one?

[Sugar100]

That’s y I’m going to see him this weekend, to spend time.

[Opinion Owner]

You are so sweet... I really hope it works out for you. All the best and be careful!

[andy530]

Nope

[eagle1951]

heck no